To be irritated by receiving flowers

[DappledThings]

Firstly let be clear I did politely thank the sender, I'm not terrible. But I was sent flowers in the post yesterday and my only reaction was annoyance.

I don't own a vase so had to find a jug big enough for them. Loads of random wrapping that makes a big mess, loads of water in the wrapping that I didn't know about so flooded the table, spilt half the packet of the food liquid stuff which is very sticky, couldn't cut through the thick stems with first pair of scissors and had to use a knife.

Then they last a little while and don't even look that nice, and once they are past their best there's smelly, slimy water to deal with a drippy bunch of dead plant matter to chuck away.

I would happily never be sent or given flowers ever again. Just me or anyone else not like them?

Personally I love flowers
My DH brings me in a bouquet every Say
TBF he also arranges them
I can see why people are saying they are a waste of money ,but to be honest do are lots of things that bring joy to life x

Can understand why, but quite sad that you can be so horrible towards someone's thought for you.

I’m with you. Lovely sentiment. Big faff. Can never get them looking as good as the pictures

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Can understand why, but quite sad that you can be so horrible towards someone's thought for you.

But why? The sender will never know, they've received thanks. So where does the rudeness or horribleness come in?

Why are some of you so annoyed that the OP doesn't like flowers? She said thank you to the sender, she didn't send a picture of herself chucking them in the compost bin. It's OK that someone else doesn't like the same things you like, you know.

By the way OP - the frothing against you on this thread is a better gift to me than flowers.

Some of you lot are utterly hilarious in your attempts to shame or sulk the OP into submission, when she's being so graceful in a way you are transparently not.

The irony is delicious...

Giving charity gifts can be seen as very passive aggressive.

I love flowers and am all set up for dealing with them but after a recent bereavement I was inundated with them and, of course they all started dying at the same time so it did create a fair bit of work. I got to the point I dreaded the doorbell ringing .

BUT my biggest bugbear about flowers that are sent is that the florists all seem to use flowers that they want to get rid of because they are getting almost too old to sell so they don’t last nearly as well as flowers bought in the shops. Yes, Interflora, I DO mean you.

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Giving charity gifts can be seen as very passive aggressive

Charity gifts are literally the only gift I actually like!

To all of you who don't get any flowers. Not store bought I'm afraid, but I love flowers .

To haters, sorry they are non faff this way .

I’m with you OP. After having DD I had loads, after the first couple I just started giving them away! I know I sound ungrateful but I really hate them!

I love flowers and like having them in the house but you’re right they are the kind of gift that makes work for the recipient. I can never arrange them nicely either.

My mum hates flowers because of all the reasons you stated. She normally bypasses the house part and takes them right down to my Nana and Grandad’s grave. She’s quite honest about how much receiving flowers annoy her.

giantangryrooster is that a painting? I can't quite see. It's very pretty. Looks like a painting on wood?

"...quite sad that you can be so horrible towards someone's thought for you."

Horrible towards...a thought. The mind, it boggles.

I love flowers and get great pleasure in receiving them. I guess you are not good at arranging them and find it too much of a faff which is understandable. It's easier to cut the stems off at an angle. It's a good idea to have a vase of some sort in the cupboard - they needn't be expensive and just plonk them in straight from the wrapping.

A common sense idea is to prepare them on the draining board then any mess is easily cleared up. In addition put the cut-off stems in a newspaper and sling in the appropriate bin. It's a shame you don't enjoy them and if the giver knew how you felt about them I'm sure they wouldn't bother.

I get your point - I love the occasional bunch of flowers. ( yes I think a plant is better , but mine is that people will often give me chocolates or cake despite my gentle hints that I just do not have a sweet tooth. ) Luckily have a family who will tuck in so nothing wasted - for me a bottle of wine or a nice candle - but how can people know. I think you have taken them in the right spirit OP - say thank you and move on - oops

For goodness sake, someone thought well enough of you to buy you flowers. If you don't like them, bin them And if the sender visits you, just say you're allergic.

YANBU. Someone hands you a bouquet of flowers and immediately you have a job.-finding a vase, trimming the flowers down and removing lower leaves and clearing all the mess. It would be so much nicer if the giver did all that and presented them in vase, if that was possible! I do like those that arrive and stay in the water bag so you don't have to do all that.

@DappledThings Looks like a painting on wood?

Noo, it's my dining table .

Who doesn't own a vase?

Oh! It looked a painting from the angle!

Well they look very nice in 3D as well as when I thought it was a painting!

Watching £40 worth of something slowly die in my home just doesn't float my boat.

Flowers are such a joy-sucking effort and a waste of money and planetary resources.

I do have one friend who loves to receive them above all else so I buy them for her on occasion.

Adopt a donkey instead?

other animals are available...
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Don’t be silly! They’d never fit in the vase!

I don't have a garden so I love getting flowers! But I sympathise with the problems, they do take a bit of effort. I keep a few different size vases just in case, mostly pretty ones I can keep on display when they're empty too. Which is just as well because I had a "big" birthday and we can't meet up so several people sent flowers instead...