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To feel like we are just existing now

792 replies

Ghostlyglow · 12/06/2020 07:58

In a miserable, joyless world of queues and masks. A couple of friends have lost their jobs this week. Where are we going with this?When will it end?

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Sunnydays123456 · 13/06/2020 22:04

@gingercat02 totally agree

I just wish they would open the country up properly and just deal with outbreaks as and when they crop up

Taliya · 13/06/2020 22:46

From reading the self pitying comments on here on Mumsnet ...Mumsnet should be renamed Moanfest.com Seriously, it seems like many people cannot cope with Life...things go wrong in life , sometimes life is a b1tch as many millions know around the world know already, like people fleeing war etc..persecution. It's how you react to your circumstances that mean the difference between making the most of what you've got and finding happiness in the small things in life...what's the alternative ....spiralling into self pity and depression. Some of these posters on here need to get a grip.

BillywilliamV · 13/06/2020 22:57

Taliya, your mental health is obviously tiptop, aren't you lucky!

EnlightenedOwl · 13/06/2020 23:30

@FelicisNox

We all feel the same. I just don't think about it.

I'm taking this time to be glad I'm not spending constantly and to improve my finances and I actually hope we stay in lockdown until August.

I think we should have a mandatory lockdown every year for 3 months.

What the actual fuck.
Sewrainbow · 13/06/2020 23:30

My outlet was work, is a bit odd considering it's in a hospital, but I could chat with my friends there, I was doing my bit getting through the days, enjoying days off at home. My dh and dc were safe at home.

But now its relentless, we're bringing more services back but with strict social distancing so the waiting lists are getting longer and longer as less people attend at a time.

On Monday we start being temperature checked and wearing a mask the whole time we are in the building, due to the recent knee jerk government announcement, talk about shutting the stable door after the horse bolted! At the height of the crisis, I could have unknowingly been spreading covid everywhere and no checks were done. We only had antibody tests last week, many colleagues tested positive for having had the virus but they hadnt had symptoms, how many people di they infect!?!.

I hate the masks, I can't breathe properly, I can't communicate properly, I can't hear properly, my whole career I've been told those paper surgical masks are next useless after 15 mins, we are to wear the same one all day. Didnt the government think of the costs before dictating that everyone wears one on entering the building?

There are only about 10 people in my hospital ill with the virus now. PP are right that existing is not better than living. I'm worried about the economy and education system too. I dont want my kids goi g to school in the circumstances in which they do now, that's no way for kids to learn. I dont want people to lose their jobs and more strain going on the public sector. As for the mental health of the nation and the education of our young people I dont know what's going to happen...

The thought of how we are going to get through the next few mo ths is so depressing, many of us are feeling it now and morale is not good in the hospital. No one will think of the pressure we are under now. I was never a one for the clapping but just because its stopped doesn't mean the hospitals are working normally. Patients are frustrated quite rightly about the delays in their treatments, tempers and patience are and will continue to fray. I dont want to carry on with my work at the moment and yet I always loved my job Sad even in rough patches there was always home to go to people to meet up with, days out and spontaneous meals out, holidays to look forward to, we can't even make plans at the moment and my house is a building site as we started stripping plaster off walls before lockdown started and no idea when it will get done now....

Homemadeandfromscratch · 13/06/2020 23:41

none of the following are open:

bars
restaurants
cafes and coffee shops
all fully opened now here, most had stayed opened for take-away for weeks.

theatres and cinemas reopening in a couple of weeks
shops - except in N Ireland half already reopened, all to reopen next week
swimming pools and gyms
hairdressers, barbers, beauty salons will reopen early July, they are starting booking appointments here.
schools (!) reopening to every one, at the discretion of the schools
dentists reopened or reopening

soft play centres, playgrounds hardly essential, surely that can wait
airports never closed
huge amount of people working from home so what? That's progress!

so basically, we're nearly back to normal. Sadly the usual dementors pretend to ignore it as they like to martyr themselves in misery. We are nearly completely out of the lockdown!

U2HasTheEdge · 14/06/2020 00:05

I'm so bored of it.

I would be OK if I could work like normal. I am lucky in the fact that I still have a job, but I am usually out and about in the community, so working from home is a change of role and although I am super busy, it is not what I want to be doing. I want to be getting out and about and doing my job like normal. I miss looking forward to going home.

