To think people do not know what a healthy weight looks like.

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I am a healthy weight for my height and i constantly get comments on my weight like "gosh youre tiny" or "i could just pick you up" and "what do you eat to be small, just eat a burger" from people i work with etc. Do people really not know what a healthy weight is anymore? I just think "im not tiny i am a healthy weight and yes i do eat fucking burgers"
Im glad shops are more inclusive and plus size models are more common but i still think commenting on someones size is wrong no matter the size.

You simply cannot compare food to alcohol and drugs. Just no. No.

If it is like alcoholism and drug addiction, then we shouldn't tolerate obesity in adverts and magazines. Same like you wouldn't want to see a person with injection marks from drug use or a downridden alcoholic on adverts.

People have to choose. Either obesity will ve treated as drug addiction and alcoholism or we will stop using that comparison. Would you tell your friend you are worried because you saw they are addicted to crack and what it's doing to them? If yes and it is the same, you should be able to tell your friend you are worried because they are addicted to food.

You cannot just pick "it's addictive so shut up" but not actually treat it like the addictions you compare it to.

Yes, some people have food as an emotional crutch, but that doesn't mean everyone does, because really not everyone does.

Yes, some people have food as an emotional crutch, but that doesn't mean everyone does, because really not everyone does

Of course not everyone does. No one said that. But eating disorders are a whole spectrum including under eating, binging, purging and over eating. That's not to say that everyone who is underweight or overweight has an eating disorder. I was responding to the poster who said that its easy not to overeat. It's easy for some and not for others.

And its interesting that if someone has experienced a traumatic event and consequently develop an eating disorder, there is only sympathy for those whose disorder causes them to be underweight.

I was really surprised the other day - I was testing a diagnostic tool that evaluated co-morbidity and other factors with coronovirus. Obesity was obviously one factor, but the significant BMI for impacting on likelihood of death from covid19 was 40.
First time in I don't know how long that I'm not obese.

@Nellydean21

Part of it is the constant interior monologue women have in their heads over food and weight. It spills out as part of conversation

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It’s rude, people get flamed for saying someone is overweight but think it’s fine to comment on someone who is slim.

This wasn't part of the original thread, but I think that you can compare an addiction to food with one to alcohol and drugs. In AA there are many recovering alcoholics who, having realised that alcohol is killing them and they have to avoid it altogether, develop a cross addiction to food and either become very overweight or anorexic/bulimic. Many of them are in OA as well, and most (not all) of that group would say that it's actually harder. You can't just avoid food altogether because you need it to survive. I also agree that there's more sympathy for people with eating disorders who are underweight rather than overweight. It shouldn't be true but is.

I'm not saying it's right, but the reason there is more 'sympathy' for people with anorexia and bullemia etc is because the risk of damaging your health or even dying is a lot more immediate than being overweight. Often we find it shocking too because it is far more unusual to see someone substantially underweight than someone who is overweight, plus being an extremely low weight makes you look more poorly as in gaunt and frail. It's still very hard to access appropriate care and support to both ensure you put weight on and develop a more healthy attitude to eating; but also the underlying usually emotional and experience based trauma that has triggered it. But people are still just as ignorant to it on the whole, and say just eat a sandwich etc, or that the person is just vain and want to look skinny. A lot of people who are overweight can probably trace it back to trauma too, not all, but certainly that's the case for me. I actually was prompted to lose weight as I hated people feeling that they had the right to comment on my body, yet even being a healthy weight my body still doesn't feel like my own, but just something people judge and pass horrible comments about.

I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been right now (5’7.5 and 9 stone). Despite working out, lifting heavy weights and doing cardio, I definitely have excess fat on waist and some on my stomach. I like this size because I’m a 32D and my face is rounder and healthy, but I don’t think it’s healthy at all to have any abdominal fat.

formerbabe
But it's what you think. You said that is easy not to over eat.

in response to the ridiculous statement that you cannot be slim unless you are obsessed by your scales and live for your only achievement in life...

You know the saying "eat to live, don't live to eat..."?

It's very interesting that on a thread complaining about rude comments people jump to explain how obesity is caused by this or that... Totally not the point, and the prevalence of overweight individuals doesn't justify or excuse stupid comments made to the OP or anyone who is deemed too slim when it means ^slimmer-than-me-and-I-am-dying-of-jealousy".

in response to the ridiculous statement that you cannot be slim unless you are obsessed by your scales and live for your only achievement in life.

No that's not what I said...you're putting words in my mouth. What I said is that there are some women, emphasis on the word some, who are so proud of the fact that they're slim that they feel really quite troubled that some overweight women are quite happy with their bodies.

Are you two gonna bicker all evening

Healthy comes in different sizes. And just because you have a healthy life style doesn't necessarily mean you'll live longer than a person that has a seemingly unhealthy lifestyle.

I agree, I'm overweight but been bigger. I think there are many not just obese people but also many with an extra stone or two around that's it's become very normal and therefore people who are a "healthy' BMI do indeed look very slim. But when I look back at old pictures from the 50s if 40s most people were slim. It's no criticism of anyone I know the stuggles but I do believe our sense of normality/what healthy looks like has shifted a size or two up.

I know for me being size 16 (just) and having been a size 22 I feel happier and more satisfedwith myself but I know deep down I'm still bigger than I should be.

If you take your dog to the Vet they will say he/she is overweight if they can't feel their ribs, a healthy weight is one where the ribs aren't covered up.

It's a shame doctors don't do the same for humans.

gypsywater
it wouldn't be the first time 🤣

but without any deleted post and insult, that's quite an improvement already!

people just feel the need to comment on looks. Hair, weight, eye colour skin colour, freckles etc etc. I hate it.

I think people's shapes have changed. My older female family members had much smaller waists back in the day but they had normal sized legs, hips etc. For me to have a small waist I need to be skinny

Shapes have definitely changed, I have the small waist/big thighs shape and absolutely nothing fits me, if trousers fit the thighs then they gape at the waist. I've definitely noticed a lot more people are straight-up-and-down compared to back in the day. Maybe it's the Pill hormones in our water or something.

Unless you're a medical professional, why would it ever occur to you to comment on someone else's weight? It's so incredibly rude and irrelevant. This thread is depressing.