DS coming downstairs on his own?

[chihuahualady]

Not really an aibu but interested in what other parents think.

DS 3 has been coming downstairs on his for the past two weeks and putting the tele on usually helps him self to a piece of fruit as well.He comes down about 6:30 me and OH and DD usually wake up around 8-:8:30.

I'm fine with it but just wondering what other parents do, would you wake up with him and go down? I'm just no good when I'm tired so that extra 2 hours is needed.

@Rinoachicken I've also reported, she only searched your child to make herself feel better about putting her child into danger every single day as she is too lazy to drag her arse out of her pit! X

You seem quite obsessed with me OP

@chihuahualady you agree with the comments? Sorry if you agreed why the fuck have you been doing it?? Idiot.

I’m not the only person who asked if your child was still in nighttime nappies.

Some kids do just get up and wander downstairs first thing. Mine has done so since she was just fine 2, and I was horrified at first, but as far as I'm aware she's never done it before we are awake, as she's a late riser.

I'd have been having words and probably used a bell on the downstairs door if I was regularly finding her downstairs before I was up though 😂

Sorry OP we just all assumed that if you can't be arsed to get up with your child that you wouldn't have bothered training them either, I mean hardly far fetched is it!?

@Rinoachicken you didn't ask you presumed that he was.

@Mammaaof as I said from the start he had recently started doing it. If I was 100 percent ok with it I wouldn't be here on Mumsnet would I? I was asking for other mothers opinions.

@chihuahualady in your first post you said " which I'm fine with" so you are fine with it, now everyone thinks your a bad parent, you've decided your not ok with it

My almost 4 yo recently woke at 5.15am, came into our room as he always does, I said it was much too early so he decided he'd go downstairs and watch tv. Off he went, got himself some dry cereal and watched Disney for 45 minutes. He was delighted with himself but I wouldn't make a habit of it.

Sleep deprivation is the worst.

Almost 5yo I should say

Your partner works nights yet your last post was how you were watching tv together in the evening?
OP you've been lazy and neglectful and need to get a grip

@decisionsdecision I'm not lazy at all I have a blood disorder for a start and I have to have transfusions regularly. So I am very weak so whenever I do manage to sleep I am knocked out. My partner does have days off?

Like I said DS has been doing this for two weeks, if you want to call me a lazy parent because DS has been wondering of downstairs for the past 2 weeks in the morning go ahead 🤣

@chihuahualady but you have cameras set up. Why would you have cameras set up if it's only just started happening?
You change your story constantly to try and gain support. Apart from 2 pp everyone else has said you're being unreasonable and neglectful

What’s your camera system? Sounds great.

@decisionsdecision my story hasn't changed once we've had cameras in this house since DD was born not because DS goes downstairs in the morning. Please show me where my story has changed? I may not have explained it all at the start but my story hasn't changed.

@fascinated smart frog.

@chihuahualady
"I'm not sleeping well at the minute I have tried but just can't fall asleep until at least 2."

Now it's because you have a blood disorder so are weak?

@decisionsdecision both true I have a sickle cell anaemia and no I'm not sleeping well at the moment. Next?

@chihuahualady
"I have been watching him on the cameras so I haven't felt concerned"

Then say well no I'm asleep so you aren't watching the cameras?

The drip feeds on this thread are worse than my bloody bath water running

@decisionsdecision The app is on my phone so when I wake up i usually rewind back to when he comes down in the morning to see what he's been doing.

If your health is so poor that you can't look after your child and your partner can't do it then you need outside help. Whatever the reason leaving a 3 year old by themselves for 2.5 hours is not acceptable.

Why didn’t you put all of this drip feed in your OP? I sympathise if you find getting up difficult because of your health condition but it’s completely unacceptable to allow a 3 year old to be alone for 2.5 hours and it is neglectful. You need to do something so he can’t go downstairs, perhaps a better stair gate?

@chihuahualady so you have no idea what he's doing in real time? It's so unbelievably silly of you!
Drip feeding information is a clear sign of things aren't going your way so you'll try something different!

@CallMeOnMyCell to be honest I didn't expect it to blow up like this. So just thought I would keep it brief. I was more interested into whether anyone else's kids came downstairs in the morning on their own.

@decisionsdecision yes I can watch him in real time but I can also go back and watch his movements.I don't need to lie I've came here and been honest