I also just want to go shopping without queuing for bloody ages. A simple task of going to a garden centre takes way too much time. My dog had to go to the vets and I had to wait in the waiting room instead of being with her when she was in pain. It is little things like that that I find difficult. I miss the days where I could just walk in somewhere, walk around without keeping a distance and not have to speak to people behind plastic screens.

I want to get my hair cut and sit with friends in the sun in a pub garden. My son will be celebrating his 21st birthday next week at home with a takeaway- fun times!

Yes, things are getting better and most of the time I just get on with it the best I can, but sometimes a good old moan is healthy.

LaurieFairyCake · 14/06/2020 00:11

Well all the things I want to do in London aren't scheduled to open Confused

No theatres/cinemas/museums/galleries

My gym isn't open, my hairdressers isn't open

Cafes/the odd pub/restaurants- only open for takeaway

BubblyBarbara · 14/06/2020 00:19

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JFM27 · 14/06/2020 00:29

Im single live alone retired,normally i have busy social life,sit my friends dog whilst shes at work,shes working from home.Im a very social person,ive hated every minute of lockdown,i hate being isolated,not seeing dog ive looked after since a puppy,And our useless government who have completely messed up since start just make me want to scream.How can any government be so useless.None of rules make sense,they contridict each other.Governed by fools.But hey i didnt vote for them.

But tonight i went to social distancing drinks at home of couple who run my dining group.with 3 other members.It was lovely,being with people,it felt normal and lovely! I cant wait to get back to our normal get togethers.Im planning birthday garden meal with two other friends and social distance drinks with neighbours.This lockdown has made me appreciate my friends and know im a very social person who needs company.And hopefully soon ill see my darling dog i normally sit and his "mum" my friend.I need people i know that,i may live alone but i dont want to be alone.

Titsywoo · 14/06/2020 00:30

@Homemadeandfromscratch

none of the following are open:

bars
restaurants
cafes and coffee shops
all fully opened now here, most had stayed opened for take-away for weeks.

theatres and cinemas reopening in a couple of weeks
shops - except in N Ireland half already reopened, all to reopen next week
swimming pools and gyms
hairdressers, barbers, beauty salons will reopen early July, they are starting booking appointments here.
schools (!) reopening to every one, at the discretion of the schools
dentists reopened or reopening

soft play centres, playgrounds hardly essential, surely that can wait
airports never closed
huge amount of people working from home so what? That's progress!

so basically, we're nearly back to normal. Sadly the usual dementors pretend to ignore it as they like to martyr themselves in misery. We are nearly completely out of the lockdown!

What are you talking about?!

bars
restaurants
cafes and coffee shops
all fully opened now here, most had stayed opened for take-away for weeks - where are they open? Many open for takeaway but NONE for eating in unless they are breaking the guidelines.

theatres and cinemas reopening in a couple of weeks
shops - except in N Ireland half already reopened, all to reopen next week
swimming pools and gyms
hairdressers, barbers, beauty salons will reopen early July, they are starting booking appointments here.
schools (!) reopening to every one, at the discretion of the schools
dentists reopened or reopening - they are barely reopening. Year 10 and 12 are getting a small amount of time at school (3 hours a week for my DD). Apart from that and reception/Y1 and Y6 at some schools no other year groups are in.

soft play centres, playgrounds hardly essential, surely that can wait
airports never closed - yeah but barely flying anywhere
huge amount of people working from home so what? That's progress! - not really, lots of us like working outside the home. Not many people enjoy working at home while trying to help their kids with their schoolwork for 5 hours a day.

Don't try and make out life is back to normal or anywhere near it because for most people it is nothing like normal. I'm not a "dementor" but my life is a lot harder right now and I am allowed to struggle with it.

Titsywoo · 14/06/2020 00:31

Got that a bit wrong but I'm sure you can tell I meant to attach that to your schools comment not dentists!

U2HasTheEdge · 14/06/2020 00:32

@Homemadeandfromscratch

none of the following are open:

bars
restaurants
cafes and coffee shops
all fully opened now here, most had stayed opened for take-away for weeks.

theatres and cinemas reopening in a couple of weeks
shops - except in N Ireland half already reopened, all to reopen next week
swimming pools and gyms
hairdressers, barbers, beauty salons will reopen early July, they are starting booking appointments here.
schools (!) reopening to every one, at the discretion of the schools
dentists reopened or reopening

soft play centres, playgrounds hardly essential, surely that can wait
airports never closed
huge amount of people working from home so what? That's progress!

so basically, we're nearly back to normal. Sadly the usual dementors pretend to ignore it as they like to martyr themselves in misery. We are nearly completely out of the lockdown!

