To think I shouldn’t Be offered a home visit

[Whythough64]

I’ve been engaging with the mh team over phone. I spoke to them on the phone today and they are proposing they do a home visit as they are concerned. Aibu to say no on the grounds it’s against the government guidelines?

Theres a reason they want to see you in your home.

I suspect your mental health is quite poor, to get this level of involvement at this time?

I would assume you could refuse. But that will raise more flags to them.

My sons SW visited last week so I'm presuming home visits are allowed now

@Butterer

If the only option they're offering is at your house, I really would recommend taking it. Avoids a safe and well check later by the police

^ if that happens btw, I'd recommend letting them into your home. Being too scared to do that ended up with my being put in a headlock, handcuffed and dragged out my house under the MHA.

What is it about them coming to see you at home that worries you most ? have you told them about your concerns, perhaps there are things they could do that would help you feel more in control of the situation.

It sounds like you need a home visit as your mental health is so poor. But you can refuse, at that same time, they can choose to stop serving you as you won't engage in an appropriate fashion. Home visits for healthcare have never been against government guidelines.

would much rather just have phone support

well, that's something you can talk through with them when they come. But it's probably something they picked up during phone support, that makes them think you need a home visit. It's a good thing that they are offering face to face help and support.

If you (or partner) aren't comfortable with him being present, he could go for a walk so you can talk in private.

I shouldn’t lose all my support because I do the want people in my home that’s unfair.

You've got to be pretty unwell for the MH team to be interested in you. I would accept OP. hope things settle down for you.

There's no reason not to have them come. They'll do it safely and it will be socially distanced. I am seeing a therapist privately (not for any sort of acute issue) and they are now allowed to see clients socially distanced, ideally outside. She's been offering appointments in her garden. You could suggest the same.

Oh good God. I wish someone would offer to come to my home to help with my MH. I'd even make them a cup of tea.

I think it's your choice, I have a lifetime of involvement with MH services and the only time they would visit would be if they thought someone was quite ill.

If you say you'd rather just speak to them on the phone due to COVID, what do they say? Or haven't you tried yet? It's worth a go.

A safe and well check is very rare from psychiatric services, and tends to be people who aren't speaking to them at all, so they don't know if the person is alive. If you ring them and say you'd rather speak to them on the phone, they won't get anyone to do a safe and well check because they'll know you're still alive and they will have some level of awareness of your condition.

*They can't gain anything more from seeing me in person
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Oh yes they can, they really can.

Please OP, either appreciate and accept the support you're being given or have no support.

If you're not happy with the care you're receiving on the NHS, pay privately and then you can demand whatever you wish.

Stop finding a reason to complain. People like you drive me crazy.

I shouldn’t lose all my support because I do the want people in my home that’s unfair.

They're there to protect your health not quibble about what you find 'fair'.

I would accept too. They will like have good hand hygiene and wear masks. As should you, if you can.

But, if you really don't want a visit home visit, you can refuse (by email, ideally, so it is documented) and request continued phone calls.

Fine - you don't have to have them in your home. Equally they don't have to keep you on their books. Entirely up to you.

Bloody hell, you can't have it all your way. You are being offered appropriate help so take it. It makes my blood boil when there are waiting lists miles long for mental health support and people like you who have it want to dictate everything their own way.

OP- why is it you don’t want them in your home?
What about the garden?

If you have been accepting help via phone. and then they need to see you at home instead, you simply have to go along with this, as they have deemed it necessary. Just trust them.

Listen, you are being offered support.via a home visit, because that’s what the experts feel you need. Just be grateful as lots of people won’t get that support

If you really don’t want them to come then fine ( although I am sure they will come prepared to make social distancing work, or you meet them in your garden) but then don’t start complaining when they don’t offer you support in the future

These are the experts, listen to them

What is your issue with having them in your home? It’s sounds like far more than just “against the rules”. Has your housekeeping gone on vacation? Mine certainly isn’t up to usual standards.

Please let them help you

If you refuse them access to see you,you risk being sectioned.

It is so difficult to get access to Mental Health services,they must be concerned about you.

I don’t think you have any grounds to refuse to let them in.