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AIBU or is my neighbour?

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StrayDoll · 29/06/2020 00:57

I live on a new build estate where the houses back onto a shared car park. Each house either has a garage and a designated parking space or 2 designated spaces with no garage. I have a garage and one space.

The car park also has a visitor space. In the last few months I've been using this visitor space whenever it's free as my partner has moved in with me and now uses my space (his vehicle is too big to fit in the visitor car port). If the visitor space is being used I use one of my neighbours spare spaces they don't use. This was suggested by them and I'm very grateful however I don't want to take liberties so use the visitor space as much as possible.

There are 8 other houses that share this car park and no one is bothered about me using this space apart from one neighbour. We have had issues in the past which means he is being petty and regularly takes the visitor space if it's free. He has 2 cars, one in the garage and one he keeps on his space. He doesn't need the visitors but does it to wind me up.

As an example I went out earlier for an hour and he jumped straight into the space. When I then went out again he had moved back to his space and luckily I got it back but it made me laugh how petty he was to take it.

AIBU to take it when 7 other households are not bothered and only one is?

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StrayDoll · 29/06/2020 01:21

If my neighbour bought a car just to put there I think it would just be pettiness. If it was a car he actually drove and needed then it would be first come first served.

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thaegumathteth · 29/06/2020 01:23

And then where would you park? That's where you need to park now. That space is not available to you.

ShinyFootball · 29/06/2020 01:24

'I'm not keen on the motorbike in the garden as the small is fairly small anyway and I love lounging out in it. I think a motorbike would sort of kill the vibe iycwim.'

FFS

Get him to get a prettier bike!

Do you do have enough room but you prefer to take the dedicated visitors space.

You're out of order.

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StrayDoll · 29/06/2020 01:25

I really don't think anyone else has an issue. I spoke to a different neighbour today and said 'I've only been gone an hour' and looked at the car in the visitor space and he agreed it was terrible.

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thaegumathteth · 29/06/2020 01:28

Yes people are two faced

I'm 90% certain he won't be the only one fucked off (and rightly so). Tbh though this is probably indicative of your behaviour as a neighbour as a whole which is likely adding fuel to the fire.

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StrayDoll · 29/06/2020 01:29

I have understood I am being unreasonable and will try to avoid taking the space as much. It's just annoying one person with an issue outweighs all the rest without. I have a feeling he'll probably take the space from now on and crow about his win.

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caringcarer · 29/06/2020 01:29

You have a garage and a second space yet you seem to think you should be using the visitor space all of the time. If a person was taken ill and needed an ambulance they would need that space. You need to leave it empty for visitors. I expect it pisses your neighbour off.

You should take motorbike out of garage and park in there like you are supposed to. A motorbike can be kept in bottom of garden or parked in small space in street. YABVU.

ShinyFootball · 29/06/2020 01:30

Most people don't say anything, they seethe quietly.

It's a visitor space. You have a garage and a space. Seriously. You're bang out of order.

PerspicaciaTick · 29/06/2020 01:31

I have no issue with people who are visitors using the space of course.

It sounds as thought the visitors space is pretty much hogged by and your neighbour. It makes no odds to the visitor whether the space is being used by you or your neighbour. Either way it is unavailable to the people it is meant for (clue: it isn't you).

TheBouquets · 29/06/2020 01:34

What stands out for me is that you got a house and then the DP moved in. I presume this means that the house is yours. If that is the case why does DP get to use the driveway and the garage at YOUR house and you are at the mercy of the "petty neighbour". Maybe the neighbour thinks the same as me and is weirdly trying to give you a hint.
Get the motorbike a cover and park it in the garden somewhere and stay out of the other neighbour's space and the visitors' space.
Then look at why you are allowing your DP to take all the parking at your house.

Fattyboom · 29/06/2020 01:39

I'm not keen on the motorbike in the garden as the small is fairly small anyway and I love lounging out in it. I think a motorbike would sort of kill the vibe iycwim.

You are being very unreasonable. Get rid of the bike or deal with having 3 vehicles and two spaces. So park on the road or get rid of one of the vehicles, stop being a selfish fucker who feels that you have some sort of god given right to a visitor space because you have too many vehicles and not enough space. You aren't a visitor, you are a cheeky fucker and most of your neighbours probably hate you for your entitled attitude

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StrayDoll · 29/06/2020 01:41

My partner can't park in the visitors space as he drives a van which won't fit in the space. Even if he didn't have a motorbike it would be a pain to use the garage as sometimes I need to go out in my car which means my DP moving his van, me opening the garage, moving out, locking it and the my DP driving back onto the space. Apart from petty neighbour nobody uses their garage for a car. It's just too much hassle.

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ShinyFootball · 29/06/2020 01:43

It's all about you isn't it.

You have a garage and an allocated space.

It is OUT OF ORDER to use the visitors space as yours.

The majority view on the thread is that you are being a dick.

You can put the bike in the garden but you don't because eyesore.

Listen to yourself.

Fattyboom · 29/06/2020 01:44

Every post makes you sound more unreasonable

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StrayDoll · 29/06/2020 01:44

I think that's maybe why only petty neighbour is bothered as if any of my neighbours have a visitor they can move their car into their garage and leave their space free. Petty neighbour can't do that.

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StrayDoll · 29/06/2020 01:46

I've accepted I'm being unreasonable. As I said it's just annoying when only one person has an issue.

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pictish · 29/06/2020 01:46

Oh get real you cheeky moo.
You don’t get three spaces. You get two. Get your car out of the visitor’s space, it’s not yours.
I think the neighbour is making the point that it’s not your space. He might be being petty but you are being very entitled. You don’t get an extra one so you can reserve the garage for your boyfriend’s bloody motorbike. Fuck sake!

Londongirl888 · 29/06/2020 01:49

You are being very selfish and your problem is closer to home. Your DP should be considerate and not put u in an awkward situation.

You have 2 allocated spaces.

Hope your petty neighbours do not get DPs who require an additional 2 parking spaces.

No that will get petty ......

PerspicaciaTick · 29/06/2020 01:49

Why should I have to go to the hassle of moving my car into my garage so my visitor can use my space, when you are blocking the visitor space because you can't be bothered with the hassle of using your garage?

Fattyboom · 29/06/2020 01:49

But why should all your neighbours be inconvenienced because you don't want to be? Because you are really that selfish that you think that is ok? You are a (fill expletive here)

You are the CF, your neighbour is not petty in the slightest

Twillow · 29/06/2020 01:50

Have you considered that the neighbour who offered you their space did so to alleviate any issues caused by you taking the visitor space?
What happens when your neighbours have visitors, do not have a free space of their own and you are in the visitor space?
I think yabu I'm afraid, though the aggrieved neighbour is being very petty about it!

thaegumathteth · 29/06/2020 01:51

Starting to disbelieve anyone is this much in denial but anyways

Solution
Motorbike in garden
DP van in space
Your car in garden

Done

ShinyFootball · 29/06/2020 01:51

'I think that's maybe why only petty neighbour is bothered as if any of my neighbours have a visitor they can move their car into their garage and leave their space free. Petty neighbour can't do that.'

Jesus.

So they are fucking around moving cars etc. Which you have said you can't be bothered to do which is why you nick the parking space.

ShinyFootball · 29/06/2020 01:52

So basically

You're more important than your neighbours.

Right.

PerspicaciaTick · 29/06/2020 01:52
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