Only a few restaurants are open for takeaways- not quite the same- no bars are open.

Hairdressers are opening in July but I have had shit hair for weeks on end. Still a few more weeks to go, providing I can get an appointment quickly when mine reopens.

Schools- only open for my year 6 daughter from Monday.

Working from home is not progress for everyone- not when you have children at home and not when your job is not office based.

Titsywoo · 14/06/2020 00:32

Oh and I work for a soft play centre so if they don't open soon they'll end up closing for good and there goes my job. Yippee!

SudokuBook · 14/06/2020 00:38

@Homemadeandfromscratch things that are nearly opening in England are not nearly opening up here in Scotland. Nothing extra has opened here since March.

SudokuBook · 14/06/2020 00:40

Oh except McDonalds, KFC for drive through. So yes, really back to normal.

LettyBriggs · 14/06/2020 00:42

I shudder to think what history will make of this. The depth of the depression to come is unfathomable at best.

JFM27 · 14/06/2020 00:53

Moondust001.We didnt all vote for Johnson and his crap governnent did we.Thats what makes me so angry Why were people so insane to vote for such a load of useless people who couldnt run a p...up in a brewery.All they ever cared about was getting a no deal Brexit,nothing else,even now after this crisis they wont put it off,Its all they care about.

Our country is being sold down the river by a load of people making a fortune out of virus and Brexit, but it could have been different but no a load of xenophobic,insular LittleEnglanders decided differently and voted for Brexit, and then these idiots.

Pawsandnoses · 14/06/2020 04:46

@BubblyBarbara
Thanks, you're absolutely right. No child deserves a parent that can't deal with life. DD needs more stability than I can provide. That actually makes it a lot easier.

wildone84 · 14/06/2020 05:06

Yes, I totally sympathise and I feel the same. It's like prison.

My mental health has deteriorated to such a point in the last 3 months that I am soon moving to a country with no covid-19. I had no intention of going there and I'm really sad to leave this country and my home. But I see no other way out.

pigeon999 · 14/06/2020 06:01

I'm really surprised by homemade list!! I had to reread it three times, as it is basically a list of everything that is closed not open!!

We have three shops open here: the supermarket, the DIY store and the pet shop. Thats it! Hardly fun and culturally enlightening. Our dentist is open for emergencies for the foreseeable future, they can't fund the PPE costs to open to everyone. There is literally nothing else.

Nearest town has one takeaway open and a coffee van.

It is no wonder people are feeling depressed when others are pretending that this is all normal and fine. It is a form of denial. Of course things are very far from okay.
The true pleasures of life, things that bring joy and comfort are closed, I would love to meet the person enjoying the queue in the rain in the supermarket car park or buying straw from the pet shop!!

Lovebeingmama · 14/06/2020 06:51

This is a marathon and fatigue and depression are starting to affect alot of people. The initial firefighting period is over and now the impact on mental health from lockdown and in some cases trauma is starting to show. It’s only to be expected.
I’m NHS and although feel traumatised by the last few months I also feel lucky to have been able to do something - rather than sit on the bench, because that and being with motivated colleagues has kept me in a good place mentally.
So it’s ok to feel down now, it’s only to be expected really. Get support if you need it. Mental Health services always knew that this storm would come. Just because you were at home doesn’t mean you can’t feel low or depressed.

malificent7 · 14/06/2020 07:12

This is temporary.....it will not last forever.
Tbh i was existing before as people were treating me badly and no amount of meals out, films or theatee could take that pain away. Now I have had a breather from said people and determined to go back to work fighting.
Having said that it is shit and relentless for the majority. I loved it when the sun was out...was more bearable.

Taliya · 14/06/2020 07:13

@Homemadeandfromscratch

Well said!😊

Taliya · 14/06/2020 07:24

@BubblyBarbara
Well said.
I can't believe what some people are posting. ...may be this is just a reflection of how mollycoddled the population is now with everything at the click of a button and so much choice in our consumerist society...when a few of these things are not available for a few months to protect everyone's health people start losing it. I lost my job in April due to lockdown and haven't seen my family who live a couple of hundred miles away in 4 months but I'm really grateful I live in a country that has a welfare state and charitable support. Yes it's uncomfortable living like this but restrictions are slowly easing and life is starting to get back to normal apart from the social distancing rules. If that posted you mentioned is really feeling like that she needs to ring her GP and get social services involved.