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Would you buy a house next to a grave yard?

129 replies

BrokenBrit · 18/06/2020 19:52

Just looking for opinions on if this would put buyers off a house or not. Found a lovely property but it wouldn’t be our ‘forever’ home so would likely need to sell it at some point and am wondering if it would put the majority of buyers off or not. I’m not woo and find old graveyards peaceful. I wouldn’t choose to live next to a current one that would be different to me, but I’m fine with these old graves.

YABU - It would put me off a house
YANBU - it would not put me off a house.

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Bunnymumy · 19/06/2020 01:14

*but not on.

Rangoon · 19/06/2020 01:16

I think there might be a price discount because of the location. My father-in-law was a former real estate agent. I remember when we looking to buy our first house and we were discussing particular streets with him. He said of one street that it was city end of the suburb (which was a good thing in this context) but there was a discount on that particular street having the crematorium and memorial gardens even though it was very private with a very discreet entrance. it sounds different to your set up though but it could put some people off. Anything that reduces the pool of willing buyers depresses the price. How long has it been on the market? Has there been a price reduction?

Euclid · 19/06/2020 01:17

I am interested that everyone called it a graveyard, as I would call it a cemetery. Some of the Victorian cemeteries are not attached to churches.
I would have no problem living beside one. They are peaceful places with lots of greenery and wild life.

Genderwitched · 19/06/2020 02:17

We have one behind the house, it's lovely and peaceful. It didn't occur to us to be bothered when we bought the house.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 19/06/2020 02:21

No noisy neighbors throwing parties on the weekends.

Dancing zombies on a Friday night. Erm Are we a joke to you Grin

Mypathtriedtokillme · 19/06/2020 02:29

You would always have quiet neighbours and it wouldn’t get built on.

If it’s a old graveyard you wouldn’t have parking issues you might get with an active cemetery.

Hollyhobbi · 19/06/2020 02:47

As my dad always says it's not the dead you have to be afraid of! I think my sister wouldn't mind living near a cemetery as her neighbour is having parties nearly every night of the week although it has tapered off a bit since my bil rang the guards on them recently about it.

StarlightLady · 19/06/2020 03:40

I would not put me off renting a house, but it would put me off buying it, because of posts like this.

For the same reason, l would hesitate to buy a house that was number 13. I am not superstitious at all, but whe it comes to resale, it does put some potential buyers off.

Yeahnahmum · 19/06/2020 05:02

Pros: no noise coming from your new 'neighbours'
Cons: weird noises coming from your new 'neighbours' Confused

whiteblue · 19/06/2020 05:10

No way

Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow · 19/06/2020 05:25

It wouldn’t bother me at all. I find graveyards peaceful and rather grounding during times of strife!

In fact I would actively seek the house out because likely to quiet/older graveyards very green etc. That said, my husband once said he wouldn’t want such a house but he is easily persuaded

Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow · 19/06/2020 05:26

I also agree I wouldn’t want to live in an former hospital or asylum. There is one near me and lots off people reporting all sorts of odd things

brendansbuddy · 19/06/2020 07:53

I live right on one. Back patio meets it directly.
Pros, so peaceful, lots of nature, beauty, changing seasons, open space, no other houses gardens or neighbours at the back. No building work ever. Like yours, church converted to house.
Cons, had to buy weird chancel insurance to stop diocese taking the land back (sounded outrageous to me but not costly). Annoying maintenance sometimes done at 9pm by church group, bit antisocial, but occasional, and fortnightly council mowers.

Lots of dog walkers not following notices re dogs off lead And dog walkers/walkers walking quite near the window. Apparently you can buy film, and it doesn't bother me any more than street passers by would.
Most visitors love it because of the green space, very few are spooked. And it is spooky, but pros greatly outweigh.

Circe32 · 19/06/2020 08:13

The last house that we rented backed onto a graveyard and we only moved because the landlord needed to sell. There were new graves being placed on the other side of our garden fence when we started living there, but it wasn't a concern at all. We just made sure to keep the noise down and be respectful when people were attending burials. There were also a number of visitors who would regularly turn up for a chat with their departed loved ones and other regular visitors they had made friends with. It also felt quite alive, if that makes sense, as there were always people around - children being walked to the local primary schools (one on either side of the graveyard), dog walkers and people just out for a wander round a peaceful area. Lovely place to live.

AnimalCrossing · 19/06/2020 08:14

Yes I would, it’s a place of rest.

Greenlamp45 · 19/06/2020 08:15

My favourite sort of neighbours.

Johnbowlby · 19/06/2020 08:18

I would love it!

TheNoodlesIncident · 19/06/2020 08:37

Near where we live, there's a Hall who donated their grounds to the local council for use as a cemetery. It's a lovely place to walk, lots of birds singing and a rural, rather peaceful feel to it. The Hall is still there and still being used as a house I think (albeit an upmarket one with its own chapel and beautiful large stained glass windows!) I often wonder how it must feel to have your drive lined with graves and to look out your windows at so many people's last resting place.

It's a lovely place, I wouldn't mind living next to a graveyard or cemetery but I would prefer an ancient one with interesting headstones that isn't in use any more, to a modern one which is still being used.

Bloops · 19/06/2020 08:42

I live near a graveyard and I love it. I go for a walk there almost daily, just to soak up the beauty of it all. The history, the birds, squirrels, ahhhh. So calming :)

Morribobs · 19/06/2020 08:52

I liked a little estate (1950's built) and kept my eye on the properties and viewed a few, one street ran along the graveyard with the graveyard wall on one side and the houses looking onto it. There were 3 houses that I looked at on that street and whilst I wasn't put off by the graveyard I noticed that these 3 houses sold for less and were on for longer than the houses in the streets behind. The difference was about 5 to 10% so I'd expect to buy for less as I'd expect to sell for less.

This is in a city but the cemetery is an old one and is very pretty and it's not known for much antisocial behaviour.

Hmpher · 19/06/2020 09:21

An old, not in use one wouldn’t bother me. Like others, I find them quite peaceful and beautiful. However, my son would be terrified. His dad has a house next to an old graveyard and he finds it very scary, even at the age of 12. He is generally sensitive and frightened of things. The graveyard itself has a large, old church in the middle but doesn’t seem to be used, and lots of trees which make it look dark. It does have a bit of a spooky feel. So I wouldn’t buy one because of my son. Is it likely to be a family house where young families would be the buyers?

Iwalkinmyclothing · 19/06/2020 09:24

An old one would be lovely. One currently in use wouldn't upset or frighten me but I wouldn't want to live in or next to it for fear of having to be careful not to disrupt people coming to burials or to visit their loved one's graves.

DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 19/06/2020 09:25

Grave yards are beautiful, peaceful places.
It wouldn't put me off in the slightest, quite the opposite.

DinosApple · 19/06/2020 09:34

Our ideal location. We've recently looked at a house overlooking a church and graveyard. We loved the rural location, sadly the garden wasn't big enough for us. Both DC said they wouldn't want a bedroom overlooking the graveyard.
DH and I would have loved it though.

CaptainMyCaptain · 19/06/2020 09:36

@MissConductUS

No noisy neighbors throwing parties on the weekends, that's a plus.
My daughter lived close to a cemetery and that was exactly the problem. Teenagers partying not the permanent residents obviously. Partying and then breaking into her garden.