To think people do not know what a healthy weight looks like.

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I am a healthy weight for my height and i constantly get comments on my weight like "gosh youre tiny" or "i could just pick you up" and "what do you eat to be small, just eat a burger" from people i work with etc. Do people really not know what a healthy weight is anymore? I just think "im not tiny i am a healthy weight and yes i do eat fucking burgers"
Im glad shops are more inclusive and plus size models are more common but i still think commenting on someones size is wrong no matter the size.

I think people now make comments about people who are a healthy weight because now more people aren’t than are, so it’s unusual to see someone who weighs what they should.

Apologies for the comparison but I liken it a bit to labradors. I have a perfectly balanced lab weight-wise and the amount of people who have told me that he is too thin astounds me. But I think the reality is that they just are so used to seeing fat labradors that seeing one who is the right weight looks out of place.

People are no longer described as fat but as “curvy”

I am 5 ft 2 and weigh 8 stone. Interestingly though most people tell me how wonderful I look, but in truth I am in heart failure, have a fluid restriction, eat no sugar, or salt where possible, and have managed to get my step count up to 10000 a day purely by wandering around my house while shielding.

I think that part of it for me is that people expect me to look unwell by virtue of the fact I am in heart failure and will, at some point, need a heart transplant. But as things currently stand, I don’t - I look extremely healthy.

I don’t need to manage my weight too far, but I do have to weigh myself daily anyway to ensure my fluid content doesn’t go too high. And in the meantime I take the view that the less weight my heart has to carry, the less stress it will be under, and the longer it might take before it decides to give up once and for all.

formerbabe
Of course it's a stealth boast...poor me, I'm so thin that all these disgusting fat people are so mean to me about it...why are they like that?! Head tilt...*

What a nasty post, but exactly what the thread is about, thank you for proving the point so well.

So you have issues, we got that. It doesn't give you the exclusive right to express yourself and others to have to shut up because they have different experience than you.

and you illustrate perfectly your entitled and smug belief that slimmer people are fair game.

What exactly gives you the right to mock and abuse someone? We should start reporting and not accepting the "slim-shaming" that is going on...

I think there's something in this OP, and I also think a lot of people have lost sight of what normal sized portions are / sensible amount of food to consume in a day. And I don't say this from a position of smugness at all. I am overweight (am a size 12 but I'm short, and also, vanity sizing) and I'm working on that - starting with addressing the fact that for my height, I actually shouldn't be eating that much, a sensible portion size for me is, sadly, quite a lot smaller than for my over 6ft DP!

I do think it shocking when you find competitive eating threads on here, and people actually boasting and being proud of over-eating. It's bad enough that people don't even bother to acknowledge what is normal and what is not, but to insult others who are not indulging so much.. that's pathetic.

Read all the threads around Christmas diner, it actually takes efforts and makes you lethargic and lazy to over-eat. But it's Christmas, so why not.

The sad truth is that it's the same thing all year round. If you are used to size-appropriate portions, you are not missing out on anything, you are not hungry, you enjoy food. You just spread your enjoyment over a week, you don't eat everything in the same day. Why do you have to put up with nasty comments at all?

Since when not snacking all day, not eating sick portions is worth commenting on? Not eating an entire pizza does not make you unhealthy or ridicule...

So you have issues, we got that

Once again proving what this thread is about. The entire undercurrent of this thread has been that these comments arise purely from envy. There's a huge number of women on these boards who are incredibly proud of the fact they're thin.. literally, it's their greatest achievement. They despise women who don't hate themselves if they're overweight.

Nobody cares if you're thin Janice. Nobody.

YANBU; people who comment on your weight are being unkind. It is totally not justifiable to mock someone's size or appearance.

I think the problem is that the healthy adult BMI range is quite wide (18.5 to 25). This might lead some people to forget that it is perfectly healthy and normal to be at either end of the range. If I lost a few pounds or gained a few stones, I'd still be within the healthy BMI range but I'd look different. That's not an excuse but it might be an explanation?

*There's a huge number of women on these boards who are incredibly proud of the fact they're thin.. literally, it's their greatest achievement."

