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To not know why my friend has cut me off?

105 replies

Showmerheway · 27/06/2020 06:17

I've been close friends with a man since we were very young, he was one of my best friends. We'd been friends for about 10 years, across our teenage years and into our early twenties where we are now. There was always a somewhat sexual element to the relationship and he asked me to be his girlfriend a couple of times when we were teenagers. I turned him down because I didn't feel ready for a relationship.

Our close friendship continued through university and we both graduated last year. We lived in separate cities but always saw each other when we both returned to our home town at the same time.

Since lockdown began, I moved back to my home town to live with my parents, as did he.

He first messages me asking to meet up and I tried to arrange for us to meet outside. He agreed to plans 3 times in a row and each time then flaked last minute with silly excuses.

I got slightly annoyed with him after the third time and he at first was defensive but layer apologised, giving no reason for why he really kept cancelling.

Since then, I've heard nothing from him, despite the fact he's living only a 5 minute walk away from me.

I really miss him and I'm not sure why he's cut me off, or how I can rekindle our friendship. Should I ring him and ask him what's going on?

OP posts:
Showmerheway · 29/06/2020 17:55

Turned up at his house today only to find out that he has moved back to the city he was living in before lockdown. Shit.

OP posts:
Yesmate · 29/06/2020 18:29

Phone him then, this is agony.

Ellisandra · 29/06/2020 18:52

Why shit?
You both moved home to your parents for lockdown. It’s hardly a surprise that as lockdown eases, he’d go back to his city.

HotMessTryNotToStress · 29/06/2020 19:01

Hi OP,

There is every chance that he has strong feelings for you but feels you only see him as a friend and is finding it difficult to be around you for that reason. Why not call him and tell him how you feel about him? You only live once. Good luck.

Yesterday22 · 29/06/2020 19:01

Like some of the PPs here, I’m wondering if he’s met someone else and he feels awkward about telling you since there’s a chance he might still have feelings for you. He might be avoiding meeting you because he knows he would need to tell you which likely means moving on from the idea of you and him being together.

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