I'm a size 16 and I think I'm pretty hot

[MermaidApocalypse]

Just to even out the fat shaming on another thread. I'm a size 14-16. I can still fit in jeans I wore in sixth form college, I've always been this way. I have stayed a similar size through physical jobs, sedentary jobs, two pregnancies, breastfeeding, having a personal trainer, driving and sitting at a desk all day. I think that for some of us this is our healthy size.
Despite this I have to acknowledge the science, excess calories minus insufficient exercise does cause weight gain. Saying that my GP isn't worried as I've not gained weight in a short space of time, I've stayed the same for 16 years. I did once get down to a 12 but I had to try so hard, 18 hour fasts, exercise four days a week. I know women who stay at a 12 doing sweet F.A!

The things that I hate hearing are that people who are a size 14 to 18 are unhealthy. My previous job was being the manager of a health food shop. I lifted boxes of dried pulses, nuts, oats all day every day. Twice a week the delivery van used to park two streets down and we would have to carry 40+ boxes back to the shop and up the stairs to the storeroom. Do you know how many skinny people couldn't do that, even once? I can lift 25kg without much effort, if the tits didn't get in the way, I'd make a good weightlifter!

I am 5ft 9, size 14/16 weigh 14 stone. I was 25 stone. I reckon I have a stone of loose skin (yucky) and I’d be a size 14 if I didn’t have a fapron. But oh god do I feel so much better at this weight. Can’t seem to lose much more at the moment but im stuck inside doing no exercise (need to correct this transgression) whereas when I was losing its because I was cycling to work. Staring at a tube of Pringles wondering if it’s an appropriate breakfast

MN seems to regard size 12 as fat do theres no hope for the rest of us

Well good for you.

It depends on height, body size etc.

I'm a size 16 and flabby fat. My own fault and have realised that I have put off too long and so gradually got fatter over the years. I don't look sexy in anything. It's in my own hands though.

More importantly I'm not healthy. I bought into the fat is ok crap for too long now and an increased risk of Covid has finally made me realise that it's not healthy at all. Just over a week ago I started to change my eating habits and exercising more when I can fit it in.

Each to their own.

What is all this stuff on this thread about "fat people are better in bed"...?!

I'm not saying anything for or against larger women in bed. Wouldn't dare.

I just don't get the proclamation - it's so ludicrous a generalisation that I'm trying not to rise to the bait.

"Staring at a tube of Pringles wondering if it’s an appropriate breakfast"

Depends on whether you want to eat your way to diabetes. I was pre diabetic, giving up refined carbs turned my blood results around within months.

My Sister took eating her way to diabetes as a joke, now she's 64, fat and diabetic, her mental health is suffering because of Covid. The possibility of loss of limbs and eyesight, depression, joint issues etc etc wasn't enough. I was lucky that on a routine appointment, my Nurse did a diabetes test.

It’s nothing to do with whether you look attractive or “hot”. It’s a health issue.

I'm also a 14-16. I eat well , take as much exercise as my disability allows and feel strong. My Dd is a 6-8, eats well, exercises and is strong and healthy.
Body positivity for all shapes and sizes !

Ok.

I agree with what your saying in that size doesn't always represent health.

I've seen a couple of posts on this thread linking weight to being great in bed? Curious to understand the connection? I'm not skinny btw so this isn't me being defensive. I'm just baffled it's even been mentioned.

you complain about fat shaming but do the same to people who are slim. Nice one

and it is certainly not a healthy weight and there are long term health implications. It is nothing to brag about. You may be hot bit by the sound of it, also a bit dim.

@YouAndMeAndTheDevilMakesThree
"MN seems to regard size 12 as fat do theres no hope for the rest of us"

That depends on what shop you are a size 12 in and you're height/body frame.

"Ali2020 Tue 09-Jun-20 08:57:17
I’m fat (size 16 and over 6ft) but I’m kind and generous. We all have value no matter what our shape!"

It's not about value though - it's about whether someone is healthy - I'm fat and not healthy. If very fat it's not possible to be healthy. I think some doctors are scared to say anymore since they will be flamed for being unkind to fat people (like me) what rubbish it is that we pretend fat is healthy.

It's not about clothing size, it's about health. I wear a size 12 (from some shops), but I'm not healthy. I consume too much sugar, I don't exercise. Body size and shape doesn't matter. I'm not healthy.

I am envious of all this body confidence!

Many people would call me fairly skinny, but I have gained 10lbs during lockdown and I hate it and feel awful.

