Aibu to think this may have ruined a friendship?

[Barobee]

TL;DR friend’s boyfriend won’t get his car out of my garage and it’s pissing me off.

Longer version: two years ago a good friend asked if her boyfriend could store his car in my garage. It was supposed to be for three months max as he had just exchanged on a house so would be able to store it in his new house’s garage once it had completed.

I said yes as she’s a good friend and I don’t mind being helpful.

Two years on and the fucking car’s still there. I texted at the beginning of June to ask if it could be moved by mid June because I wanted to paint the garage and turn it into a room where DC could hang out a bit. Friend said she would tell him he needed to move his car. Two weeks later, at friend’s suggestion as he had shown no interest in collecting the car, I texted again to ask when he was coming. No joy.

I’ve just texted again today and said if it’s easier can she just give me his number so I can deal with him directly. Now the reply is that she’ll give me his number later because she’s got another child visiting.

At first I was annoyed at him, partly because I sometimes think he treats friend quite badly, but now I’m beginning to think that they are both taking the piss (him more than her) and this is going to impact badly on our friendship. AIBU and what can I do?

Taking the actual piss massively

Reading your replies I will hedge a bet that this car will still be in your garage this time next year.
Probably still be waiting for a reply aswell

You do realise that the car will have seized up after not being used for 2 years. Cheeky sod will need a tow truck to move it. Has he been in touch yet??

You're worried about ruining a friendship but your friend is in the wrong not you. She should be worried not you.

You don't have to make up excuses about decorsting. He's clearly taking the piss. What did the text say and has he got back to you?

Has he replied to your text OP?

Smash the window take the handbrake off and park it outside on the road. Simple. Stop being a fanny. Your friend sounds like a piss taker. You sound like a nice person. Stop letting them take the piss out of you. Dont even text her. Let the dvla deal with it.

Can't you push it onto the street? As it has no MOT/tax/insurance the council or DVLA will tow it away for you

Hand brake off, small shove, byee

Just tell it if it isn’t gone by x date the scrap man is coming to tow it away.

Can't you just change the lock on the garage @Barobee? Then shove the car as far as needed to get the work done, and tell the friend's P it'll be on the road attracting fines if he doesn't fetch it. But don't please let it stop you getting the work done.

I’m a suspicious type. Hmmm need to hide a car, hmm car still moved form said hiding place and bloke reluctant to move it. I would be ringing the cops - give the registration plate and the name of the owner. You may find that it has been involved in a serious crime. I would also keep texts from friend to show your innocence!

If this is the case you probably won’t be arsed if it gets scrapped either as evidence will be destroyed. You need to seriously question why this has happened

All these people saying get it scrapped, or get the scrap man to tow it away...

Scrap dealers will not take a car without the registration document, which clearly the OP will not have.

Call the police and tell them the car was dumped in your garage. It is not yours. Can they tell you what to do as it may have been involved in a crime for all you know.

Hmmmm, my thoughts? Having apparently said nothing for the last 2 years, to give them 2 weeks to remove the car, which probably won't drive, at a time when (?) Money is likely to be tight, and getting help to move the car may be difficult, seems a little unfair. It could be said that (?),having done nothing for all this time was acceptance of the situation.

Could you not give your friend and her partner a couple of months notice to remove?

Did you send it through what's app as then you would have confirmation he received it op

I bet this goes the same way as the "neighbours say we agreed to sell them our garden" thread ...

Has he got back to you, OP?

I would just tell them you have a plasterer coming on a certain day and if it's not gone by then you will be smashing the window and rolling it onto the street.

I know you're not confrontational, I'm not either and would find it difficult, but it's been 2 YEARS!!! Your friend is allowing her partner to take the piss out of you and that's not how good friends act. Sorry.

He's probably hoping you put it on the road and it gets towed away as it will be easier for him. Let's face it, if he was going to do it up, he would be doing it now. Sounds like a lazy piece of work.
Text him - I'm going to break a window and dump it on the road if you have not made arrangements to move it by Weds. Lack of response indicates you are happy with this.

Having a DP who has loads of crappy old cars I can assure you that after that time the brakes will have seized and the tyres will be flat (highly likely to have degraded). Before the car can be moved it'll need to be jacked up to remove the wheels to unseize the brakes forceably.

You will not just be able to release the handbrake and push it out.

You legally can't get it towed off your property.
The 'scrapman' won't just come and take it away without proof you own it.

Just tell them the works are planned and a deposit paid and they are starting in 2 weeks. Do not change the date.

@SallyB392

Agree that people on here are ignoring that OP has not mentioned it or pushed them on it for 2 years. They could be forgiven for having the impression she didn’t mind!

It is weird though now that this guy is ignoring her.

Mumsnet is just kind of mental though really. It’s like watching an auction.

“Text them!”
“Ring them!”
“Isn’t it a bit expensive to leave there?”
“That’s a bit inconsiderate!”
“Tell them you need the garage free!”
“Tell them to remove it or you will!”
“Tell them you need it gone tomorrow“
“Report it to the police!”
“Don’t waste you’re time communicating your intentions, these people are utter bastards, what, can’t you spot a bastard???”
“The friendship is DEAD”
“OP you have no self-respect and this situation is a metaphor for your whole life. Have you done it yet? When are you going to do it? I’m refreshing the thread and getting nothing. Why aren’t you answering our questions, don’t you think that’s a bit odd?”

“DESTROY THE CAR”

Open the garage door, put a sign outside saying help yourself, free to anyone. Give your friend 2 hours notice of this add.

If you feel the friendship is going to be destroyed whatever you do. I'd tell him he has a week to move it, if it's not moved you will be moving it to a public rd. Let the authorities deal with it.

I bet he’s lost the keys...