To get the rage every time my DH places the Tesco order?

[Rushhomeroad]

When lock down started, and booking delivery slots was difficult, I downloaded the apps for a few supermarkets and randomly tried at various times of the day to secure a slot. To process the booking that far in advance, I just ordered random items off our favourites lists. DH would then amend before the deadline.

AIBU to be totally enraged with DH, that for the fifth week running, we've had duplicate items or unnecessary items that he insists I have ordered, when I've told him weekly that I add random items to hold the booking and to amend as necessary. Every week he says yes, yes. Then does it again!

He is a pretty good DH, but we're meant to be watching every penny (he is under threat of redundancy) and yet he duplicates some of the order presumably because he can't be assed to check. AIBU?

(Full disclosure - this was happening from the start of lock down, but I just assumed it was due to stock issues or substitutions.
DH is amending the order as he is furloughed and I'm now working full time self employed, so need to offload some responsibilities.
I only add about ten items, so not massive amounts to check through)

I hold my slot with a bunch of bananas :)

Already said we're high risk - haven't even been able to visit my Mum since my Dad died at the end of March.

Thanks for all the clarification on the minimum spend - had I realised that, I would have had far less stress!

It's not difficult to get slots now. Plus OP is high risk as is her DH. So all the posters complaining on behalf of other people can just stop. All this faux competitive caring is bloody tedious.

Eh? I literally just stick some milk in my basket and checkout to get my delivery slot. Then add to that when it’s time to complete my order. What on Earth is the point of adding 10 items that you don’t even need to your basket? Makes no sense at all

In the initial slot scramble I had, at times, added 2 bottles of champagne to hold my slot when slots were released at midnight because that’s well past my bedtime. I just needed to check out quickly so I could get some sleep.
Who do you shop with? It’s a minimum £40 spend for our (shielding) shopping to book the slot. Infuriating when they had a glitch for over 12 hours and wouldn’t let me amend, I had bread, milk, yogurt, fruit & veg but couldn’t add any meat!

Everyone knows you save the order with champagne never food
This, it’s the rule.

@PrincessHoneysuckle

Everyone knows you save the order with champagne never food

I thought it was bog roll

Haha I always save the slot with champagne.

Although I do wonder if it causes stock problems for them? With over ordering🤷‍♀️

My DH books the slots as I can’t be trusted to remember, actually I just can’t be arsed to remember and he likes doing it (since before lockdown), the only problem is he adds milk, bananas and butter But we don’t consume a packet of butter a week, the record number of packs we accumulated was 5.

Always save the slot with two bottles of champagne.

If you don't like how he
Does it do it yourself?

If it is a regular annoyance to you, perhaps DH could book the slots and you place the actual order.
I think getting the rage with him about it is a bit over the top.
I am the only one in our home who has gone through the annoying convoluted process of booking slots and, like you, I add some odd items to secure the slots. I am the one placing the orders, usually at the last minute because I don’t actually know what we need until the night before. I have forgotten to amend the basket on time and was too late to cancel an order, I have repeatedly ordered duplicates, I have regularly forgotten to order something important/obvious, I have on occasions ordered something I don’t even remember looking at , the list goes on. It’s a right faff, it’s an annoying process, I hate spending money unnecessarily but it is what it is. And I am one of those list and organised types of people. I’ve put it down to experience and living in unusual times and lack of time.
You could cut DH a bit of slack, hope he learns from these mistakes or do it yourself if you really don’t trust him.

@AriettyHomily

Always save the slot with two bottles of champagne.

If you don't like how he
Does it do it yourself?

Rush has already said multiple times that her DH has been furloughed whereas she is working full time as well as dealing with two losses. Like fuck should she have to do it because her husband doesn't check the existing basket!

@Rushhomeroad glad he is taking full responsibility now!

I hold my slot with three bottles of Baileys.

Why don't you just do a proper order when you reserve the slot? It's much simpler. Don't split a task unnecessarily and then criticise the other person for not knowing your mind!

@lankylemon

Why don’t you just hold the order with things you actually want? That’s what we do...

^ This.

I just created a new order for 2 weeks' time with 4 tins of assorted beans, simples!

I've always held my slot with a copy of a previous order because I thought you needed the £40 minimum.

This has been an enlightening thread. Cheers.

Disagree with the people saying its too confusing to both be editing the account. My partner is capable of reading the list of whats already in the baskst before he starts adding things. OP I would be annoyed too, its just lazy.

Ah I see hes going to do it all, hopefully that works out for you :)

YANBU, glad he will take full responsibility for it.

Not your problem to fix.

I put 4 pints of milk in the basket & checkout to reserve my slot.

Sainsburys & Morrisons it has to be over £40 before you can reserve.

Tesco on the other hand, pop a packet of polos in your basket and jobs a gooden

@Ernieshere don’t you have to have a minimum spend? OP probably picked the expensive alcohol for ease in getting to minimum spend.

*disclaimer, I’ve never had a food delivery

@MarcelineMissouri the minimum order to reserve a Tesco slot is £40. You can’t just stick a pint of milk or loaf of bread in to reserve it

What happens if you only spend £20? Can you pay for delivery?

I hold my slot with Vodka, sometimes Gin or champagne especially if its on offer. I did actually forget about an order once (pre lockdown) and had a very small delivery of spirits much to mine and the drivers amusement.

But yes, it is very easy for your DH just to delete the contents of the basket before he starts the shopping. I can see you getting the rage when he repeatedly cocks it up.

@Gulabjamoon

It says you will be charged £4, I just ignore that as when I top it up, the charge goes.

With Sainsburys - I put 4 boxes if Felix in the trolley.

My cat would go mad if I ever gave her Felix, I hope it doesnt backfire on me one day