I'm a size 16 and I think I'm pretty hot

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Just to even out the fat shaming on another thread. I'm a size 14-16. I can still fit in jeans I wore in sixth form college, I've always been this way. I have stayed a similar size through physical jobs, sedentary jobs, two pregnancies, breastfeeding, having a personal trainer, driving and sitting at a desk all day. I think that for some of us this is our healthy size.
Despite this I have to acknowledge the science, excess calories minus insufficient exercise does cause weight gain. Saying that my GP isn't worried as I've not gained weight in a short space of time, I've stayed the same for 16 years. I did once get down to a 12 but I had to try so hard, 18 hour fasts, exercise four days a week. I know women who stay at a 12 doing sweet F.A!

The things that I hate hearing are that people who are a size 14 to 18 are unhealthy. My previous job was being the manager of a health food shop. I lifted boxes of dried pulses, nuts, oats all day every day. Twice a week the delivery van used to park two streets down and we would have to carry 40+ boxes back to the shop and up the stairs to the storeroom. Do you know how many skinny people couldn't do that, even once? I can lift 25kg without much effort, if the tits didn't get in the way, I'd make a good weightlifter!

I'm a bit chubby but I'm amazing in bed

@NoHardSell agree. DP's mate who won't go out with anyone past an 8 once admitted that he had the best night of his life with a larger lady. He was lucky to get that night.

I'm a bit chubby but dieting over the past 30 years gave me an eating disorder and nearly killed me when I ended up in hospital after a particularly restrictive diet (plus underlying medical condition) one time.

So I'll take the chubby thanks!

You are just shaming the other side now - the skinny. What’s the difference between you and the other thread.

I agree OP. I know plenty of women around the size 14-16 mark who are really healthy - eat well, don't smoke/drink, exercise. The skinniest women I know (aside from one who is a runner) are much more unhealthy - literally don't eat all day but smoke heavily, takeaway at the weekend, binge drink. Yet because they are a size 6-8 they are seen as the healthier people! I don't understand it at all. Whenever I read those threads where people get all faux-concerned about overweight people, I wonder if they extend that concern to the smokers, drinkers, junk eaters and couch potatoes in their lives who may well be thin but are still leading very unhealthy lifestyles!

My BMI is in the overweight category. I'd like to lose some weight, but still, I have great hair, good legs, a nice smile, can easily run 10k and have never had any problems attracting men (before I got married that is!).

Thank you OP. As a size 14 at 5ft 5 I'm a little curvy but the only time I've ever been thinner was when super stressed (divorce) or super skint (after divorce)

When happy and settled, I'm curvy, I'm healthy, I do yoga, Zumba, bike ride eat mostly a plant based diet and plenty of chocolate.

I've never once had an issue attracting a partner and realistically the type of men who tend to only go for super skinnies aren't my cup of tea regardless (vain, selfish narcs)

Here's to cake, and curves. 🍰

Carrying Boxes means you are strong, not necessarily healthy or fit

@lglonel where is she thin shaming? The only thing she has said is that some skinny people couldn’t carry the weight that she could, that’s just a universal truth about all weights, I certainly couldn’t carry that weight!

I’m fat (size 16 and over 6ft) but I’m kind and generous. We all have value no matter what our shape!

i think both sides are slightly deluded in their own way. BUT if someone is happy with their look and it makes them feel good that is positive, as long as they aren't bitching about others.

Sorry not fat! I have no idea why my phone wanted to call me fat or what happened after -
I’m for and kind and generous.

🤦‍♀️ Fit.

I'm currently a 16-18 and I get a lot of attention. I'm fat, and not healthy (currently down from a size 22 and aiming for a 12) but I still think I'm pretty hot tbh.

Also brilliant in bed

I didn't know 14-18 was unhealthy. All body shapes are different! ❤

I've recently lost weight but I am 5 foot and have a very hourglass figure . I was a 14/16 and everyone always comment on how nice my figure is 🤷‍♀️.. I think it's more to do with where you carry your fat than size . I'm personally happier a few stone lighter but I'm still hourglass and I'm grateful for that.

"The things that I hate hearing are that people who are a size 14 to 18 are unhealthy."
Size is relative though. If someone is tall and a size 16 they can be slim or even very slim. If you are short and a size 16 you are probably overweight or obese.

However, weight isn't necessarily an indication of health. You can gave a skinny person whose arteries are clogged with fat.

Op, you are just as bad as skinny people who fat shame. The way you said you could life boxes but "skinny people can't" well I know plenty who can lift some heavy weights too. It's great that you feel good in your own body, everyone should feel like that no matter what size they are. But that doesn't mean shaming the opposite to you.

Also that other thread was clearly a goady fucker trolling.

I will just never understand why these skinny saviours assume their input will be more impressive than medical recommendations by health professionals. So they're on meds for high blood pressure at 22? Bet the GP never even MENTIONED weight loss before writing the prescription...But don't worry, Becky is here to tell you about juice fasts and heavy lifting, fat girl! 🙄

Anyone can be beautiful, regardless of size. A lot really is about confidence too. I used to be a size 20 and I was confident and happy with how I looked. Undoubtedly though the sad fact is that for me personally (not everyone of course) I look a lot better as a 12. I feel better too. Anyone can be unhealthy, size isn't always an indicatior, but excess weight, even if it's muscle puts extra strain on your body regardless. As long as someone is happy though that's the main thing.

I always used to be skinny but not fit, never exercised and for sure couldn't have lifted those boxes you describe. Now I exercise daily, eat well and would consider myself as fit. You're right, being skinny doesn't necessarily mean healthy. And vice versa.

Also I'm fat, not healthy, desperate to become so as now about 1 week preg and don't want a difficult third tri and birth. I KNOW I am fat. I know WHY I am fat. And I am angry with myself for not having the self control to be thin. But I don't hate my body, I don't hate myself. And I don't need self-satisfied thin people patronising me with their "well meant advice". If I need advice I'll ask for it from a professional or a voluntary support organisation. Because I'm not an idiot.

On the other side I had a friend who had been reccomended by doctors to lose weight. As she was having a lot of medical issues such as bad knees and high cholesterol before the age of 30. They would tell her she needs to consider loosing weight and she would always tell us proudly how ridiculous they were and how she would just ignore them as she couldn't be bothered.

My point is, I don't think it's wise for people to ignore medical advise, so as long as you are healthy I don't see the problem with size. Either if they are over or under weight.

I have no idea what I weigh . My clothes fit . I eat healthily. I’m happy
As long as you are comfortable in your own skin , it’s good

Over a certain BMI, your body/vascular system is struggling.

It's a matter of lifestyle and body fat percentage, once you are between the 'healthy and overweight' BMI/weight range.

I say that as someone who is obese, but losing weight. A lot depends on what your calories are made up from, refined carbs, protein etc.

I'm a size 14 and I'm obese, which now puts me at greater risk of Covid, among other things that even with a similar lifestyle I wouldn't be if my body carried less fat and was smaller.

I don't consider attractiveness to men relevant, men aren't that fussy.