To be irritated by receiving flowers

[DappledThings]

Firstly let be clear I did politely thank the sender, I'm not terrible. But I was sent flowers in the post yesterday and my only reaction was annoyance.

I don't own a vase so had to find a jug big enough for them. Loads of random wrapping that makes a big mess, loads of water in the wrapping that I didn't know about so flooded the table, spilt half the packet of the food liquid stuff which is very sticky, couldn't cut through the thick stems with first pair of scissors and had to use a knife.

Then they last a little while and don't even look that nice, and once they are past their best there's smelly, slimy water to deal with a drippy bunch of dead plant matter to chuck away.

I would happily never be sent or given flowers ever again. Just me or anyone else not like them?

If they annoy you so much it can’t be that hard to just dump them in the bin, much easier then getting all riled up about it.

I love flowers! I currently have three vases of various different blooms in my living room, they’re beautiful

much easier then getting all riled up about it. Mildly irritated isn't the same as all riled up in my book.

I'd feel too guilty to just chuck them. Even though the sender wouldn't know. I have put them on the garden table though rather than inside so they don't drop petals everywhere.

Who doesn't own a vase?

People who don't like flowers.

YABU. I'd love to be sent flowers. Why can't you just appreciate the kind thoughtful gesture from someone?

I love flowers ,and always buy some when I do the shopping each week .They are a bit of work but surely make up for it with their beauty? I cleaned out 2 vases today with some disinfectant and no smell has lingered! Roses every time for me or tulips

Also if this is a big issue in your life as it sounds like it is, I envy you.

ChavvySexPond Agreed and also for those few people that dont or need another one (hopefully!) Lemonade/coke big bottle .Cut top off and quick vase !

I treated myself to a £1 small vase and £1.79 Lidl tulips every week when lock down happened. Previously I've never appreciated flowers, I'm not in enough and the only place for them was the window ledge and once the curtains were closed, you couldn't see them.

I'd love plants for the garden, but no one ever gets them. Every year I've asked if someone could buy me a rose for Christmas, but I get crap which costs more.

My dd1 asked for a vase for her 21st birthday. I sent her flowers at work recently as I haven't seen her and don't know when she can come home. She sent a photo of them, she looked delighted. I would be too.
You flower people - I have a tall glass vase, how do I clean it? I hardly use it as it never looks clean.

I get you OP! It's just more stuff to have to do - and I love flowers, so generally I will be genuinely grateful, but I also think "Oh arse now I've got to sort them out." A colleague's wife once brought flowers to a housewarming and gave them to me - then she said "Right show me where to find a vase and some scissors and I'll do that for you". I loved her! :)

You'll always get the "ungrateful" accusations on a thread like this. I once mentioned not liking MIL sending cheques for the kids birthdays because of the associated faff - obviously I thanked her and didn't moan to her! - but you'd think I'd kicked her in the head from the slagging off I got.

Also if this is a big issue in your life as it sounds like it is, I envy you.
What part of mild whinging makes it sound like it's a big issue?

Why can't you just appreciate the kind thoughtful gesture from someone?
I thanked them. I can thank someone and appreciate they meant well whilst still being irritated. It doesn't require that much mental agility to do so.

I tend to throw the flowers out when they start wilting so the water is not slimy, I also remove dying flowers and rearrange the flowers and top up water so they last a bit.

I love love love being sent flowers.

I send my mother in law flowers as I know she loves flowers.

Maybe make it known amongst your friends and family you don't like receiving flowers and haven't got a vase as you don't want flowers.

I once mentioned not liking MIL sending cheques for the kids birthdays because of the associated faff - obviously I thanked her and didn't moan to her! - but you'd think I'd kicked her in the head from the slagging off I got.

I can well believe it. DH's grandmother sends cheques for the DC and again we are able to do both, to thank the sender and appreciate the thought whilst simultaneously being annoyed about the faff of dealing with them.

Yeah yabu I love flowers!!

My friend is a British flower grower, so I have fresh flowers all the time. I buy vases from charity shops- I have a cupboard full. I dislike those stiff bouquets full of chrysanthemums and lilies though. My friend’s flowers look like she’s gathered them by hand from the garden- because she actually has! I’m very lucky .

Online flowers are sooo expensive! I spent ages online yesterday trying to find a decent bouquet of flowers reasonably priced. I would love to be sent flowers. I get done people are not flower people so depending who it’s from they should know that.

*some people

Oh dear. I love flowers.

I love dried flowers
a plant
i rarely get flowers, but they tend to die quickly

I like them either as a small bunch I can quickly pop in a glass or mug. Or properly delivered in a pre done basket arrangement. Which I can easy dispose of and give the basket away for someone to repurpose. But as we live in a small space with cats I really would rather just have a nice card or handwritten letter!

@eggandonion You flower people - I have a tall glass vase, how do I clean it? I hardly use it as it never looks clean.

Does it have a narrow opening? If so, put in a dishwasher tablet and some hot water and let it sit there for hours. If no tablets, use coarse salt and a little water and shake, then acetic acid and hot water for hours. If you have a bottle brush you can use that.

If not narrow put it in the dishwasher or follow the above.

Hope it helps .

When my dad died many years ago, I received several flower deliveries. I appreciated the gesture, but it did get a bit much. There were no vases left for one thing... The heartfelt cards and letters meant a lot more to me than the expensive bouquets.

I've always heard you shouldn't bring flowers to a dinner party because it's a faff for your host.
I love flowers and buy my own every week. I'd love if someone gave them to me. When I send flowers I usually send then in a vase so all the recipient has to do is stick them on the table.

Blinking heck. Moan moan moan.