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To not let a TV in the room until 16?

143 replies

Snagscardies · 14/06/2020 21:37

Is it that bad? I haven't allowed phones upstairs at all and have not had any problems. My 21 year old still leaves his phone downstairs although I've always said the moment they pay rent there are no rules just consideration for a house share. My 14 year old would like a telly. We have a teen only snug is it unreasonable to say no to the room telly?

OP posts:
SharpieInThe · 14/06/2020 22:19

Who do you phone when you're wanking @Molocosh?

SharpieInThe · 14/06/2020 22:21

I don't usually allow screen in bedrooms, it's bad for sleep.

Lockdown is different. As long as they're all happy, respectful and partaking in family life and doing their jobs around the house they can do what they want.

Whatever gets you through.

rawlikesushi · 14/06/2020 22:45

OP said it was for a teen-only snug, not a bedroom.

CherryPavlova · 14/06/2020 22:54

Love51 It would have been through my husband who works in education. I’ll try and see if he remembers the source- ours are past that stage now.

mybowelshatepregnancy · 14/06/2020 22:57

I read it as there's a teen snug with telly so saying no to tv in their room ?

Dylaninthemovies1 · 14/06/2020 22:57

@Snagscardies am I correct in understanding you don’t allow a 21 year old to have their phone upstairs? Or do they choose to leave it downstairs?

If the former, I think you are being very controlling and need to have a long hard look at yourself

Charles11 · 14/06/2020 23:02

They have Netflix on their laptop. No need for actual TVs anymore.

AbsolutePleasure · 14/06/2020 23:04

It's fine, I was aiming for post GCSE. It was to be a treat for after the exams that they'd get a TV in their rooms. But, due to lockdown and needing work space in the house for both DH and I, they have had them early. DC1 by a few months, and DC2 by 2 years.
Haven' t really seen either of them since Grin

k1233 · 14/06/2020 23:10

I don't think there's a need for anyone to have a tv in their bedroom, so it would be a no from me.

DancingWithTheDevil · 14/06/2020 23:10

@Molocosh

My 21 year old still leaves his phone downstairs This is bizarre. How does he do anything private like have a wank?
Do you need a phone for that? Did nobody do it prior to around the year 2000 when phones became mainstream?
pinkazing · 14/06/2020 23:14

Oh I read it as the 21 year old chooses to leave the phone downstairs even though they could take it upstairs.

pinkazing · 14/06/2020 23:16

But back to the point yes DS will not have a tv in his room. But he has access to tablet and laptop I the main room or can watch tv in lounge or our bedroom.

JeffreyJefferson · 14/06/2020 23:24

wtaf why does your 21 yea old have to leave his phone downstairs in the night

crazychemist · 14/06/2020 23:27

@Molocosh I genuinely don’t understand your comment. What’s the relevance of the phone to masturbation?!?

Sometimeswinning · 15/06/2020 00:04

My children have a tv in their rooms. Ages 10, 8 and 4. It's never been an issue. It depends on your lifestyle I guess. Not all children want to watch the same thing. Not all families are home all day. I'm trying to find an issue with this.

YinuCeatleAyru · 15/06/2020 00:11

zero TVs in bedrooms in this house, including for adults.

Molocosh · 15/06/2020 00:16

Molocosh I genuinely don’t understand your comment. What’s the relevance of the phone to masturbation?!?
The era of the porn magazine is over. Nowadays people get stories, images and video online. Wondering how the 21yo manages if he’s not allowed to have his phone upstairs in private!

squeekums · 15/06/2020 00:16

DD is 10, got a tv in her room last year, hasnt been an issue.
We all watch or play different things and sometimes we want a tv each, we have 3 in house. Technically, we have 4 but 1 is a spare from our recent upgrade to smart tv, will probably go in the shed eventually

The way its set up in dd room, she cant watch in bed anyway so sleep isnt an issue. She has a bunk with desk under it, tv is on desk so unless she hanging over the side like a bat, she cant even see her tv from bed, she on top of it

TinklyLittleLaugh · 15/06/2020 00:31

Molocosh Do you seriously think men need pornography to have a wank? Do you think no one wanked before magazines were invented?

Sparklingbrook · 15/06/2020 00:32

i thought @Molocosh meant for phone sex. Blush

TinklyLittleLaugh · 15/06/2020 00:38

Anyway, none of mine ever had a TV in their bedrooms (they have mostly left home now). We have a TV in the living room and one in the snug. When they come to stay they do watch Netflix on their laptops though.

Original poster
Snagscardies · 15/06/2020 08:56

Sorry if wasn't clear, to clarify

  1. They have a snug with TV in it that's downstairs. They have to share this with teen siblings
  2. The 14 year old wants TV in room
  3. 21year old IS allowed phone upstairs (and does pay rent) just he just chooses to leave it downstairs, habit I guess.
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theBelgranoSisters · 15/06/2020 09:01

it just a personal choice isnt it- my dc have their ipads in rooms when they like as long as the schoolwork/chores routine are done ..its youtube/netflix and stuff no actual tv though and nothing but books after 9pm

starfishmummy · 15/06/2020 09:01

We dont have tvs upstairs at all. Bedrooms here are for sleeping