Any examples?

TinyPigeon
so much bitterness, insults and vile comments about people who are thin (you have no idea what my body shape might be...), people do care a bit too much....

I agree OP.

I’m 5’9” and sit around 10stone 6lb with an athletic build (although I’m definitely heavier and softer now since having activity levels reduced in lockdown!) I’m a BMI of around 21 (which is smack bang in the middle of the 18-25 range) and yet I’m always told I’m skinny. I hate people commenting.

I do think larger is considered normal now though. I always wonder when medical professionals say “you’re 4 stone away from getting into the healthy BMI range” why people aren’t encouraged to sit comfortably in the middle of it. Of course getting into it is a great achievement (and a big pat on the back to anyone that has done this or is well on their way ) but I can’t help but think even some medics sell a “high end of normal” BMI as the goal.

formerbabe
wow, the OP starts a thread because she is fed up of unwanted, unreasonable and rude comments

but somehow, you manage to turn it around, and make it her fault. BRAVO. You could not have proven the point better.

I saw someone say "go eat a leaf" to someone on one thread. Imagine if this was changed to "go eat a cake" and aimed at fat person🤷🏻

The entire undercurrent of this thread has been that these comments arise purely from envy.

what else is it? Why making nasty comment at all? Unless you feel miffed, why would you care and need to comment at all?

It is incredibly rude to comment on someone's weight, big or small. However, I too think there is some stealth boasting on this thread.

I am currently a healthy weight and consider myself slim. I have been at various times in my life classed as overweight and at the lighter end of healthy.

Being slim is a huge commodity today. Society is obsessed with it. And for me, it quite simply does not sting as much to be told you are looking a bit skinny as it does if it's suggested you have put on weight. I have been told I have 'taken weight loss to far' and secretly felt over the moon. I reckon other people would admit this too.

No one should be commenting on anyone's weight in polite conversation, I'm just not buying the faux outrage and 'you can't say anything and you're fat shaming yet slim people are maligned' type comments. Because it's SO hard being slim compared to being overweight!

Nonw of my comments have been nasty. Just observations

Thanks for your honesty @ohnomesandwiches

That's exactly it

It's truly horrible being asked if you're anorexic though and having people stare at you saying god you're so thin. It's very upsetting.

I don’t think being called “too skinny” is as bad either. It has currency.

I’m not sure I agree with the ‘never commenting about weight’ thing though. My DS became a bit overweight a few years ago and we were able to have a reasonable and honest conversation about eating 1/2 a packet of chocolate digestives in one sitting without me giving him a complex, eating disorder or any form of resentment.

Talking to strangers about their weight would be weird, but for friends and family, presuming you have the ability to be communicate reasonably, these conversations shouldn’t be off limits.

Ha ha, stealth boasting thread - the Samantha Brick sty,e of posting (but here slenderness instead of draw dropping beauty

"I always wonder when medical professionals say “you’re 4 stone away from getting into the healthy BMI range” why people aren’t encouraged to sit comfortably in the middle of it"

Because losing 4 stone to get to that top end of healthy is a far less daunting prospect than having to lose 5 or 6 to get to the middle of it and so people might be more inclined to try and do it.

How do posters not see that being called "anorexic", "gaunt" or "skinny" is really upsetting and offensive?! Its basically someone telling you that you look unhealthy and shit. Who would like this? Noone.

I don't mind being called skinny. Sorry if that doesn't fit the narrative.

Agree on the other two.

@ohnomesandwiches That's cool, everyone is different. I personally take it to mean unpleasantly thin as its usually said (to me) with the "too" in front..."omg you are tooooo skinny" and "youd look so much better with some more meat on you" etc. Just rude.

I don't mind being called skinny. Sorry if that doesn't fit the narrative.

Equally I don't mind being called fat. Sorry if that doesn't fit the narrative 🤷🏻

@gypsywater I think a lot people who make these kind of comments either a) genuinely think they are paying a compliment because today's normal has become the new skinny, or far less often b) are just bitchy and horrible people.

I had someone call me a skinny bitch once. She was just an arsehole. If she hadn't commented on that it would have been something else.