To fancy men with big bellies?

[bigbellyliker]

I have a 'thing' for men with big bellies. Always have. DH has one. I'm always touching it, looking at it etc, I've no idea why I like it. 🤨🤨

I often worry that there's something wrong with me. I never, ever would attempt to manipulate anyone like those 'feeder' documentaries you see on TV. It's not about food, I just fancy men with big bellies in general. I know it's unhealthy to store fat there and I feel guilty about that. But I can't help liking it. It's like a fetish.

AIBU?

Also, don’t feel awkward about it op. I read once on the internet ‘you can’t argue with a boner’. Very American, and very male-centric, but the sentiment behind it is very true.

@paintedfences

I’m one of your people op.

at it being about control. Liking a physical attribute, whatever that is, does not equal being an abusive dick. Yeesh.

Tbh, the creepiest couple behaviour I've seen around weight was when a (very slim) woman I know was messing around with a tape measure from a Christmas cracker (a quite short one). She managed to get it round her waist and her husband said, in a low growl, "good girl" 🤢🤢🤢. He's a policeman as well and she is a doctor.

Third hand story I once heard about was a really overweight woman at a beach who was treating her very slim (skinny) husband like an animal, making him crawl around and ask for food, which she then refused. So fucking grim. Clearly a control / power fetish for them.

Anywho, just pointing out that weird, controlling behaviour can be used against the very slim.

I don't think you can say that someone liking chunkier bodies is automatically controlling, in the same way thay you can't say someone liking very muscular bodies or very slim bodies is automatically controlling either. And tbh, ime, men who tend love a very slim woman, love a very obedient woman too. But that definitely doesn't mean that all men who prefer slim women are controlling. That would be a ridiculous assertion to make.

Maybe you like the big bellies because a man with fat gut subconsciously makes you feel better about yourself/your own body?

Each to their own

I'm a bit of an arm and shoulder person. The bigger the better

Oh yuck OP! YANBU but to me this is the equivalent of being attracted to people with BO or long dirty finger nails 🤢🤢

at it being about control. Liking a physical attribute, whatever that is, does not equal being an abusive dick. Yeesh.

I do think men who prefer women to wear their hair long are more likely to be "traditional" in their attitudes.

@SerenDippitty

at it being about control. Liking a physical attribute, whatever that is, does not equal being an abusive dick. Yeesh.

I do think men who prefer women to wear their hair long are more likely to be "traditional" in their attitudes.

Yes, I have found men who have a fairly rigid "type" which is quite traditional, are often traditional in other ways too. So men who only like long, blonde, straightened hair on women, regardless of their natural hair type etc I think sometimes also fall into the traditionalist category.

Absolutely NOT saying that all women with long, blonde, straightened hair are dressing for men btw, or that all their male partners are "traditionalists" when it comes to relationships though, it's just something which I think can be quite common, especially when men say they would only ever date blondes or whatever.

I am blonde myself btw, mainly natural and I don't think my DH and I have a traditional / old fashioned relationship.

I also think some of it is low confidence in men, when they say they would never go out with someone who didn't fit their very narrow, archetypal, British ideal of femininity.

Bit of a derail there, sorry! But it is an interesting topic.

I’m sure I read that Greg Davies is not very nice IRL, full of self importance, rude to runners on set, that kind of thing.

@19lottie82

I’m sure I read that Greg Davies is not very nice IRL, full of self importance, rude to runners on set, that kind of thing.

That's so disappointing! I always thought he seemed quite funny.

Undoubtedly one of the reasons behind me liking a man with a bit of a gut is that I have one myself! But I like the curve of the tummy and especially if it is hairy. Tbh, the hairy thing is more important to me than the tummy thing.

I don't understand that it could be controlling to fancy someone with a tummy? Surely it is no more controlling than someone saying that they only fancy someone who is slim and well-trained? I.e. not controlling at all.

Ohhh I love a big, cuddly chunk of a man with a snuggly tummy. Plenty of man there to love I say! OP, nothing wrong with that. I find slim men a real turn off.

@CardsforKittens David Harbour! Yes please.

I prefer men who are big and cuddly all over. Nothing worse than a big pot belly and skinny arms and legs.

Give me John Goodman or John Candy any day.

OP I wouldn't worry about it seriously everyone is different and if that's what rocks your boat and you are HAPPY go for it xx

Ooh John Goodman . He is seriously sexy!!

It's not necessarily the big pot 'belly' per se that I like, but I guess it's mainly focused on that. Which is why I feel it borders on an actual fetish.

I also like kind eyes, broad shoulders, hairiness, big hands, nice smile.

If both men and women didn’t find a bit of tummy attractive, there would be a hell of a lot of single people in this country.

I like cuddly men too. Always had a soft spot for Mark Benton.

For what it's worth I've only ever been attracted to men who are shorter than me, preferably also skinny (which I am not!)
It's maybe unusual, like yours, but O wouldn't ever deem it unreasonable - we can't help who we're attracted to!

I'm the opposite. In my dating days I used to love tall, skinny men; my friends used to refer to them as 'the stick insects'

I don't like men who have big flabby bellies,usually caused by overeating crap food, too much beer, or no exercise. They look awful when bare chested,with baggy shorts , and the overhanging paunch, and still look awful in a bulging T shirt.

@OldGreyBoots

Oh no! Tall, dark and broad. I like that DH hugs me and I fit under his chin. I can also wear whatever heels I want (rarely at all anymore though) and he’s still taller than me. I like feeling small next to him.

Had a boyfriend in college who was like an inch taller than me, blonde and super slim. He drove me absolutely crazy. My DH is the opposite of him in every way.

@OldGreyBoots

For what it's worth I've only ever been attracted to men who are shorter than me, preferably also skinny (which I am not!) It's maybe unusual, like yours, but O wouldn't ever deem it unreasonable - we can't help who we're attracted to!

I know some couples where the woman is a lot taller than the man. It's as if opposites really did attract!

Among slebs, there is Jamie Cullum and Sophie Dahl and also Penny Lancaster and Rod Stewart. Definitely, the former couple, he is a lot shorter than her and they make a very beautiful couple.

We like what we like!

@BeingATwatItsABingThing that's funny, the thought of being small next to someone makes me really uncomfortable, especially in a partner scenario! I still wear heels when I feel like it (which isn't often to be honest) and he has no complaints that I'm taller
This is a really good thread, I love everyone's different preferences!

Don't mind short men. I'm short myself and it's nice to be able to look them in the eye without getting a crick in my neck.