To not let a TV in the room until 16?

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Is it that bad? I haven't allowed phones upstairs at all and have not had any problems. My 21 year old still leaves his phone downstairs although I've always said the moment they pay rent there are no rules just consideration for a house share. My 14 year old would like a telly. We have a teen only snug is it unreasonable to say no to the room telly?

I thought TVs in rooms were a bit old hat now … don't most teens watch stuff on their laptops/PCs?

I had the phone downstairs rule until mine had finished GCSEs then relaxed it. With hindsight I should have kept it up during term time until after A levels as I think one of mine would have done a LOT better had she been sleeping earlier and focussing more. 21 does seem old to have this sort of rule going on!

In the evening my son likes to play the PS4 for a bit with school friends. Normally it's downstairs but we're putting it in his room with an old TV just so we can have the TV back in the evenings.

If it wasn't for that he wouldn't have a TV there but he's not really a tv person anyway

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you are the one who made a judgey comment, own it.

it's not the tv/no tv you commented on, it's the "rules for the sake of rules" , maybe you have difficulties in expressing yourself. Not everybody here is a native English speaker, nothing wrong with it.

DD (14) has a tv/dvd player in her room. If she’s not interested in what’s on in the sitting room she has the option to watch a film there. Or listen to music, all on headphones.
She’s very low tech, though. No mobile phone, 2 hours of IPad or 1 film +1 hour IPad per day MAX. Less on a school day.

My DD was allowed her phone after GCSEs.The proviso was that if I found she was on after midnight I would put all the parental block on (is block it).
She was told when she was little that she could have a TV when she was 18 or left home,she been fine with that and has a laptop anyway,much better for YouTube.

I thought TVs in rooms were a bit old hat now … don't most teens watch stuff on their laptops/PCs?

My teens use their PC/iPad/phone for gaming, YouTube etc but prefer to watch films on their TV before bed. I think they just like watching films on a bigger screen.

Son never had a TV in his bedroom - I don't have one either, so it was never an issue.

He could have had one from 16 (I did as a teen), but he didn't want one.

I think TVs in rooms were more the thing in the olden days, when people watched TV a lot and parents chose what was on the main TV. Now you can each watch anything you want on a PC, it's much less of a need.

But I've always thought electronics in the bedroom is a bad idea. I take my tablet up to bed to listen to Sounds if I can't sleep - the temptation to Candy Crush is strong!

it's not the tv/no tv you commented on, it's the "rules for the sake of rules" , maybe you have difficulties in expressing yourself. Not everybody here is a native English speaker, nothing wrong with it.

🤣 I said I consider the no TVs in bedrooms to be a rule for the sake of rules. For our family it would be. I said my children are very easy and I might think differently if my children were not so easy, so clearly I can see other people may have reasons for not having TVs in their children’s rooms. I save my judgement for things worthy of judging, definitely not TVs in a child’s room. There’s no right or wrong after all on that.

Go and argue with someone else.

And my native language is French but I’m also fluent in English and live in England.

My 21 year old still leaves his phone downstairs although I've always said the moment they pay rent there are no rules just consideration for a house share.

What? That's ridiculous.

Mine have laptops and monitors in their rooms and their phones and their kindles - do I want to be watching 4 hours of minecraft or fallout in the living room every day? no thanks.

DD is doing art and creating music on her laptop - do I want that in the living room? nope.

Why are all screens evil in the MN hive mind - they are what you do with them.

21year old IS allowed phone upstairs (and does pay rent) just he just chooses to leave it downstairs, habit I guess.

Oh. Not many 21 years old would leave their phones downstairs but I'm not judging.

Their phones come downstairs to charge at bed time though. I am a mnetter after akll.

My 13 year old has a TV.

16? I think that is way over the top if I’m being honest. My 17 year old has had a tv in his room since he was 8/9 and he’s never had any problems ie with sleep. He’s on course to get all A’s or A’s and B’s at A level. He also got a mixture of A* A’s and B’s GCSEs. He has had a phone since she was 11 and started secondary school and the only time I won’t allow devices is when we are all sat around the table having our meals. Like most usual teenagers he likes his phone and iPad but he isn’t on it all day.

What I will not allow in the house, let alone a bedroom is an alexa etc.

My kids never had TVs but had tablets around 12. Never removed phones or tablets because we taught them to be responsible and self regulate

Not here, we'd never see anything of them if they played games/watched tv in their rooms, and we're hot on encouraging them to read before bed/if they wake up early. We have others, I just counted up and there are 7 so plenty of chances to have one to themselves!

I love the way this thread has quickly switched from TV to wanking 😂😂😂

What I will not allow in the house, let alone a bedroom is an alexa etc.

We have Echo dots in most room including the kids bedrooms. The kids don’t use them often but the drop in feature is really useful. We use the ones in the rest of the house for music. I know lots of people who don’t like them though.

I have no ideas why MN thinks screens are evil, unless your DC can't be trusted and would be watching TV 24/7 I suppose.

DS had a TV in his room from about 4, it was a Christmas present from my parents. He has never really been a huge TV watcher however - he uses it for his xbox, but he has never been rebellious and if I told him to turn it off, he did - he has a bit of a problem with his door being closed so I have always known if his TV was on because his bedroom door is always open, even when he sleeps. He is 20 now. I had similarly relaxed rules around mobiles and his ipad, but he has also had power cables removed as a punishment in the past when he was much younger. It was effective as a strategy because he is pretty compliant. DSS did not have a TV because he would have been up all night on it as a teen. We had a TV and playstation in our bedroom which he was allowed to use during the day (this is a long time ago before mobiles and such like became universal, he's in his 30s)

at posters who think it's ok for children to go to sleep watching TV. Maybe read some research around this first.

In my year group every person in my friendship group have TVs in their room. We all achieved highly and went on to get 2.1 and above at university... I really don't feel there is a link between tv and poor performance as long as rules are set

at posters who think it's ok for children to go to sleep watching TV. Maybe read some research around this first.

My kids are teens so if watching tv before bed is the worst thing they’re doing I’ll take my chances. My kids don’t have any sleep or behavioural problems, I’d rethink if they did.

When they were younger they usually had at least an hour with no screens before bed.