To be upset about him taking down photos of us

[LolaRose789]

AIBU to be upset over this. Am I just being stupidly sensitive?

In our living room we have two photo frame sets made up of 6 photos of me and partner. Us together and with our dog.

Last night he said he wanted to take these photos down and replace them with photos of friends because he thinks why do we need photos of ourselves up together when we see eachother all the time. He said it makes more sense to have photos up of people you don't see.

I know I am probably being silly but this hurt my feelings. They are lovely photos of us that we picked out together, printed off and hung up together. I love looking at them and the happy memories they bring. I'm more than happy for him to put up photos of his friends, but him wanting to replace our photos together to do that just upset me. Why not just buy more frames?

I know it sounds silly but I just felt hurt like I was being pushed aside for photos of friends and that having our photos up just doesnt mean much to him. I told him I felt a bit hurt and that I like having our photos up and I would rather him buy more frames.

He got annoyed and said having frames everywhere will look silly and can't believe I am offended over photos

MrsGrindah Are you sure it wasn't his twin brother?

This does remind me
Of the Chris Rock sketch about “men, if you think you own a house, go home and try to put a picture of your mother on the wall” 🤣

I suggest you look into buying some additional photo frames, by doing so it would presumably resolve this issue.

Am confused why people would choose to have framed photos of themselves opposed to art / even a print of your favourite movie poster etc, but that’s just me.

On a side note I recently raised a similar issue with my mother, as the house has framed photos in various well trafficked rooms in the house both of themselves & various family & friends, yet not one of me.

She literally has pictures of random friends’ babies on the fridge but not one photo of her own actual daughter!

After pointing this out on my next visit I noticed she had framed a photo of me (when I presented more “fem” of course ) and placed it in the guest bedroom where I sleep
And get this - nobody else except myself ever stays in this room

Does she think I want to just look at a photo of myself each morning & night?

Am confused why people would choose to have framed photos of themselves opposed to art / even a print of your favourite movie poster etc, but that’s just me

Really? You are confused as to why a couple might have a wedding photo up?

I am shocking with art btw - my house is all photos of the dog/baby and fun wallpaper/mouldings etc Becuase I have 0 taste beyond liking paintings of horses and ballerinas and DH does not
Agree that that’s good art. 😬

@crispysausagerolls - being Italian it is common thing for wedding photos & family photos to be around. I would not take objection to a wedding photo - if it was blown up to a huge size & framed on the wall would just not be something I would personally do.

It’s a bit “me me me” vibe and I use my walls to hang artworks, a photo of myself just doesn’t feel inspiring or creative. It’s a bit “daggy” design wise now, especially with the rise of social media, more people keep their photos there

Before MySpace I did used to keep a few framed photos !

@Pelleas Damn! Never thought of that.

i have two wedding photos up-none of friends havent done that since i was a teenager

He is shifting his allegiance and interest and letting you know. Not surprised you’re upset.

@slashlover

You have 12 photos of you together? Maybe you could change some of them and leave some of you together?

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To be fair, I did think weird unnecessary changing of photos in frames that have been there forever seems like he wants to video or photograph the room without evidence of his relationship .... why go to all that effort? It IS weird. Why not just put up another frame with friends in?

And saying he's getting fed up of OP?

Personally to me it sounds bizarre, aka there's another influence at play here.

@LockdownLump

I'd find it odd to put pictures of my mates up in the living room.

Why? What kind of photos should single people put up then? Photos of themselves as adult children with their parents? My flat's full of photos of me with friends.

@Crossfitwidow

Sorry, but if I walked into my friends home and she had a picture of me on the wall I’d think she was creepy as fuck.

And if she had a photo of a group of you at a wedding? I have a photo of me as a bridesmaid with my friend as the bride and the other bridesmaid. Why would that be creepy?

I would find having 12 photos of you and your husband really odd.

I have one of me and my late husband, and a few of him, my daughters and granddaughters in various combinations.

Having more than one photo of the person who actually lives in the home (and that's just me now) seems really odd.