To get the rage every time my DH places the Tesco order?

[Rushhomeroad]

When lock down started, and booking delivery slots was difficult, I downloaded the apps for a few supermarkets and randomly tried at various times of the day to secure a slot. To process the booking that far in advance, I just ordered random items off our favourites lists. DH would then amend before the deadline.

AIBU to be totally enraged with DH, that for the fifth week running, we've had duplicate items or unnecessary items that he insists I have ordered, when I've told him weekly that I add random items to hold the booking and to amend as necessary. Every week he says yes, yes. Then does it again!

He is a pretty good DH, but we're meant to be watching every penny (he is under threat of redundancy) and yet he duplicates some of the order presumably because he can't be assed to check. AIBU?

(Full disclosure - this was happening from the start of lock down, but I just assumed it was due to stock issues or substitutions.
DH is amending the order as he is furloughed and I'm now working full time self employed, so need to offload some responsibilities.
I only add about ten items, so not massive amounts to check through)

Great result there @Rushhomeroad take a deep breathe and relax - you've been through a lot so be kind to yourself.

I think you should place hold with things you want.

@Whatifitallgoesright they obviously have functioning bodies and a car but the op has just said that they are both high risk so what you just said is both pointless and totally unnecessary.

I'm definitely putting a bottle of bubbly and a big bag of kettle chips in next week's shop and forget to remove them

I think you should place hold with things you want.

This. Then you can't lose - he orders it, you get a treat. He doesn't, you're happy

You can reserve a tesco slot with 1 pint of milk. It need not be more than the £40.

Ha ha, I definitely add nice stuff for me!!

(and this thread has taught me about 'empty basket', expensive alcohol place holders and that you don't have to reach a minimum spend - so thanks!)

Yabu my DP managed to order 35 pints of milk which arrived last Sunday.

You just have to go full Cleopatra at that point.

I always thought you needed a £40 min basket for Tesco to check out.

I add one banana to hold the slot, and then the evening before we do the list while cooking dinner, it takes 10 minutes, I am shielding so really need to make sure I get everything in there, it’s my only provision for the week.

You do know you don't have to accept everything they send, if you don't need it, not just substitutes?

@AWryGiraffe, it will charge you extra, as it’s not the minimum necessary, but it will remove it when you add the rest

No, you can check out with any amount it just adds a packing charge which is removed when you spend, £40. I know because DH wouldn't believe me but I checked out with one single carrot a 7p. I also always place hold with champagne just in case I forget to amend the order and add anything else at least I'd be happy when it arrived.

Also shock horror I use delivery and I'm not high risk.

Why don’t you just hold the order with things you actually want? That’s what we do...

YABU for taking a slot that a shielding or vulnerable person or NHS worker could have had. Beyond that I don’t care if you get shopping you shouldn’t get. First world problem

The only issue with place holding with one item is if that item goes out of stock, your slot gets cancelled! At least that’s what happened to my vulnerable shielding mum one week!

Well you learn something new! Having said that I always put on a bottle of booze, so no risk of being disappointed.

@MadameMeursault

YABU for taking a slot that a shielding or vulnerable person or NHS worker could have had. Beyond that I don’t care if you get shopping you shouldn’t get. First world problem

OP has already been back to explain that they are both high risk and cannot go to the shops.

Even if that wasn’t the case, your post is needlessly unpleasant.

This is a complete non problem. As pp said, just put a bottle of champagne in your basket to reserve the slot and then remove before doing the shop properly.

It's what I've been doing, the only thing that's interesting about this thread is finding out how many other people do this as well.

@FenellaVelour

Yabu my DP managed to order 35 pints of milk which arrived last Sunday.

You just have to go full Cleopatra at that point.

For this you win my internet post of the week. 🏆🥇

YABU for taking a slot that a shielding or vulnerable person or NHS worker could have had. P

Slots are readily available in my area, so why not book them?

My boss works FT in an NHS frontline worker role treating Covid patients. She is a single parent. She has no local support. She struggles to get a delivery slot because of people like you.

I just add milk which I will always need to hold the slot. You only need one item. Slot are definitely getting easier to get hold of now though.

People like you? You mean vulnerable people who are at a high risk?

Surely everyone knows you reserve the slot with alcohol? That way any duplications are an added bonus.

I think the best way round this is to tell your DH to keep out of your shopping list and do his own.