This weather is beautiful but my GOD my neighbours!!

[Midsommar]

Seen so many neighbour-related threads on here so I'm sorry to be adding another one.

This weather is beautiful but why why WHY do my neighbours insist on sitting in their gardens playing shit music, letting kids scream and their dogs bark? Yeah I get that it's warm outside but it is past 11 at night - does warm weather mean less consideration?

Our neighbours have been an absolute nightmare since lockdown began and it doesn't seem to be getting better now we are emerging out the other end.

I wish I could pick my house up and move. AIBU or am I just a grumpy bitch...

It’s hard. I live in a row of small terrace houses. Neighbour had some friends over on Tuesday night and they were noisy in the garden until after midnight. I am working and dd still has to be up for school. Another get together in the garden tonight. I had to close windows even though it’s hot and put on fan to try to create some white noise. 😟

I don't allow my 2 out till after 10am and they come in at 5pm. 3 and 5. But sadly they do scream and cry and shout. I am forever saying to Pipe down. Please be quiet. It's so hard for the parents too but I also understand you. I often say to my husband I feel for the neighbours and I do text them to apologise. But you can't shut kids in or up. Belive me......I've tried.

@Seeleyboo 5 is early!! I'd expect child noise later than that.

@Seeleyboo completely understand how bloody hard it must be to keep kids quiet. I don't have children but friends have and I really can't imagine how difficult it is. But kids running round screaming past 9PM really grinds my gears! Really considerate of you to text the neighbours - can you move onto my street please!? Could do with some decent folk round here!

@Notcontent sounds like our neighbours are as bad as each other! I wish all us quiet people could live on a street together - would be the dream!! I live in a similar set up to you and it can be rubbish can't it. Our neighbours 5 houses down are all set in the garden drinking and getting louder and louder. Urgh.

5pm is early I know but I expect my poor neighbours have had a guts full of my screaming kids by then. Or their screaming mother telling them to stop shouting. For me 10 to 5 is enough torture. I will make them.come in for an hours reprieve for lunch too. My poor neighbours. I feel for anyone still listening to any of those past 9pm. Fuck that. You poor person

Midsommar - yes, I dream of living in a street of elderly people who potter around and go to bed early!!!

Lockdown and hot weather has really brought out the shitty neighbours, the ones who don’t give a flying fuck about anyone else. They probably don’t have to get up to go to work or take kids to school, so they act in the most appallingly ignorant way.

News flash, your garden doesn’t have the same sound proofing qualities as your house, you fuckers!

The British are vile in hot weather, it’s as if a collective madness takes over a lot of the nation. Look at the beaches. Under normal circs the dross would be heading off to Costa somewhere, but we have to deal with them at home for now.

If a developer built an estate and advertised it for being for quiet owners only, I think they would be astonished at the resulting stampede.

My neighbours are lovely. They are so sweet and kind.

I'm still fucking sick to death of them . And I expect they feel the same way about me

My next door neighbours on both sides have stayed well away (second homers). It's bliss. I've never had any noise from the people but their dogs on the other hand...

My kids are quiet during the day, but get livelier in the evening. They want to use their trampoline until about 10 pm. I live in the North and it's bright until nearly 11. Does this sound selfish? They don't make much noise apart from talking and the springs creaking etc I have told them NOT to shout.
Every playground is shut, every leisure centre and the kids are bored stupid. I find it hard to tire them out. It is the lack of routine coupled with the long long days. Next time we are paralysed by a fucking pandemic could it have the decency to arrive in October or something?

My kids are so loud 🙈 I dont let them out until 10 either and they are in by 8. Usually it’s not shouting notice just them having fun but it’s loud. Difficult though when none of them are at school, it’s sweltering hot and they are bored out of their minds by 14 weeks at home. I am also trying to WFH as is my DH so they have to find something to do by themselves most afternoons. We dont have a dog and I don’t play music but I am constantly apologising to the neighbours for child noise!

@Seeleyboo do they scream or just play? I'm 29 and childless but I still love the sound of children playing outside drifting into an open window. My childhood street always had us kids playing in it and I enjoy hearing it now

Jack I wouldn't have a problem with that. In fact when it's boiling the kids are probably better off indoors. I'm in Manchester and in the afternoon a lot of kids are indoors and they come out when it's a bit cooler. It doesn't sound selfish. And apparently I'm an old person, and I love hearing the kids playing.

