To not let a TV in the room until 16?

[Snagscardies]

Is it that bad? I haven't allowed phones upstairs at all and have not had any problems. My 21 year old still leaves his phone downstairs although I've always said the moment they pay rent there are no rules just consideration for a house share. My 14 year old would like a telly. We have a teen only snug is it unreasonable to say no to the room telly?

Absolutely reasonable. Definitely a link between worse achievement and television in the bedroom.

As long as you set boundaries and kids do other things i don't see a problem especially for a teen.

Nope, not bad at all. My 13 year old has been begging for a tv for three years, as her older siblings have them in their rooms. As I pointed out to her, they weren’t allowed TVs until they went to college/6th form, so she’ll have to wait.

YANBU at all.

We have no electronics upstairs for any of us, well, apart from a radio. Kids are 11, 13 and 14. I didn't think this was the slightest bit controversial.

Lockdown has changed things a bit. Kids do their schoolwork on their laptops (bought just before lockdown for schoolwork) in their rooms during school time, they then bring the laptops downstairs.

I've never had a tv in my bedroom. There's only 1 in our house and we only need one.
When I was younger I would read in my bedroom or have friends over.
When I was a teenager I would maybe have friends over to watch films in the living room if my parents were out.
Never felt like I was missing out.
My son is 3 and he won't have a tv in his bedroom although I may put one in his playroom when he's older and growing out of toys slightly

I think it’s fine on the tv although personally I’d allow it but have rules.

I’m not of the opinion it’s fine to force your 21 year old to leave their phone downstairs because they don’t pay rent. That’s shitty.

It is not unreasonable to not let kids have a telly in their room. But I also don't think unreasonable to have a tv in teens bedroom. The effects of the tv is really person dependant. I've had a tv in my room since I was 10 and I wasn't in anyway excessively watching it or playing.

Your child your choice but if all their friends have one would you want them to be the odd one out?

I'd let them if they pay for it out of their own pocket money, but remove it if they watch after a certain time.

My 21 year old still leaves his phone downstairs although I've always said the moment they pay rent there are no rules just consideration for a house share
It's a bit unclear. Are they paying rent and could take phone upstairs bit chooses not to or does not pay rent and therefore has to leave it downstairs?

My 16 year old has just been given a TV. The rule we put in place for him and younger siblings is 16, if they generally show reasonable responsibility and have studied properly for GCSE's (not at all linked to grades but to doing homework over the two years).

He's so happy and actually said he's glad he got into good habits first (very relieved as he's year 11 so his homework, tests and mocks have been more important this year). Fingers crossed it works for the others.

harsh on 21yo, but why is he not paying rent ?

Not unreasonable at all.

My 21 year old still leaves his phone downstairs
This is bizarre. How does he do anything private like have a wank?

Since it's in a 'teen only snug' and not a bedroom, I think you might be being a little over-zealous. If it's their place to chill out - not study, not sleep - then why can't they choose to watch tv?

It's your house, your rules of course but you could limit what your 14yo can access if you wanted to.

@CherryPavlova do you know where you heard / read that? Not doubting you, just would be really interested to read about that!

Our two had TVs in their rooms from early teens and have their phones with them 24/7. When DS1 (20) comes home for the summer I won't be policing his gadgets.
But it all depends on what your DC are like.

Not the norm here but my 8 year old has had a TV for a couple of years in his bedroom. We got one because he was a nightmare when my daughter was a baby and I was trying to settle her so it helped. However it was for DVD’s only and has a timer. This being said I can’t remember the last time it was switched on, he’s not interested in it in the slightest now. All other electronics are downstairs only.

We have a TV in our bedroom. I couldn't tell
you the last time it was turned on though, but I know that it only shows 2 channels - cbeebies and BBC news.

I don't really like the thought of TV's in bedrooms, I just think it encourages people to be anti social.

@Iwantacookie

Your child your choice but if all their friends have one would you want them to be the odd one out?

I don't understand thinking this kind of reasoning. If you think something is wrong surely you don't do it just because all your friends do it?

I do t have a tv in my room. Every bit of research shows people sleep better when they keep their bedroom for sleeping and dont watch screens for an hour before sleep. Poor quality sleep leads to all sorts of mental and physical health issues. What's he point of introducing a bad sleep habit?

@Molocosh

My 21 year old still leaves his phone downstairs This is bizarre. How does he do anything private like have a wank?

Straight to the point

@abbccc because children can be cruel and might pick on the child if they are different.

@recycledteenager24

harsh on 21yo, but why is he not paying rent ?

Weather he’s paying or not I think it’s not normal that you can’t take your phone upstairs

What is this about OP???