I regularly see much larger women who look fantastic. Just wish I felt body positive for myself as well!

@GinDaddyRedux

What is all this stuff on this thread about "fat people are better in bed"...?!

I'm not saying anything for or against larger women in bed. Wouldn't dare.

I just don't get the proclamation - it's so ludicrous a generalisation that I'm trying not to rise to the bait.

You added the 'better' not us

It's all relative isn't it , at a size 16 I would be 5 stone lighter than now, I would feel a lot better and be able to put my socks on without any effort.
I am also very strong. I was able to move a 15stone man in his armchair (no castors on the chair ) by myself yesterday without any real effort. However walking up the three flights of stairs to get to him left me very short of breath !

I measured my neck the other day after reading about heart health and neck size and it is 15 inches, which isn't bad considering I weigh 20 stone, but is bad in that it is 2 inches more than it should be.

@MermaidApocalypse are you a 16 on the top as well as the bottom ?

@Abitouting

I agree with what your saying in that size doesn't always represent health.

I've seen a couple of posts on this thread linking weight to being great in bed? Curious to understand the connection? I'm not skinny btw so this isn't me being defensive. I'm just baffled it's even been mentioned.

The connection is the thread title

I'm so hot I sizzle

That's slightly exaggerated, but I'm just saying, yeah I'm a bit chubby, but I love my body and it does amazing things that bring great happiness to me and others. No need to feel bad about it. I was hot when I was skinny, I'm hot now.

What a load of old shit. This is as prejudiced as the other thread posted by "gymbabes" or whatever her goady user name was.

Some people are thinner, some fatter, some in between. Some people are enthusiastic lovers, some lazy, some people can carry boxes, some can't, some people are kind and tolerant some not so much, some think they are great and everyone should be more like them, they are the ones who cause the most problems.

Fat vs thin is another judgemental load of old crap that harms women. People are different, be kind and tolerant. Stop looking to beat other women down, you don't know their experience.

I'm a size 14-16. I'm 5ft 9 with natural fairly extreme curves - a big waist to hip ratio (a fair amount of my extra weight is tied up in boobs and muscles, but I do have a bit of a belly that I'm working on). My waist is under half my height, I have excellent blood pressure, and great aerobic capacity. I don't concern myself with other people's assessments of my health.

As for attractiveness, it has always really depressed me to see women angling for a particular weight, shape or size. There are so many different ways to be attractive. Keira Knightly has a lovely figure, as does Salma Hayek. Both beautiful women with a very different aesthetic and physique.

The one thing that I'd always say looks unattractive to me is fakery - including people who 'fake' their way to a figure that doesn't suit them by excessive dieting or exercise - I'd look very odd indeed if I put myself through the torture of achieving Keira's figure, even though it's natural and healthy to her!

(I look bloody amazing when I'm 13.5st, with a 28" waist but big boobs and hips)

It is pretty stupid to say that a 14-16 is a healthy weight, without relating it to size.

I am 5'8" At a size 14 I am the correct weight for my height. I am currently well over that, but if I was a size 12 I would come up as underweight.

If you are 6', it is pretty likley that your size at the correct height/weight ratio is going to be 16-18.

It has been shown that it is possible to be 'fat' and fit. It is also much much more unhealthy to yo-yo weight than to stay one weight.

But as a society we have got used to certain ways of eating and drinking that are very unhealthy, and we now look at overweight people and see them as normal, and see normal weight people as thin. (and I say that as a fat person)

I'm 9 stone 9 5ft 5 but look very curvy and do not suit the weight. I think it's dependent on how you carry it

Well good for you OP.

I'm currently a size 14 (and my jeans are tight!) and am very unhappy with the size and shape of my body.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and views. I can look at overweight people and think that they should lose weight - it doesn't mean I'd go and tell them so. But I don't find fat pleasant - and I don't have to.

@Ponoka7 it was a joke, I haven’t lost 11 stone to gain it back all by eating pringles. I eat two a day. Just today’s not a great morning, overtired and my natural inclination is to eat shit. But once I’ve dragged myself from my desk I’ll probably eat porridge, fills me up.

I’m surprised I’m. It dis ethic from being heinously fat so I do not take my lucky escape for granted

We need heights and weight (not dress sizes which are very confusing).

The bottom line is too many people are over weight and it will put them at higher risk of covid 19 so it may be a good idea if you are able to lose it. The NHS gives useful information about healthy weights for your height or if you prefer a maximum waist measurement to work out if you are a healthy weight or not.

Wow typo... I’m surprised I’m not diabetic is what I actually typed