Same here ive just pointedly slammed my window shut and the drunken fuckers have retreated indoors at last so i think they took the hint luckily baby DS can sleep through an earthquake but i can't

@jackdawdawn. Whilst it's not exactly 'desirable' I wouldn't mind that at all as long as they're not arguing! & in at 10 is good, I'd not be chuffed if they were out later than that. Can you not grease the springs?

@Time2change2. I could cope with that if I knew it was ending at 8 & I'd make the most of the peace at lunchtime! Adults making endless noise pisses me off, but not really kids, especially if it's 'happy' noise.. The kids over the back grind my gears a bit because they argue all the bloody time (at full volume) about everything!

But it's adults playing music & generally being selfish twats that makes me cross, not really kids.

Our neighbour blasts (concert volume) him singing shit county songs on his karaoke, for hours! 2 other neighbours try to drown it out by with loud music, one is normally radio and the other plays dance type music. It’s horrid and we can’t sit in garden for long. This happens every sunny day at moment. As well as all the yappy dogs close by barking constantly - I’m not sure if they think the yapping is cute or no one can hear it, but none of them try to stop it. I’ve lived in a few houses and use to some low level music, kids playing, odd dog barking etc which is totally fine but this is torture.

People behind us have had music and shouting in the garden all afternoon and now they are karaoke-ing in their 'party shed'. We have had "you'll never walk alone' and football chants... etc. They are fucking awful people

We have new neighbours who seemed promising but seem to have friends staying over all the time, possibly living w them and now there is a happy dog. They play really shit music too. Not tol late tho so not all bad. They're pleasant enough but previous neighbour we rarely heard a peep from.

I really don't mind playing or bouncing on trampolines. It's the screaming! The occasional shout is fine but when it goes on and on I would have told mine off for prolonged screaming or shouting. I shut my dogs up immediately. Basically no one wants to hear their neighbours and we all annoy each other.

I have 5 gardens backing on to my garden 🤪

Maybe I'm just getting old, but I recall being outside as a child on these long summer evenings, playing until it was dark - I remember quite lengthy games of rounders that went on! And playing hide and seek in the dark was really exciting. There was a a very noisy game called 'kick the tin' that was expressly banned past 7pm though...like other posters, I do find drunken adults and rowdy radios more annoying though. You should never have to listen to someone else's radio station when they're sunbathing...

My neighbours were in their garden until past 1am last night. Could not sleep at all as they were directly beneath the bedroom window. They have been out late the last few nights but last night was awful.

Playing music outside is intensely antisocial. It always sounds shit anyway unless you've got an amazing sound system and even if you do, how is it fair to inflict your musical tastes on everyone else around you just because they have the misfortune to live on your street?

I don't mind hearing children out playing, that's what being a kid is all about. But I do mind neighbours not giving a toss for anyone else and partying in the garden till 1am when dh is up for work at 5.30am. Its just not fair and as we're quiet we never do it back to them. We live in small terraced houses and the partying neighbours are the first to complain if you do something they don't like.

We live in what looks like an idyllic corner plot with fields at the bottom of the garden. Detached house, one parallel neighbouring house (A), three Housing Association houses at right angles to our left boundary (B) (C) & (D) , one house in front of ours in the cul-de-sac (E). On a hot day, at any given time during lockdown we have had from each:

A = Performance parenting at FULL VOLUME non-stop, piping-voiced teacher 'Look at this flower, how many petals does it have ? Blah blah blah' : comes in through all windows all day long, complete with trampoline noise (work of the Devil)

B , = HA house = no problem, lovely little family
C = HA house = twat with motorbike using back garden to start up and run his bike at least 5 x daily, filling our garden with fumes & loud racket, plus tiny whiny dog locked in yard emitting high-pitched whine because it wants to be with its family. Shut out all day even on the hottest day, poor thing.
D = HA house = woman with foster kids who are feral, deafening, completely out of control, non-stop screaming, thumping, shouting, fighting, 'music and singing' etc. etc. Thank goodness they're not there full-time
E = House in front of us has DIY-mad bloke who cannot pass a day without using very noisy tools to construct shanty buildings throughout his garden, along with loud screaming children on trampoline non-stop. These ones are so loud they can be heard from two roads away.

The combination of all of it means that the hotter the day, the more we shut the windows and swelter indoors. I actively look at the weather forecast and look forward to rainy days when it's quieter.

Of all of them, A and E are the worst, so before anyone jumps down my throat asking why I'm mentioning that the three on one side are HA, the fact is that buying a large detached house in a relatively expensive cul-de-sac does not guarantee peace & quiet, if anything the reverse is true.

And yes, I am well aware the problem is with me for being intolerant, thanks in advance for telling me that.