To be irritated by receiving flowers

[DappledThings]

Firstly let be clear I did politely thank the sender, I'm not terrible. But I was sent flowers in the post yesterday and my only reaction was annoyance.

I don't own a vase so had to find a jug big enough for them. Loads of random wrapping that makes a big mess, loads of water in the wrapping that I didn't know about so flooded the table, spilt half the packet of the food liquid stuff which is very sticky, couldn't cut through the thick stems with first pair of scissors and had to use a knife.

Then they last a little while and don't even look that nice, and once they are past their best there's smelly, slimy water to deal with a drippy bunch of dead plant matter to chuck away.

I would happily never be sent or given flowers ever again. Just me or anyone else not like them?

I love flowers. I'd much rather them than something I need to keep or find a place for.
I also send friends flowers on a semi regular basis, I hope you're not one of them

I agree with you op! I'm one of those ungrateful mumsnetters who hates nice things

Jesus, you can suck joy out of life can't you.

I love flowers but yes I agree with all your complaints. They can be a faff. It’s worth it for me but can easily see why you think it’s not.

Jesus, you can suck joy out of life can't you.

I like flowers. I also like receiving plants but outdoor ones.
I don't like sillt/tacky gifts.
I would not appreciate novelty gifts.

I agree OP but that's probably people have never bought flowers that don't set off my hay fever.

It always feels like a passive agressive dig to give me a present that makes me take medication though I generally put it down to thoughtless on the part of the giver.

I love flowers, and indeed have ripped up half my front lawn to make a cutting patch - but I get where you're coming from OP! I think traditionally you're not meant to take flowers for a gift to a dinner party for this reason - they're a faff when the hostess is busy.

Btw - bit of bleach in your flower water will stop it turning yucky.

Blimey!

People seem to have a low tolerance and high ineptitude for minor tasks!

I do always wince a bit over the environmental impact of cut flowers and lots of wrapping but can generally manage to unwrap them, put them in something suitable and then dispose of them without it ruining my day.

I love flowers and often buy them for our house. But if you don't own any vases then I could see that being a problem! Maybe next time they should send a vase instead of flowers?!

I do t want things to keep either they just clutter up the place and years later I never know what to do with them. If I am going to own an object, I mostly want it to be something I have chosen unless it is a memento of someone who has died or something like that. Things you can enjoy for short time are great, flowers included . I don't rely want chocolate or.food.eithrr because I am way too fat already and I have no control. It is a bit like buying an alcoholic wine for their birthday. So for me YABU. I like flowers. Wine is an ok present for.me.but I don't relay drink a lot so I tend to pass them on as presents sometimes ( not a bad thing)

You sound a bit ungrateful, if someone sends you flowers it is a very nice gesture.
Surely you can buy a vase.
They are perhaps a better gift than chocolate if the lady is watching her figure ?

Don't want to depress you, OP, but the lovely flowers in a box that my very kind manager sent me last year when I was off sick lasted for weeks. oops, more for you!

The postal delivery flowers can look a bit sad when they arrive and they're little bit more faff, but they do perk up pretty quickly & if you keep the water topped up they do last really well.

I'd LOVE some flowers!

I also get what you mean OP, especially when I used to be out at work and they would have died behind the wheelie-bin or in the delivery office before I could get to them .

I never get involved on AIBU posts but just wanted to say how well I think you have dealt with some of these comments! You've taken the usual, passive-aggressive bitchiness and judgements on your character and just laughed them off. Amazing! But I won't send you flowers...

I love flowers, but I agree, they do take a little bit of work.

I 100% agree. Give me a plant and happy days, flowers no thanks.

I do always wince a bit over the environmental impact of cut flowers and lots of wrapping but can generally manage to unwrap them, put them in something suitable and then dispose of them without it ruining my day.

It didnt ruin my day! I was irritated, not apoplectic.

I didnt realise there was water in them which is why they flooded everywhere. I cut into the paper and plastic and it just went whoosh. Wasn't one of those ones where it was a clear plastic bulb of water, it was covered with coloured paper so I didnt see it. Which was pretty irritating.

I don’t understand the ungrateful comments She isn’t telling the sender she doesn’t like them; she’s saying thank you.

If anyone thinks they have never given a gift someone else doesn’t like, they’re being really naive.

Honestly, giving a present doesn’t mean the receiver has to like it and if they don’t they’re being ungrateful. I really don’t get people sometimes.

Don't want to depress you, OP, but the lovely flowers in a box that my very kind manager sent me last year when I was off sick lasted for weeks. flowers oops, more for you!

Darn it!

I recently received some flowers by post from my ds. He had decided to send flowers to me, dd and a number of other people as he decided that we all needed something to cheer us up. I would have been very upset for him if he had had a grudging thanks for them as it is the fact that he thought of other people that is important.

How hard is it to put a bunch of flowers in a vase or jug? It takes minutes.

You've taken the usual, passive-aggressive bitchiness and judgements on your character and just laughed them off. Amazing! But I won't send you flowers...
Ah, thank you. That's kind.