This weather is beautiful but my GOD my neighbours!!

[Midsommar]

Seen so many neighbour-related threads on here so I'm sorry to be adding another one.

This weather is beautiful but why why WHY do my neighbours insist on sitting in their gardens playing shit music, letting kids scream and their dogs bark? Yeah I get that it's warm outside but it is past 11 at night - does warm weather mean less consideration?

Our neighbours have been an absolute nightmare since lockdown began and it doesn't seem to be getting better now we are emerging out the other end.

I wish I could pick my house up and move. AIBU or am I just a grumpy bitch...

The 6yo and his mother opposite woke my 11yo up last night, playing hockey and football, and shouting and squealing, in the street til almost 11pm.

I don’t have any problem with children playing in gardens either... but even children (past toddlerhood) can learn to be considerate. When mine are playing that’s fine, but if they start arguing , shouting, screaming etc at each other I told them to be quiet and keep the noise down. If they didn’t, they had to come in. I taught them to be considerate to others and now they (mostly) are.

If you don’t tell your child to keep it down in the garden and to be considerate to the neighbours then you’re bringing up future selfish neighbours.

I've decided that mine are trying to drive me out. Immediately adjacent to the adjoining fence they have put: gazebo with table, chairs and (sometimes) TV, paddling pool and, the other weekend, table football where they held a tournament with Maria Sharapova levels of shrieking. Why it all has to be within inches of the boundary is beyond me. Currently it's like an inflatable version of Thorpe Park in there - whilst I would never do it, I'm tempted to sneak in with a pin.

I'm finding people in gardens shouting and socialising really, really annoying at the moment. I think it is firstly I got used to the lovely quiet of them staying in and not having friends over, during lockdown. And second, we are allowed to meet at gardens now but pubs etc still not open. I am hoping some of my younger neighbours will bugger off to pubs next week rather than having friends round from 9pm to midnight. My kids can't sleep and neither can I!

Next time we are paralysed by a fucking pandemic could it have the decency to arrive in October or something?
Careful what you wish for!!

There's 5 living next door to me. They're put outside to play 14 hours a day some days and they literally just screech from morning till night. I'm working from home too and I'm utterly fed up with the selfish fuckers. I grew up in a big family, but we were told if we didn't play nicely (and quietly) we weren't allowed out. It really should be as simple as that.

some people just love to show off , so you've got an olympic size swimming pool with high diving board in your garden ? so what ? sorry but that don't impress me much

I fucking detest people who let their kids scream and their dogs bark.

@mencken
I’ll be your neighbour in the no dogs town.

there are a couple of little girls down my street that scooter up and down and call to each other. They are taken in at a reasonable hour. I actually enjoy hearing them, it's a nice, homely sound.

My next door neighbour on the other hand... he doesn't actually live there. It's his second home and he usually comes over once or twice a month as he's playing at renovating it. Then they announced lock down and him and his mates have been there every day using very noisy power tools in the garden. They had a band saw running for 6 hours yesterday. i'm working from home and it's HOT but I had to shut my windows as I couldn't bear the noise. I reported him to the council, he's just being so bloody inconsiderate.

@jackdawdawn

My kids are quiet during the day, but get livelier in the evening. They want to use their trampoline until about 10 pm. I live in the North and it's bright until nearly 11. Does this sound selfish? They don't make much noise apart from talking and the springs creaking etc I have told them NOT to shout. Every playground is shut, every leisure centre and the kids are bored stupid. I find it hard to tire them out. It is the lack of routine coupled with the long long days. Next time we are paralysed by a fucking pandemic could it have the decency to arrive in October or something?

10pm on a trampoline is very selfish, the noise of trampoline springs is incredibly annoying.

The selfish cunts next door finally moved in this week after building a monstrous two story extension AND ugly, Stasi lookout looking loft conversion. On a FUCKING terraced house!

They've spent the last two nights entertaining various guests in their back yard, until 2am last night. I've lived here for 13 years but felt unable to even let the dogs out for their bedtime wees - I walked them round the block instead. Feels like they've taken over.

Thank Christ it's pissing down today.

My neighbour is the loudest phone talker in the world and talks to various people on the phone from 8pm till midnight. In winter it’s not too bad we stick the tv on to drown her out. But in summer she’s now in the garden or stood at her bedroom window. She might aswell he stood next to my bed. It’s completely unnecessary and I pop my head out at 11 to ask her to keep it down. She hates me

We have noisy smelly neighbours too. Shite music and cigarettes.

It makes me feel like I can’t relax how I’d like to relax. (Patio doors wide open pottering around)

We all feel so tense

It makes me feel like I’m failing as a parent because DS doesn’t sleep well during the noise & he hates playing outside because of the smell.

I’m becoming a winter person

notreallybotheredaboutausernam

Did the council do anything?

My neighbour is working from home but has decided to work in the garden. 8 hours a day of her boring ass telephone calls and office buzz words. I was trying to keep the kids quiet during the week but yesterday I snapped and took them out, thankfully she retreated inside her purpose built office pod.

My kids are quiet during the day, but get livelier in the evening. They want to use their trampoline until about 10 pm. I live in the North and it's bright until nearly 11. Does this sound selfish? They don't make much noise apart from talking and the springs creaking etc I have told them NOT to shout

Are we talking about 20 minutes on the trampoline or an extended amount of time?

Could you maybe do something against the squeaking? Those kinds of sounds can be incredibly annoying. Even during the day tbh... Talking is imo perfectly fine. Prolonged squeaking not so much.

