I'm a size 16 and I think I'm pretty hot

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Just to even out the fat shaming on another thread. I'm a size 14-16. I can still fit in jeans I wore in sixth form college, I've always been this way. I have stayed a similar size through physical jobs, sedentary jobs, two pregnancies, breastfeeding, having a personal trainer, driving and sitting at a desk all day. I think that for some of us this is our healthy size.
Despite this I have to acknowledge the science, excess calories minus insufficient exercise does cause weight gain. Saying that my GP isn't worried as I've not gained weight in a short space of time, I've stayed the same for 16 years. I did once get down to a 12 but I had to try so hard, 18 hour fasts, exercise four days a week. I know women who stay at a 12 doing sweet F.A!

The things that I hate hearing are that people who are a size 14 to 18 are unhealthy. My previous job was being the manager of a health food shop. I lifted boxes of dried pulses, nuts, oats all day every day. Twice a week the delivery van used to park two streets down and we would have to carry 40+ boxes back to the shop and up the stairs to the storeroom. Do you know how many skinny people couldn't do that, even once? I can lift 25kg without much effort, if the tits didn't get in the way, I'd make a good weightlifter!

Exactly MilerVino, I've seen women who are very slim but still have curves.

"My boyfriend absolutely loves a curvy girl and thinks all women need a bit of meat on their bones."

Your boyfriends fetish preference is neither here nor there.

If he says that, does that automatically invalidate all the "skinny minnies" or whatever people call slim people, and place them automatically into the unattractive category?

I also agree with the person a couple of posts up about how the word "curvy" is incorrectly used as a synonym for "fat".

It isn't the same thing to me and many others. it is not a term I would universally use for anyone who is above a size 10.

My boyfriend hates curves and wishes I looked like slenderman.

Basically if people appropriate terms for themselves and they feel better then I think it's a very good thing.

If people however claim their weight and size is a gold standard for male attraction and that "skinny women" are unattractive, I think that is a very bad thing.

For example - my DW has more of a Gillian Anderson body type and height, very similar weight and age minus a few years. Does that now automatically invalidate her as being unattractive according to this "all women should have meat on them" standard?!!

Gin, well no because attractiveness is subjective. Obviously.

Spot on MilerVino It’s a body shape and not connected to size. I am small, slim and muscular and if I gained fat I still wouldn’t be curvy because fat goes on my belly rather than my hips and boobs so I would never have an hourglass shape.

@borntohula

Then it is your sex he hates, not your 'curves' 😂😂

I ignore dress sizes now. I pay attention more to what I weigh and what I eat, and happily choose clothes that fit. Job done.

It wasn't always this way. I am fat, but losing weight in a healthy, sustainable way, with extra exercise, and I'm feeling good at last. I've managed to drop out of the morbidly obese category, into the obese category, and will be continuing my journey to good health.

But going back to dress sizes, people need to remember it's all relative. A size 8 on someone who is 5 feet tall will be fine. That same size 8 on someone who is 6 feet tall will look horrendous, because size 8 on someone that tall strongly suggests they are underweight. Size is about proportion. Don't ruin yourself to get into the tiny clothes if it just leaves you underweight, that isn't healthy.

@Sweetlikecoca I think we're agreeing with each other. My point was that a 5k run time or being able to carry boxes or fitting into jeans you've had twenty years is all utterly meaningless. Demanding posters on MN prove how healthy you are according to random facts about you is pointless. As I said in an earlier post, we can only speak in general terms about the risks of being overweight. We all know being overweight is not a good thing.

@Sugartitss

I have a few curves and I love them. My boyfriend absolutely loves a curvy girl and thinks all women need a bit of meat on their bones.

Your boyfriend is a twat.

I would love to have this confidence. I'm 5 ft 9 and currently pregnant weighing 13 st 3 and I hate it. Pre pregnancy I was 12st 10 and hated that. Before Christmas I was 12stone 4 about a size 12 and didn't like that either. I was happier just under 12stone and about a 10 but I really struggled to maintain this. I actually think it's about shape. Im a straight up and down shape so don't look as good with extra weight because I just look broad. If you have bigger hips and smaller waist you're that traditional curvy shape that everyone seems to like and you can carry a bit more weight.

