To answer some questions - I do not have children, he has one who does not live with him. They live with their mum and stay with him every other weekend. When he has his child stay he says he ”only” smokes when they are asleep.
We were together for 6 months properly and broke up 18 months ago.
Reasons were-
I felt too much financial pressure as I got into a habit of lending him money. He had a minimum wage job which he kept walking out of without another lined up. He now runs his own gardening business but I find his frequently telling me he’s cancelled/moved/postponed jobs.
Weed use being too interfering with daily life
He was hard to live with - didn’t like smell of my make up, would only eat food which was cooked in mineral water, didn’t like how I washed up as I used too much washing up liquid etc
He had a temper which he said I over reacted to althoug he does admit he has always been an angry person but apparently none of his ex’s have ever had a problem with it. I actually spoke to one who did say she didn’t think he was that angry but completely lazy with no drive.
When I’ve spoken to him and raised issues he’s often said no ones ever believed in him, he’s gone through a hard time, he hated his jobs, he lost his mum, it’s all his parents fault as if they never moved out of the city he could be living with them rent free. I rarely here him take responsibility for any mistakes in his life.
I can hear you all thinking “why are you back together”
I thought the weed is the route cause of all the above issues and if he would reduce it down then it would all improve. He has a lovely kind, affectionate, supportive side to him. And as he smokes so much for so many years I cannot tell a difference in him post joint. Pre joint he can be grumpy though.