To think people do not know what a healthy weight looks like.

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I am a healthy weight for my height and i constantly get comments on my weight like "gosh youre tiny" or "i could just pick you up" and "what do you eat to be small, just eat a burger" from people i work with etc. Do people really not know what a healthy weight is anymore? I just think "im not tiny i am a healthy weight and yes i do eat fucking burgers"
Im glad shops are more inclusive and plus size models are more common but i still think commenting on someones size is wrong no matter the size.

I think it's really rude to comment on a person's weight. Big or small, thin or fat.

@ohnomesandwiches
I think you're right - the women at my work who do it are generally pretty bitchy to other female colleagues. They also only really say it when they're together in a group at lunch or whatever.

Don't think my son " felt secretly over the moon" when his classmates were laughing, calling him "gross" and saying that seeing his body in swimwear made them feel sick ohnomesandwiches. Those comments were just as hurtful and unacceptable as they would be if said to an overweight child, yet the teacher brushed it aside as silliness. I suspect the reaction may have been firmer had he been overweight. You may not mind being called skinny, but that doesn't mean that those who do are anything other than genuinely upset.

@MrsAvocet that's really horrible

How do posters not see that being called "anorexic", "gaunt" or "skinny" is really upsetting and offensive

It's really really rude. But do I think you're genuinely distressed? Probably not and definitely not in the same way you would be if you got called a fat cow. Why? Because being thin is generally seen as being more desirable than being overweight. Hence, it's not really viewed as an insult.

@formerbabe I can assure you that I was "genuinely distressed". I was bullied throughout school about my appearance and find these things in adulthood really hurtful.

Don't think my son " felt secretly over the moon" when his classmates were laughing, calling him "gross" and saying that seeing his body in swimwear made them feel sick

Of course. I'm sorry that happened to your ds...it's nasty. The thing is being a thin man is not generally seen as a good thing in our society...it's a totally different situation for women. Thinness is celebrated in women.

@MrsAvocet that is horrendous and I'm sorry to hear that happened to your son. It sounds like sheer bullying and wasn't the kind of situation I had in mind when I commented.

And you are totally right, people are entitled to be upset if someone calls them skinny. As I said in my post, it's rude to make comments like these full stop.

It's just that I sometimes doubt how genuine some of the posts I've seen about being offended at being called skinny are. I sometimes suspect it's being used an excuse to belittle and feel superior to overweight people.

Considering the average size in the uk is 16, I dont think people realise what a healthy ideal weight is anymore no.

It's just that I sometimes doubt how genuine some of the posts I've seen about being offended at being called skinny are. I sometimes suspect it's being used an excuse to belittle and feel superior to overweight people.

The world doesn't revolve around people who are overweight.

@Sandybval Pretty sure I never said that it did! What a bizarre response.

I think people have lost sight of "normal" & we now have extremes. Very thin or overweight with little middle ground.

I get it quite a lot despite being half a stone heavier that I would like.

You are tiny (I'm not) you have lost a lot of weight havent you (said disapprovingly) why are you dieting? You are a fitness freak. Have a day off.

My BMI is 22 but I think it is more to do with me being short at 5ft 2 maybe it gives the illusion of being smaller overall?

@ohnomesandwiches you're saying you suspect that most people who say they don't like being called skinny do so because of fat people. No, they just don't like it, ie not everything is to do with people who are overweight. I used to get called fat all of the time, after losing a lot of weight I still get people commenting on my body, and both are irritating and uneccessary. Just believe some people just don't like being called skinny!

'Gosh, you're looking particularly wide today!'.

Howling!!

I was considered skinny as a kid, teen, young adult & it wasn't fashionable when I was young. I was tall & what would now be model skinny but I wanted to be like Cindy Crawford etc. Somehow in my 20s it became desirable to be really thin & now in my 30s your meant to have a big bum & boobs but tiny waist.

@ohnomesandwiches that's not what I said.

The problem is, I see a lot of younger overweight girls sharing things celebrating eating shit whilst being happy in your own skin, then all their fat fiends chime in with, hahaha, yes that's us!

Another of my friends on Facebook shared a photo of herself in a skimpy skirt saying 'finally accepting the way I am' accepting she's fat in other words. Of course all her friends told her, 'looking good hun' 'gorge babes'

It's bloody hard to lose weight, I've been obese but I never celebrated it, I hated it. I was a minority back than, now it's almost the norm. Forget the health issues in years to come.

ohnomesandwiche
Because it's SO hard being slim compared to being overweight!
is it?

Have people completely lost touch with reality and cannot comprehend that not everybody is naturally overweight?
Use a male example instead of a woman one if it helps.

Some people are naturally skinny, and get mocked because of it. Some people naturally don't eat that much, and don't have much "curves". They might even struggle because of it.

It's also completely ridiculous to pretend it's so HARD not to over-eat. If you have never stuffed yourself, why would you start and eat more calories than you actually need? Many kids are skinny, even these days. They don't find it "hard", they are not hungry.

@Sandybval Managed to tag myself in my last post. That's not what I was trying to say. But it sounds like we both agree that it's rude and unnecessary to be commenting on someone's weight in the vast majority of circumstances.

I sometimes suspect it's being used an excuse to belittle and feel superior to overweight people.

it says a hell of lot more about you than anything else. If you got a chip on your shoulder and are unhappy with yourself, it's on you. It does not give you the right or justify making nasty comments about others.

No one should have to tolerate insults or just nasty comments because others seem jealous or bitter. Since when is it remotely acceptable to tell an adult that they are eating too much or not enough? Who do you think you are?

Have people completely lost touch with reality and cannot comprehend that not everybody is naturally overweight?

I'm naturally slim, small frame, 5ft 10 but it's nonsense to spout that dozens of adult women (not teens) who are tall & size 8 are naturally so. Otherwise I wouldn't have been surrounded by girls who ate cotton wool or nothing when I did modelling.

It's also completely ridiculous to pretend it's so HARD not to over-eat

Me and my three pies in three days disagree.

@JaniceWebster That part of my post was sarcasm.

I wasn't referring to how hard it is to try and stay slim. I was talking about the response you get from society for being slim versus being overweight.

It's also completely ridiculous to pretend it's so HARD not to over-eat. If you have never stuffed yourself, why would you start and eat more calories than you actually need?

A great deal of.obese people have been through a traumatic event and use food as a coping mechanism. Just as some people turn to drink or drugs. Its actually quite common amongst sexual abuse victims to put on large amounts of weight.