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AIBU or is my neighbour?

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StrayDoll · 29/06/2020 00:57

I live on a new build estate where the houses back onto a shared car park. Each house either has a garage and a designated parking space or 2 designated spaces with no garage. I have a garage and one space.

The car park also has a visitor space. In the last few months I've been using this visitor space whenever it's free as my partner has moved in with me and now uses my space (his vehicle is too big to fit in the visitor car port). If the visitor space is being used I use one of my neighbours spare spaces they don't use. This was suggested by them and I'm very grateful however I don't want to take liberties so use the visitor space as much as possible.

There are 8 other houses that share this car park and no one is bothered about me using this space apart from one neighbour. We have had issues in the past which means he is being petty and regularly takes the visitor space if it's free. He has 2 cars, one in the garage and one he keeps on his space. He doesn't need the visitors but does it to wind me up.

As an example I went out earlier for an hour and he jumped straight into the space. When I then went out again he had moved back to his space and luckily I got it back but it made me laugh how petty he was to take it.

AIBU to take it when 7 other households are not bothered and only one is?

OP posts:
SpillTheTeaa · 29/06/2020 06:41

No YABU and think you're entitled to the space. We have 2 visiting spots and cars who are owned by households are always in them and it winds me up. Parking isn't great around here so why if someone visits me should my guest or any other guest that visits a household not be able to park where there is a designated spot? You're the one that is petty and time to stop letting rig your partner take all the space.

Brefugee · 29/06/2020 06:41

I think if there were the neighbour with a problem would have pointed it out!

you're joking, right? unless you're not in the UK they will fume at home, possibly make PA digs at you, post vaguely about it in the street WhatsApp or facebook group, or make a thread here.

Directly explaining issues in a calm rational manner to your neighbours isn't the done thing.

YABU.

CheshireChav · 29/06/2020 06:45

Trust me, other neighbours will be pissed off with you too 🤣

People are far too British to actually at say anything though!! Just the fact your partner has a big van on what sounds like a small crowded area is probably irritating enough!!

BlueTreeBlue · 29/06/2020 06:48

YABU!
The bike needs to go somewhere else or your partner’s massive car which takes up two spaces needs to be replaced with something smaller. You need to fit all your vehicles in your allocation, it’s pretty simple.

GreyShadow · 29/06/2020 07:01

I think that's maybe why only petty neighbour is bothered as if any of my neighbours have a visitor they can move their car into their garage and leave their space free. Petty neighbour can't do that.

You come across as very young OP, if you genuinely think the whole street should move their cars so you don't have to park your car on the street? Or have a motorbike in your garden?

And you think the "petty" neighbour is the problem? I can guarantee that every other neighbour is quietly fuming about this too.

oohnicevase · 29/06/2020 07:01

Move to a house with enough parking , I live in a new build and have enough parking for 5 cars but next door only have 1 space and they are always having car park wars , I don't get it .. I would always buy a house that accommodates my needs . 🤷‍♀️
These are 4/5/6/7 k houses so not w lack of funds just a weird choice .

Mayra1367 · 29/06/2020 07:02

Bet it’s not just the one neighbour who thinks you are a CF . It’s just the others haven’t said it to you .
You are being totally selfish and unreasonable.

Oysterbabe · 29/06/2020 07:06

Yes Yabu. The visitor space is for visitors and tradespeople, not regular parking. I'd be fucked off if I had someone coming to service the boiler and they had nowhere to park because you don't want to look at your boyfriend's bike or can't bare to have your car out of sight. Ridiculous.

11MrsLuther · 29/06/2020 07:07

You are the unreasonable one here, I would be irrationally annoyed at not being able to have visitors park because you are constantly using the space too.

Nquartz · 29/06/2020 07:09

So called 'petty neighbour ' only parks in the visitor space because you do. If you stopped he wouldn't have any reason to do that argument doesn't hold.

Mintychoc1 · 29/06/2020 07:11

I guarantee that the other neighbours are pissed off with it too, they’re just keeping quiet because they don’t want hassle and bad feeling.
But look at it objectively - you move in, then move your boyfriend in with his bike and massive van, then proceed to occupy more spaces than you’re entitled to.
Of course they’re all pissed off with you.

NinkiNonkiNikau · 29/06/2020 07:12

Fgs don’t worry about the neighbour. He’s pissed off at your selfishness and that’s why he’s being petty. You are inconveniencing others. Sort out parking for the bike or your car and deal with it.

CluelessBaker · 29/06/2020 07:14

YABU. You’re not entitled to three spaces, and by taking three up you’re regularly preventing your neighbours from benefitting from the visitor space, which is as much theirs as yours.

You need to rethink the logistics of this with your partner. If you can’t fit all three of your vehicles in your garage and space he needs to get a smaller car, or pay for garage space elsewhere, or one of you needs to find on-street parking nearby.

crispysausagerolls · 29/06/2020 07:16

Just park in front of your drive? And move your car if DH wants to get out. It’s what normal people do

Casschops · 29/06/2020 07:16

Being honest I would feel the same as your neighbour. The place is for visitors irs not their problem that your boyfriend has a motorcycle

Porridgeoat · 29/06/2020 07:20

Park the bike elsewhere and use your garage

Sceptre86 · 29/06/2020 07:21

Maybe your other neighbours do feel the same way. Every suggestion anyone has made you have kocked back because it inconveniences you, so I can understand why he is being petty. Get a shed for the bikes or park on the road.

GoingBackTo505 · 29/06/2020 07:22

You're extremely unreasonable. If I was your neighbour, I think I'd suddenly be having a lot of visitors and I'd make sure I'd be knocking on your door to move your car from their space each time. Just because I'm petty too.

damnthatanxiety · 29/06/2020 07:23

This is surely a reverse. No reasonable person would think that permanently or long term use of the one VISITOR space is acceptable. Anyone doing that is a CF. It is a visitor space for visitors. Someone who has basically moved in is not a visitor in the spirit of things.

elenacampana · 29/06/2020 07:24

Silly issues like this make me so glad that I don’t have a car.

Get a life!

cultkid · 29/06/2020 07:25

You're being so greedy get your car in the garage

MyOwnSummer · 29/06/2020 07:26

YABVU - you don't need three vehicles, you could move somewhere with more space? Also why should your neighbour's visitors never have anywhere to park?

Daisy12Maisie · 29/06/2020 07:26

I dont think it's fair for you to use the visitor space on a regular basis. The other neighbours may have said they dont mind but I'm sure they do.
I would park on the street or use the garage and move the motorbike.

Figgygal · 29/06/2020 07:30

I’d think you were an entitled dick if I lived there too
Sort yourself out

TW2013 · 29/06/2020 07:31

Just plan to move and find somewhere more appropriate for the needs of your household. It suited you before bf moved in but doesn't now.

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