How old are they? Could you maybe wake them earlier so they're tired out at 11pm?

(10 / 11 pm on a trampoline seems too late to me, tbh. Especially if it's a regular occurrence.)

Just posted on another thread about how kids these days are allowed by their parents to scream in a way I would only have been allowed to if I was encountering a murder scene.

I could have written your post OP.
Last night our neighbours were literally bellowing/shouting/shrieking/screaming their heads off til late. Can’t even shut the windows with the heat!

I'm feeling your pain - roll on winter. I snapped the other night and blasted music at my neighbours kids bedtimes. I know I know arsehole, but they have driven me nuts since they moved in. And have upped their bad behaviour since lockdown.

Ours is a normal street, lots of dogs and families, there are a lot of children playing during the day - which can make it a bit harder to work, but it is normal children playing noise - yes a bit louder in lockdown, but what else can parents do all the parks are shut. If it was just that noise I would be finding this whole situation so much easier.

The vile neighbours who moved in a few years back - urgh, their kids just scream and scream, they performance parent, but never actually tell them off, the tantrums go on for hours and hours and hours and I swear they have given them a bloody megaphone. I am also wholeheartedly now of the belief that the parents do it on purpose, as some form of passive aggressive we can do what we wish tee heee tee hee.

Ps the children have no additional needs, just bad parents.

Agree with others, I just want to live in the middle of nowhere now. Maybe I've been lucky in the past, but I've never ever had some horrible inconsiderate and passive aggressive neighbours. It takes a toll.

We have the ones out back who have pretty much joined two houses together (they pull the fences out to party) and get pissed and start making poo and fart noises if they see a bathroom light go on in any of our houses.

Then we have gammon boy who barbecues every fucking night from March to late September and sits out there drinking, playing music and dispensing his high quality opinions on how everything shall be done full blast to his cliquey followers till the early hours every fucking night. Talking 4 bags of glass recycling at every collection and god knows how many cigarettes smoked a day - and he's got about 5-6 other houses who've lived here since the year dot who are part of the little clique so sit out there noisily slagging the other houses off full blast. Then they have garden parties where they start singing about 10pm and go on till about 4 am right under our bedroom window (we actually swapped to the box room so the kids didn't get impacted as much by his noise).

Maybe it's because so many are WFH or at home furloughed or staying at home due to virus and so drinks are in, music is on and children restricted more so more noise...

Children want to get out
People are worried for jobs
Cheaper to stay at home and party in garden - no pubs etc so the ones that would go out are at home partying?

What I'd give to live either surrounded by elderly people who potter and go to bed early as mentioned above or in the middle of nowhere.

Our neighbours on one side we've lived next door to for 24+ years. For 23 years not a problem - we got on really really well and chatted all the time. Sadly her husband died and within 6 months she moved a new boyfriend in. New boyfriend is an arsehole who screams insults at us, shouts 'Remember you're a womble'/'yaaaaay-oh!' , plays music at extreme fullblast, hammers on the wall and sings [badly] into the early hours, makes horrible comments when you're in the garden and he is in their garden, slams doors when he leaves for work at half 6 etc.

No idea why as nothing had changed between us and female neighbour but he just moved in and was an arsehole from the off. At his worst our lovely neighbour on the other side can hear it all THROUGH our house into hers! (Currently in the middle of a complaint with the council so fingers crossed it won't always be this way (!) ) Female neighbour, by the way - when questioned by others and us 'knows nothing about it' despite a) joining in and b) being in the same fucking house!

Added onto that there's people in the other street whos gardens back onto ours screaming and shouting in their garden during summer every friday/saturday/sunday's from 2pm until at least 11.15pm (got fed up at that point and slammed the window closed).

Next door but one are having their roof repaired and I'm also bloody fed up of the workmen hanging over the scaffolding making comments of what what I'm wearing (usually pyjamas or knee length shorts and tshirt as shielding so not going anywhere) in the garden when I'm pegging my washing out or supervising my little dog who also doesn't like strange men shouting things to him. Apparently - when speaking to next door but one - they're 'family friends' and not builders but she'll 'have a word'. ... hasn't worked so far.

On top of that the nice neighbours on the other side are having a lot of DIY done at the moment so have been hammering and drilling etc from 10am-7pm. Normally this wouldn't bother me but it's just a cacophony of noise at the minute and because we're shielding there's no escape whatsoever.

Reading threads like these has made me wonder if the housing market will keep moving.

Lots of people need a fresh start!

I dream of living in a street of elderly people who potter around and go to bed early!!!

Be careful what you wish for. The neighbour 2 doors down driving us mad through lockdown is probably 70. When it's nice she lays out in her garden with her radio on. She is the only person in the street to do this. I don't know whether it has occurred to her that nobody else does it, and that if we all did it she wouldn't be able to.

Last weekend I could hear a noise that honestly sounded like a whole load of turkeys. It went on and on and I stuck my head out to see what it was. It was her and some friends chatting in her garden and it went on from 11am until after 5pm.

In the week we could hear talking that just went on and on. DH said it was her on her phone in the garden, making call after call all day.

She is surrounded by people who are having to WFH and home-school but she is just carrying on as normal, without a thought for the people she is disturbing.

Yeah don't think for one second the OAPs are quieter. I live in retirement town, everyone is in detached houses on the street but you still get grandkids screaming, dogs barking and I assume my NDN and his pals are going deaf as they shout instead of speaking. We've already had a run in about their noise and I had my head ripped off for having the audacity to be working full time, from home.