I'm a size 14/16 on bottom and a 10/12 on top. I have a small waist and a flat stomach. I have tonned arms and legs, I just have a huge bum and wide hips. They only got wider after having kids. I exercise loads, don't smoke, drink occasionally, but very rarely to excess. I think I look great!

I'm heavier but fitter these days.

A size 16, but can ride horses, kayak and run which I couldn't do 12 months ago.

I am fat. I want to be thinner but enjoy food (and alcohol) too much to ever be smaller than a size 12 or less than 11 stone.

I am physically fitter than my ndn who is a size 10/12. I am healthier and stronger and more active.

Fatter. But fitter.

Oh I'm also attractive I think. Big boobs, good legs, firm arse. Nice hair, good skin, nice features. Just a bit fat.

This has inspired me to start a new thread...

Well I'm 2 and a third stone lighter than I was in Jan 2019, and I can tell you that I was fit then but an awful lot fitter now. Running is so easy now i'm not lugging that extra poundage around. I can reach balls on a tennis court that I couldn't then, and I'm stronger. Yes I'm lighter and stronger. It really is simple physics. And I now have a healthy BMI. Oh and I can manoeuvre myself around a bedroom a lot more nimbly now ehem.

Lifting boxes isn't to do with you being "curvy" I'm skinny and short and have surprised a few people with my strength , suppose carrying my toddlers in my arms has helped build muscles.

Size doesn't matter in bed either I think it's about confidence, just like how a smaller penis can be "nicer" , it's just what they do with it ;)

Aslong as you're happy I suppose that's all that matters but you can't deny that being overweight is healthy and won't cause you health issues.

I'm a bit of both. I run everyday, I smoke, I drink too much and I eat a lot of crap. I'm probably the fittest, unhealthiest person ever!

I've been 18 stone, size 22 and I hated it, even now if I put weight on I hate been bigger. I'm now 11 1/2 stone and would like to lose another half a stone as that's when I feel my best. I don't like being overweight.

I do believe posts like yours are what is making it perfectly acceptable to be overweight and that is why we have a growing obesity crisis in this country.

Once you're over 40, a bit of chub is your friend.

From the POV of the actual weight I am, I've always had quite a bit of muscle, higher than the average in women, so even when I get my excess weight off, I'll always be at the higher end of the BMI charts. Despite being obese, I'm pretty fit, can lift heavy weights, walk for miles. I can't run, though, I never could. I was always doing things like shot put, javelin, discus and also hockey at school. Didn't really need to run for that last one, was known for being a big hitter, though.

I hit the comfort eating during my many years with my abusive ex, he definitely contributed to my low self esteem. Since I left, my self esteem is rising very nicely now. And I want to wear a nice dress, not a sack, at a wedding I'm going to next year. I'm even experimenting with make up, having not had the confidence to wear any for years (thanks, ex ).

So I think the comfort eating is, for me, easier to resolve now, as I'm finding I'm not wanting to eat as much now that I'm not getting digs and insults all the time.

If anyone wants the positivity without the fat/skinny war I've started a thread called 3 things you love about yourself 🥰 pop over and share them in a non confrontational environment!

Once you're over 40, a bit of chub is your friend.

I'm over 40 and double chin still does me no favours.

Why oh why are there people on here giving their height and weight and telling us what they can do?, it’s, for the most part, fucking irrelevant?!. Unless it’s to explain how you are doing better have lost x amount of weight we don’t need you wading in to tell us, well I have fabulous big tits and a flat stomach and my DH thinks I’m fab, great, well done, congrats, have a medal. Jeez.
Anyway, to answer the OP, I’m glad you consider yourself hot, well done, I don’t think it was necessary to start another thread which has turned into a similar fat v slim debate.

Reading a bit more on here, I've just remembered that one of my PE teachers was quite fat. But amazingly fit, she could run around a hockey pitch faster than us girls when refereeing.

It's going to be about confidence and I think, having been there, that most heavier people don't have as much confidence as those at healthy weights. It's also true that many underweight people (I'm referring to those who deliverately lose weight to be underweight, not those who are low weight for other reasons, eg medical) also lack confidence in themselves. I knew someone who constantly dieted, she was definitely underweight and also unhappy.

Well where's the pictures, so we can decide for ourselves?