To expect my mother to clear up just a little after she cooks kids tea?

[Carotte]

I know she was helping, but I have mastitis, a temperature and the shivers. She popped in for coffee and I asked if she could please make them beans on toast as DH is away and I am in pain on the sofa.

After umming and aaaghing and a couple of phone calls to delay drinks plans she cooked this for them, but then had to race off.

She patted me on the head and said she had to go now, sorry for not clearing up and I said that was fine I'd load the dishwasher later.

It's a total f*ing pigsty out there, food all over the floor, spilled on the table, pans piled up on the hob. I know she was doing me a favour but I wouldn't have made that much mess making beans on toast.

She went off feeling pleased with herself, and I could cry looking at the mess. DS1 has offered to help.

and LOL at xxx'S donating a kidney.

YANBU

She is however, a dirty slattern of the highest order

I can't imagine my mam doing that.... but then she goes too far the other way & pisses me off with her obsessive cleaning

My mother fed my dd once, she held her and have her a bottle of milk while I had a shower. When I came out of the shower, with dripping wet hair, she gave dd back to me.

YABU. at least she does *something to help

But hlpe that you are feeling better soon

Oh you poor thing, you aren't being ungrateful, just human. My dh is like this; whenever he looks after the dcs on his own the house looks as if it has been struck by a tornado. I try to explain to him that part of looking after the dcs is the constant clearing up that has to be done in their wake. But that's a seperate issue...

I really hope you feel better soon.

'pans piled up'?! what was she doing, cooking each bean separately?! or do you have 10 kids therefore requiring multiple cans of beans to be cooked...no wait, was she cooking beans properly from scratch, like with tomatoes and herbs...no i just don't get it...

Don't think unreasonable at all, poor you entitled to a grump {wink}