DS coming downstairs on his own?

[chihuahualady]

Not really an aibu but interested in what other parents think.

DS 3 has been coming downstairs on his for the past two weeks and putting the tele on usually helps him self to a piece of fruit as well.He comes down about 6:30 me and OH and DD usually wake up around 8-:8:30.

I'm fine with it but just wondering what other parents do, would you wake up with him and go down? I'm just no good when I'm tired so that extra 2 hours is needed.

My mum was a single parent, she used to wake up when we did but we'd get a drink and a snack and all pile in her bed and watch telly. It felt like a treat, as a parent I now realise it was a distraction technique so she could nap. It worked.

And you know what about my kids? Nothing.

Whereas I know you neglect yours every morning.

I am genuinely stunned that a 3 YO would happily be on their own for that length of time. My 7YO still follows me around the house if I am out of his line of sight for ten minutes.

My dh had parents who also never bothered to get up with him when he as a child. Now we have children he couldn't even fathom doing the same even though he works nights, and sometimes is awake 24 hours- we get up with them. At 10nyears old? I'm sure they'll be fine. At 3? Fuck no would I not bother getting up. That's just called parenting.

Sorry, not at 3. My DH gets up with our 3 year old, sticks a movie on and dozes on the sofa under a blanket next to her

Blimey. No, this isn't ok. I know it's knackering (also not sleeping, regularly seeing 1 or 2 am) my 3 and 4 year old get up at 6.30. I get up with them. On Tuesday the 3 yr old was up at 5.30 and is had a particularly bad night. That's parenting for you.

He has significant additional needs following trauma in his early life - Feel better now?

The only reason you are trying to personally attack me is because you are too much of a coward to face the reality that you are being too fucking lazy to get up and look after your own child.

You haven’t responded to ANY of the helpful suggestions people have made - you just really don’t give a shit do you?

You posted in the expecting that everyone would say yeah fine, crack on. But they haven’t.

So now you are trying to point the finger elsewhere to try and distract from your own failings.

Pathetic.

@chihuahualady a lot of people have answered your question and asked questions in return. Is there any reason you're ignoring everyone who has a question?

Op you are totally rude talking about another posters child in that way. Horrible.

And bringing details about my child, which you’ve SEARCHED for, into YOUR thread is pretty fucking low OP.

OP- your last post is massively out of order. I get that you're defensive because people have questioned your parenting but being that rude about a 5/6 year old is not on.

Be a parent ffs. Take turns and go downstairs with your son. Cant believe you think this is ok

Thanks everyone, I have reported the OP

@chihuahualady my son is nearly in year 2 still wears a nappy at night, he's on tablets not working, not his fault. Night time wetting is all to do with a certain hormone that needs to kick in, in some children it takes much longer. So absolutely nothing to do with @Rinoachicken child's home life as I doubt she neglects her child for hours each day.
think it absolutely disgusting to say that about a child, atleast we don't neglect our children.
Your lazy end of. I hope SS catch up with you before something horrific happens to your child while they are left on their own.
Why not ring your health visitor and tell her how you are so tired you need to leave your poor child on their own, see what she says.

You still won’t respond to anyone’s questions will you

Gosh I haven't rtft but this is getting nasty.

OP my eldest did this, he used to get up and sneak down the stairs at about 3.5 and eat Coco pops dry out the packet and play with his toys. This went on for about a week of me explaining he needs to come in to me when he wakes and him not listening until I had to put a bolt up high on the stairs door to stop him being able to get into the living room and then he had to come and get me. I had no idea how early he had been getting up! Usually 4/4.30am!

He is still a super early riser now 😕 unfortunately it's one of those things you just have to put up with until they are old enough to be alone for a while.

Hope your ok @Rinoachicken have told her a few home truths. My son's still wets the bed at the age of 7 he's on tablets but not working, it's all to do with hormones, but OP is so uneducated she thinks it's all to do with parenting, unfortunately neglecting her child is a choice that she is making. Don't let her get to you x

OP this isn't school. Yes people have been quite blunt, but you've actually been really rude in searching through another's posters last for details about their child. That's really horrible.

Goodness OP this didn't go the way you wanted and now you are singling out and attacking another poster. Really uncalled for. Also, it's you're

She's only searching as she's trying to make herself feel better about leaving her child in danger every single day because she can't be arsed to drag her lazy arse out of her pit!

thanks @Mammaaof

I’ve reported her earlier post. Pretty disgusting to do that. Makes me feel a bit sick that she’s actually SEARCHED for this information to try and attack me just because she can’t face the fact that she’s failing her own child.

@Rinoachicken I don't need to respond I came here for opinions and I agree with the majority of them.

However you started making up lies about my son being in his nappy all day and night. What about if other people read that and thought that was true? You can't start sprouting lies then play the victim.

You're a neglectful and lazy parent and a vile person to attack other people's children to make yourself feel better.

There's nothing that can excuse you failing to supervise a three year old child for 2.5 hours every morning. You can lie to yourself that others do it, it's safe, nothing will happen but it's just a lie. It's not safe and something will happen.