I know I’m being nosey but

[Allsorts2020]

My neighbours sit in their garden from 10am until 9pm in her pjs. I think they’re married. Around early 30’s. The woman doesn’t work (ever since I moved here years ago) the guy is at home at the mo with all this Covid. They don’t have any kids and she is always bossing him around and doing 90% of the talking from What I overhear.

I just find it strange.

@heartsonacake

Yep, you are invested. You watch them, listen to them to know exactly what they’re talking about and their movements and then post about them on the internet.

That’s not normal behaviour; you’re intrusive and strange.

This all the way.

This thread is strange. Did you want us to agree they're weird?

If it was the other way around and it was the woman going out to work everyday, then coming home and doing all the chores, whilst the husband sat around all day in his PJ's everyone would be saying he was abusive and controlling.

But obviously because it's a man that can't be true

Ok yes she might have an invisible illness but she might be abusing him too or controlling him.

I wonder about our ndn, the house and garden look shitholes but they have the lawn man & the window cleaner. They only mow the lawn when people go round.

As long as it’s not raining or snowing sitting in your garden wearing or not wearing PJs is allowed. Even in rain it’s okay though I’d consider that a bit odd - if I noticed.

What did you want to gain from posting a thread about it, OP?

Everyone is noticing heir neighbours a lot more these days.

I work about 60 hours a week and am usually out and about a lot at the weekend.

A lot of my neighbours are home at the moment, and spend a lot of time discussing their personal business loudly in their gardens. I know all about heir jobs, finances, family feuds and for one couple their lack of sex since lock down🙄😂.

Walking into my graden is like turning on some shitty reality show.

If you live slap bang practically on top of neighbours ( the joys of terrace housing) during all this Covid, you can't help but notice them.

This made me laugh. Alan Bennett, is that you?

Ok yes she might have an invisible illness but she might be abusing him too or controlling him

I know, if it was a man bossing a woman around for 11 hours a day I wonder what the responses would be. And it's not unusual to notice what the neighbours do when everyone is home all the time!

You do sound over invested and quite judgmental.

Woman doing lots of the talking and bossing around is nothing unusual. Don't you know the joke where an aspiring actor comes home delighted and tells his mum he's got the role of the husband in a play about a married couple. She tells him that's terrible and he should 'go straight back and demand a speaking part!'.

If she wants to sit outside all day in her PJs it isn't really your business. But I highly doubt it is just a whim, I would assume some type of health problem. You wouldn't know, would you? You say yourself she isn't seen doing much and doesn't work, so how you have decided she is likely totally able bodied I can't imagine, and that is without even considering mental health.

They could be odd, we don't know, anyone could be. What we do know is that you've been a bit narrow minded in your perspective. You probably didn't mean to be but its worth noting.

Blimey. I also thinks it's strange OP. Yes, sod all to do with me. But still, strange.

Just sounds like a lazy woman who likes to boss people around. As someone else said, if it was a man doing this, he would be called controlling and abusive. So is this woman. I know someone who is disabled and yet bosses around her husband like a slave. It's still abusive, even though she's disabled.

If she can walk out to the garden every day and sit there all day, she could do some painting even if she had to rest a lot. Or you know, ask the husband to carry the chair over for her to sit and paint it?

I've noticed way more about my neighbours since lockdown, because I've had to wfh.

It's ok op since lockdown the woman at the back of me always wears her dressing gown in the garden so I call her dressing gown lady she carries her dog like a baby . I too am nosey I like people watching but I am not in work so bored too .

Ffs call the daily mail, they’re having a slow day.

Touchy responses! It's a pretty common 'hobby' to watch people and idly think about their lives or make up stories. I'm sure there have been threads about it before and nobody was called weird.

And gets hostile if anyone parks by her house.

Is that supposed to redeem this thread? Leave the poor woman be.

I'm bossy and DP cut the grass this afternoon. I'm in my pjs....is it me? Join me for a socially distanced vino if you want but please first cut out the weed. It fucking stinks

It's not pretty common to be so judgemental, AnnaBanana.

Surely it's perfectly normal to be a bit nosey about your neighbours? It doesn't mean anyone is marching over and demanding to know why they live their lives as they do. I'm sure my neighbours think plenty about my messy garden! (Theirs is immaculate)

Clearly standards have slipped in the Bouquet Residence, if Hyacinth is allowing Richard outside in his pyjamas, and she's having to nag him like that.

"My goodness, is that a dead leaf?!"

I also find it strange that they both mange to fit in her pajamas

You watching them constantly is weird.

They've noticed you noticing them.

They were hoping you'd start filming then and make them instafampus.

But after all their efforts - springing into action to perform their 'characters' whenever you're outside, and working hard on their vocal projection over the fence for the little comments that always seem to amuse you...they've only made it onto an anonymous bloody parenting forum.

#epicfail

Am I the only one who agrees with the OP that sitting in your garden for 11 hours (in pyjamas or not) is a bit odd? I don't think it's over invested to wonder why anyone would do that.

I'm always wondering what my neighbours are up to. Life's too short to not be nosy.