Just lost my temper with three year old

[PlanetMJ]

I just cannot cope anymore with the whinging and whining. It's been constant all day apart from when I gave in and let him watch bloody blippi for half an hour.

I just lost it when I put his lunch in front of him. The lunch he wanted, that I had checked twice before making and he made that. Bloody.awful.noise.Again.
I shouted, really really shouted and put his lunch in the bin. I completely disagree with smacking but my god I could have slapped him which frightens me.

DH is working upstairs, came down when he heard me shouting and has taken him up with him.

I just feel like the walls are closing in and m like a coiled spring of anger. I'm worried I'm psychologically damaging my children. DD is 5 and back at school today. I feel like I'm not fit to have children. I started out lockdown with a homeschooling plan, ctivities every day but it's all gone to shit.

DH is great and gives me breaks when he can. He is worried about me I think. I feel anxious and down every afternoon. It's not like me. I actually do a job dealing with very angry, irrational people and I'm known for my calmness

Nah you’re human

Sometimes we lose the plot. Don’t be hard on yourself. I’ve lost the rag with my kids too, especially during lockdown.

He won’t be mentally scarred or anything close.

You’ll be doing a great job and like everyone else you’ve had a blip.

Can you get your husband to take over for a wee bit?

Get a breather and calm down.

Sending hugs OP!

It happens :) kids are annoying at that age.

Nah you’re human

Yeah that. If this is the first time you've lost your rag then you are doing fab. I'm usually that placid one but I'm just about ready to throttle my two.

I started out lockdown with a homeschooling plan, ctivities every day but it's all gone to shit.

I could have written exactly that: lovely family walks, science projects in a little book and science and maths every day. I gave up weeks ago (and I'm an experienced teacher) and recently I'm happy if I get throught the day without wanting to curl up in a ball and cry. Do what you can, look after yourself.

Your job doesn’t make you any less human and prone to human emotions and these emotions are natural in these times. Perhaps tonight try and get some time just to yourself with a book or something in bed and try and tune out. I know it’s hard to carve that time but I think it will help you in the long run and if your husband is good he might be happy to have the kids so that you are happier.

There is nothing I love more than a loving mother admit that little kids can be little shits.
Big hugs op, you’re only human and you’re not the only one at breaking point.

It happens. Go on a big walk get some fresh air.
Unfortunately we all lose it. In future make a plan to walk outside to breath if losing it.
The lunch in the bin was extreme. When you get back from the walk put yourself on the naughty spot.
This is really tough on the little ones too they're not good at hiding a bad day.

Can you go out for a quick power walk? Even just half an hour just to walk it off, no whinging in your ears, try and listen to the birds or any sounds that aren't children talking at you. Or sit in the car and have a big giant scream. Just anything to release a bit of steam.
Kids can be a fucking nightmare when they're in that moany whining mood. It's infuriating and I sympathise. You're not a bad parent. All parents in the last few months have been under considerable stress. Whether you have them home with you 24/7 and you're not used to it or you're desperately trying to juggle childcare to continue working through this; it's been tough on everyone. Cut yourself some slack.

You are all so lovely. DH has come down and cancelled a meeting. He's making me a sandwich and then I'm going collect DD. DS continues to whinge....

Oh hun, it happens. I lose my shit ( proper shouting, neighbours prob hear me) at least once a week even in normal conditions( no lockdown). I love him to bits, but don't always like him, and sometimes want to duct tape his mouth 😁. I won't though, he'll probably find a way to use morse code to whinge 😂

My 3 year old is 50 % adorable 50% little shit. DH is furloughed but our nanny still coming for his sanity. I feel for you!

My nearly 3 year old has been pretty good throughout the lockdown all things considered but he has his days where nothing pleases him and I have mine where I can feel my patience running thin. Its completely normal. I totally get what you mean by you feel like the walls are closing in. We are in weird times with small but very loud irrational humans beings after all If you have the energy then a walk by yourself later might help or if you just need to rest then do that.

. And breathe.

I lost it with my ds (11) this morning. We’ve coped with home schooling, not fallen out, for months. I thought I was coping.

This morning everything went wrong. And I really yelled at him . We’ve declared a truce and I’ve retreated to my room.

It happens. Go for a walk. Or a run. Drink g&t. Eat cake. If it’s only once. don’t worry about it.

I lost my shit last night. Wouldn't go to bed - was still awake at 11, then up at 5:30. He's 5. I am too tired and flecked off to argue over ipads and whatnot. Crack on lads. I'm having coffee and eating cake.

Honestly OP its totally normal and they wont even remember. I'm trying to parent my 4 year old while wfh as a single parent and as you can imagine I've had to rely heavily on the tv. So much so he has started speaking with a slight American accent 🙈
Times are fucking hard and we just have to survive it, if you shout now and then it really isn't the end of the world

I have a 3 year old who I love more than I can comphrehend but the whinging drives me bonkers . No harm them seeing we are human . Ps have a tea / coffee / chocolate etc.

I lost my shit at DH yesterday... have been coping well up until now!

It happens. We’ve all been there. Honestly I feel like now and again it’s fine for children to see that they’ve pushed too far. That you’re a human being too. So, take a walk, do something relaxing, speak to your child, explain as far as you can why you reacted the way you did and draw a line under it. I think everyone is feeling a bit more pressure at the moment. It’s shit.

It sounds quite normal. They really crank up the annoying levels at that age.

And you'll do it many many more times over his lifetime, chill out!

I completely understand why you lost it but I don’t really get why only half an hour of TV? Under the circumstances I think a lot more tv would help you all enormously!

My shit was lost months ago. What is life?! Trapped in the house with DC... I don’t know anyone who wouldn’t struggle to keep their cool 24-7. Go forth and get drunk OP

I,ve lost my shit several times. She is two and can be soooooooo uncooperative. You get fed up. You are human. I chucked her dinner in the rubbish and another time ate it in front of her and left her to it. Petty, yeah. Could,ve strangled her or sold her on ebay, but the thing is, we didnt. Hand hold, and don´t be so hard on yourself.

You're human OP. This is a highly unusual situation we are all in, and losing it every once in a while is going to happen.

I lost my shit at my 3yo last week. DH was at work and I was attempting to work from home whilst listening to his whinging and having him hang off my chair.

He's fine, I'm fine. I just needed to let it all out.