Ex has a wedding photo up

[Bugeyedgirl]

Ex and I split up and it was a very bad break up. We do not speak and he doesn't see our child ever, hasn't for 8 years through he own choice.
I saw on Facebook he has a picture from our wedding on the wall, just him and his father. His father is still alive, so they could easily take another photo. I looked to see if he put anything up about father's day as he abandoned his child because normally there is some "alienated father's" post.

He is married and has been with his wife for nearly 10 years!

Aibu to think this is weird? No way would I have a pic of that day on my wall, in my wedding dress etc.

[Ughmaybenot]

Wow.. you are really studying his photos huh. You’re not helping yourself by stalking his page you know, it’s just dragging the pain on (and I don’t quite believe you that it’s only once a year on Father’s Day). Block him fgs.
He’s clearly a complete bellend for abandoning his child, but no, in answer to your question, I don’t think there’s anything weird about him having a photo of him and his dad on the wall, regardless of when it was taken.

[Mrskeats]

Fancy being the dad of someone who abandoned his child. The picture may be nice but its actions that make a family.
People who abandon their kids are the lowest of the low.

[Chiochan]

I have an ex that goes around saying I used to coerce him in to sex. Compleatly untrue in any way.

I saw him at the end of my road sometime at the begining of lockdown hanging around for about half an hour (he lives nowhere near me and my road is not on the way to anywhere).
I just thought meh, that was weird.

Dont give them the headspace, thats my advice.

[WorraLiberty]

@Welshmaenad

My ex has a photo of him and his brothers from our wedding, on his living room wall. I see it when the children video call me. I find it odd given that he and his girlfriend think I am the biggest cunt ever to grace the earth, but people are weird. He's not even very close to his brothers.

That's not weird.

If he's not close to his brothers, there's probably little opportunity to take a group photo.

[Bugeyedgirl]

@Mrskeats his family refuse to see our child also, so they probably don't give a shit either. And when I say refuse, I mean told me to "fuck off" when I offered contact. They've not seen their grandchild since before we broke up!

[Candyfloss99]

He obviously didn't associate the photo with you or your wedding, it's just a photo of him and his dad. You are reading way too much into it and sound a bit obsessed.

[AryaStarkWolf]

Not weird if you're not in the photo but he sounds like an arsehole abandoning his child like that

[VenusTiger]

@Bugeyedgirl look after yourself, go find some happiness

[Ginkypig]

@WorraLiberty

It'd be weird for a bride in her wedding dress to have a pic of her and her mum on the wall.

But 2 blokes in a suit is not so weird. He probably just really likes that pic of him and his dad.

This what I was thinking.

I know it's odd to you because you know the circumstances of the photo but most people it would just be a photo of a son and father together looking smart in suits.

There are a lot of things he has done that you are absolutely rightly upset about op but on this I think you are being overly sensitive because those issues have clouded things.
I get why you are checking on his page but for your sake you should just leave it alone. I'm saying this with kindness.

[bubbleup]

@Shinygreenelephant

"I have a framed photo in my house of my grandparents kissing on my sisters wedding day. They’re divorced and she hates it but it’s a gorgeous photo of them so I’m not arsed. My mum also has a huge canvas of my daughter in her bridesmaids dress from the same ill fated wedding which she also objects to but it’s a gorgeous picture so 🤷🏻‍♀️"

That's really cruel of you and your mum. It must hurt her and bring memories back each time she sees them. She's told you she doesn't want to see them and that she actually hates it yet you put a nice photo over her feelings. Wow

[Bugeyedgirl]

Thank you @Ginkypig I think you are right. Time to move on and give up hope in him doing the right thing by our child and by telling the truth.

[Felifox]

I don't think it's unusual to look at his fb page but as your ex -and his family- have abandoned your dc then try not to as it's too upsetting for you and your dc.

[bigchris]

Bugeyedgirl , thst is awful of him amd his family your poor child, my heart goes out to you both today of all days

[Bugeyedgirl]

Thank you @bigchris it is hard, thankfully my father is amazing

[sonjadog]

He has moved on with his life, and you should too. The photo is probably hanging there precisely because it means nothing more to him than a nice photo of him and his Dad. By stalking his social media you are only hurting yourself. Best thing would be block him and be done with all this.

[Honeyroar]

I don’t even think a photo of a bride and her mother is that weird to keep if you like the picture. The only thing that would be weird to have on display is a photo with the ex bride and groom together. Otherwise it’s just a picture of the bride or groom with someone that they still love and a picture they liked.

[NoProblem123]

You have every right to check his FB whenever you feel like it, he’s abandoned your child so you get to do anything you like.

However, I don’t think it’s weird he put the photo up - he obviously likeD the pic with his dad in nice suits (and no, I don’t believe this is the same as you putting one up of one in your wedding dress).

What is weird is him even acknowledging Father’s Day when he isn’t in touch with his child. Writing shit about you makes him feel better. He’s a cunt OP. Enjoy bringing up your child without him, you’re well rid.
Cunt.

[Carandi]

Does he look like a groom in the photo OP or are they just wearing smart suits? I'd have thought in 10 years he would have had opportunity to have had another nice photo taken with his dad. Maybe at his second wedding? Must be an exceptional photo.

[Thisismytimetoshine]

Does he look like a groom in the photo OP or are they just wearing smart suits?
What's the difference, beyond a flower in his lapel?

[Thisismytimetoshine]

I mean if he was wearing a top hat and tails op might have mentioned it.

[ThatUserNamesTakenTryAnother]

You shouldn't be looking at his Facebook it's a weird, whatever he puts up is none of your business and due to you not seeing him what's the point as you can't exactly talk about it.
The photo is of him and his dad, period. Just like he may have photos of him and his dad when you were in the same room....

[stealm]

I don't think the photo is weird at all. It's probably the nicest photo he has with him and his Dad in it. They would have been wearing suits - it's not quite the same as a bride wearing her wedding dress which is obviously from her wedding.

I think you should stop looking at his facebook on Father's Dad (or any day in fact). He's not going to change and it's only going to annoy you.

[Yeahnahmum]

Why would that photo bother you. You are not in it. It is just a photo of him and his dad op. Yes, taken at your wedding day but they might have 0 others.
Please find closure in him walking out on you and your son after soooo many years. And stop hoping he is coming back for your son. He clearly isn't. Unfollow him and block him. It had been too long. By this stage you are just torturing yourself and allowing this hurt to go on for way too long. Don't pretend you only snoop on fathers day either... This man is no longer your child's dad. It is his conceiver at this stage. A man walking away from his wife is one thing but walking away from his own flesh and blood? For so long. He ain't coming back. Get counseling maybe op to see if they can help you heal the hurt. And forget about this man. And his photo on the wall

[Euclid]

Don't be ridiculous OP. This is obviously a photo that your ex likes of him and his Dad and, as another poster said, no doubt they were spruced up and well dressed on his wedding day. If he didn't say anything about you in relation to the photo, then none of this is your concern. There may be separate issues with your ex but the photo is not one of them.

[TimeWastingButFun]

But you said it was just him and his father. So it's just them, why not have the picture up?