Ex has a wedding photo up

[Bugeyedgirl]

Ex and I split up and it was a very bad break up. We do not speak and he doesn't see our child ever, hasn't for 8 years through he own choice.
I saw on Facebook he has a picture from our wedding on the wall, just him and his father. His father is still alive, so they could easily take another photo. I looked to see if he put anything up about father's day as he abandoned his child because normally there is some "alienated father's" post.

He is married and has been with his wife for nearly 10 years!

Aibu to think this is weird? No way would I have a pic of that day on my wall, in my wedding dress etc.

You need to move on. Stop FB stalking him.

Thank you @Mrskeats I think it is weird that until you said, no one has mentioned that. Just that I am in the wrong for looking.
Yeah maybe I am. Maybe I am hoping he will post something saying he wants to see his child? Maybe I'm hoping one day he will reach out and want to repair his relationship. I still have hope.

Yeh it is odd but leave him to it!

With regards to pic id be more concerned if it was a pic of yourself and ex, as for looking at his facebook to see what nastiness has been posted, stop, i know its curiosity but you are only doing yourself harm. You will never be able to stop him playing victim and those close to you no the truth, thats all that matters

@Browzingss YY. Absolutely this.

Yeh agree that he is no prize to have not tried to see his child in 8 yrs

I have a framed photo in my house of my grandparents kissing on my sisters wedding day. They’re divorced and she hates it but it’s a gorgeous photo of them so I’m not arsed. My mum also has a huge canvas of my daughter in her bridesmaids dress from the same ill fated wedding which she also objects to but it’s a gorgeous picture so 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think I didn't explain it correctly.

This photo is on the wall in his home. In the background of a picture of his dog.

No on his Facebook wall

You're not in the photo! What's the problem?

Whether it's a framed photo in his home or not, it's a photo of him and his dad. It's honestly none of your business if he has it up or not.

Erm... I have a photo of my ex that I have not managed to bin yet. He is with my favourite dog, now gone, when he was a puppy. Believe it or not, I’m keeping for the puppy.

I would say however that he may have that photo up because it was the last photo where he looked and dad looked “okay“

I get where you're coming from x

Haha wedding photo! You make it sound like it's a photo of the two of you. Turns out it's a photo of a dog, and he has a photo of himself and his dad somewhere in the background.

You're coming across as a bit obsessed with him. Leave him alone. Move on.

If it helps... my ExP used a photo my father shot of the two of us (he cropped me off) for his match.com profile.

I was honestly not annoyed she I saw it but found it a bit sad he didn’t have any other photos, he hardly had any opportunities to appear in photos, he had no family and hardly any friends 🤷🏻‍♀️

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You’re well rid of him, OP. It’s sad that your child has no loving father, but that's his fault. He is a lousy father, so I can’t imagine your DC would be happier with him in their life.

There’s still time for you to have a drink this evening, to celebrate being free of him.

@Bugeyedgirl

I think I didn't explain it correctly.

This photo is on the wall in his home. In the background of a picture of his dog.

No on his Facebook wall

That’s even worse! You’re here studying the background of his photos like some private detective.

Look, it’s unhealthy for your mental health to keep stalking your ex’s social media. I just think you’re too emotionally invested. He’s not your husband anymore, so what’s the point? Every year you just give yourself a mental complex over what he posts, no matter how vague the connection to you is.

You’ve split up for a decade yet he’s still on your mind and to a certain degree, controlling your thoughts. If he wants to finally get in touch with his child, he won’t just announce it on Facebook in the hopes you see it and message him back. Your stalking is pointless

Not annoyed when I saw it, even..

I don't think it is weird you looked on his fb, l have a little nose at my ex sometimes, no harm there! I wouldn't overthink the picture though, don't think men think the same as us with things like that x

So now your examining the background in his house when he posts pictures of other things

It’s just a picture of him and his dad. There is nothing else to it.

You’re only hurting yourself by still stalking him 10 years later via social media.
Block him.

Yes, he’s a total tosser for not seeing his child but Facebook stalking him isn’t going to change that.

Ok that's fair enough thanks for the advice and opinions. I will take it on board. I think what @Louise91417 and @VenusTiger has really struck a chord. Thank you both very much for commenting, you made a lot of sense

It'd be weird for a bride in her wedding dress to have a pic of her and her mum on the wall.

But 2 blokes in a suit is not so weird. He probably just really likes that pic of him and his dad.

He put a nice pic up of him and his dad, you saw it while snooping. It’s not a big deal. Don’t go on his page.

My ex has a photo of him and his brothers from our wedding, on his living room wall. I see it when the children video call me. I find it odd given that he and his girlfriend think I am the biggest cunt ever to grace the earth, but people are weird. He's not even very close to his brothers.

@Welshmaenad

My ex has a photo of him and his brothers from our wedding, on his living room wall. I see it when the children video call me. I find it odd given that he and his girlfriend think I am the biggest cunt ever to grace the earth, but people are weird. He's not even very close to his brothers.

If you're not in the picture, it's not odd at all.

Bit weird, mostly lazy I think. If it’s a nice photo of him and his dad in posh suits and maybe he’s not noticeably the “Groom”, I can see why. It’s harder than you expect to get a nice photo with a parent.
Although if he was the one wearing the big white frock, then I think he’d be less likely to keep it on the wall.