DS coming downstairs on his own?

[chihuahualady]

Not really an aibu but interested in what other parents think.

DS 3 has been coming downstairs on his for the past two weeks and putting the tele on usually helps him self to a piece of fruit as well.He comes down about 6:30 me and OH and DD usually wake up around 8-:8:30.

I'm fine with it but just wondering what other parents do, would you wake up with him and go down? I'm just no good when I'm tired so that extra 2 hours is needed.

My sons is nearly 4 and has been potty trained since 22 months. Stop making up assumptions! He also does the dishwasher and tides his own room! I must be a terrible parent.

Also OH works nights and gets in about 3 in the morning.

I don’t think a 3 year old would usually be in a nappy overnight would they ? Mine were sorted well before then.

No I have a 3yr old DD and I am stunned he leaves you for that long. Mine has a very important question you must answer whilst maintaining eye contact once every 5 mins. If your knackered take turns getting up but a 3yr old shouldnt be unsupervised. How would you feel if she went to nursery and they told you she had been left alone for nearly 2 hours.

My neighbour was as chilled you you.

Lovely woman - first to admit she needs her sleep.

Changed her mind the day I found her 3 year old walking the dog down a busy road at 7am in best pants and wellies

Poor woman nearly had a heart attack. It is also her DC no 4 and the first 3 never did such a thing. (Although no 2 was also a sleep monster!). She didn't think no 4 would until that day!

I'm sorry OP but you cant just ignore a 3 year old for ths first two hours of the day because you want to sleep. You just can't.

Mine wakes at about 6.15 too, he stays in bed until 6.30 then has a grow clock to tell him he can come in our room. I get up at 6.15 & go down to get milk for him and a coffee for me.

Yeah that's a hard no from me.

Get up like the rest of us do

Funny that now people have said it’s wrong for a 3yo he’s suddenly conveniently closer to 4

Cheshireding

My 3 year old was potty trained at 23m but is still in a pull up at night. He's only just started having more dry nights recently at age 3.5. He is a very deep sleeper and just has no idea, we have tried no pull up several times but he doesn't wake up despite the bed being wet & was getting sore skin.

@Rinoachicken do you want to see his birth certificate?

My 1st DD at that age was very independent but no chance would I let her sit downstairs for 2.5hours. She used to wake me up in the morning around 5.30 to take her night time nappy off and go the toilet (downstairs bathroom) then she would happily play in her room until 6.30/7ish but to be downstairs and eating food was a no go, far too risky.
Why is getting up at 6.30 so difficult though, that's quite a normal time to start the day?

@chihuahualady Also OH works nights and gets in about 3 in the morning.

I really feel like if you are saying that you don't sleep till at least 2 and DP gets in at 3 then it doesn't matter who goes down with DS?
Is it the fact that you're waiting on DP to get home/he's waking you up?

OP you really are creating a dangerous situation here. Whilst you say DS is self sufficient it would be a case that would be referred to SS and they would take it very seriously. I feel that if you are that tired then maybe a trip to your GP is in order. This is parenthood I'm afraid.
Get new stair gates etc pop his juice in his room and a little TV/iPad on a timer and go from there

You either need to get up with him or get him to stay in his room til 7am or whatever time morning is.

My daughter did this from about 4 - she’s 14 now, so survived.

No - I want you to look after your son properly in the mornings!

Like pretty much everyone else, it's a no from me, but I'd be comfortable with a more limited version. If there was a bit to stop him going into the kitchen, and he can't access the house keys, then I'd be ok with it for a shorter period, but no more than about 45 mins max. And with no food, but maybe some milk.

But my slightly more relaxed attitude is based on having a reasonably sensible child of that age who is incapable of doing anything when watching TV. The house could collapse around her and she wouldn't take her eyes off bing or whatever it is.

I have a younger child who is difficult to get to nap, so the eldest often gets sadly dumped in front of the TV so I can settle the eldest. Obviously I'm awake but I'm out of the room and upstairs, often for about half an hour, with the instruction to stay and watch, and come and get me if she needs me. I trust her enough for that.

I think it also slightly depends on whether he's just 3 or almost 4 - as the later can be supposedly old enough to start school. But with access to the kitchen, the fridge, and for 2 hours, no way I'm afraid.

Though I suppose you could just carry on as you are in an another year I dare say he’ll take himself off to school for you as well and you can have all the lie ins you like

There was a very similar thread recently and turned out to be a wind up. I don't think many will agree that it's OK to let a 3 year old get themselves up and feed themselves unsupervised while parents sleep.

Nope. Sorry. Standing by it. You can be exhausted. It doesn't mean you're lazy.

Each day around 40 under-5s are rushed to hospital after choking on something in the UK. Plus as others have said choking is silent, so you’d have no idea it was happening.
I’d also worry about him finding the keys and letting himself out. When I was a kid the neighbours kids were found more than once at 4/5am on the other side of town by the police, they were 2&3 at the time.

My son would get up in the middle of the night (I’m talking 2am) go downstairs, turn tv on and watch it in his own for a bit then either fall asleep on sofa or go back to bed (he’s tell me in the morning). He’d take the dog with him for company. I’d tell him he shouldn’t and it wasn’t safe, but it never stopped him. I’d be fast asleep so there was no way of stopping him, he was very stealthy!
Not an ideal situation but mine was ok and short of setting burglar alarm and moron sensors, nothing I could do to stop him.

My four year old wakes up early. He jumps in my bed and I give him my phone and he just watches paw patrol. I would not let him down though. Same thing -silent choking.

I dream of getting up at 630. My 3 year olds get up at 530. I get up with them or dp does. You sound a bit lazy if I'm honest.

One word: stairgate - or should that be two words? I'm a bit stunned by this and some of the responses.

No. Not ok. Get up.