I'm a size 16 and I think I'm pretty hot

[MermaidApocalypse]

Just to even out the fat shaming on another thread. I'm a size 14-16. I can still fit in jeans I wore in sixth form college, I've always been this way. I have stayed a similar size through physical jobs, sedentary jobs, two pregnancies, breastfeeding, having a personal trainer, driving and sitting at a desk all day. I think that for some of us this is our healthy size.
Despite this I have to acknowledge the science, excess calories minus insufficient exercise does cause weight gain. Saying that my GP isn't worried as I've not gained weight in a short space of time, I've stayed the same for 16 years. I did once get down to a 12 but I had to try so hard, 18 hour fasts, exercise four days a week. I know women who stay at a 12 doing sweet F.A!

The things that I hate hearing are that people who are a size 14 to 18 are unhealthy. My previous job was being the manager of a health food shop. I lifted boxes of dried pulses, nuts, oats all day every day. Twice a week the delivery van used to park two streets down and we would have to carry 40+ boxes back to the shop and up the stairs to the storeroom. Do you know how many skinny people couldn't do that, even once? I can lift 25kg without much effort, if the tits didn't get in the way, I'd make a good weightlifter!

I don’t think your abilities in bed are determined by your size.

I have often thought about starting a thread like this on here. I've never done it because I could guarantee it would be filled up quite quickly with people who are "concerned about health".

FWIW I agree with you. I'm happy with myself for the first time in my adult life. I don't care what other people think and I won't spend another minute of my life obsessing over calories or clothes sizes or what a random thinks of whether my body is pleasing to look at or not. It's very liberating.

Hmm. Sizes are pretty arbitary. And I know BMI is also problematic, being such a vague measurement that fails to take into account various other factors.

However. I'm fat, and have for the past few years brushed aside the fact it might be affecting my health. Then I got coronavirus, and it scared me not being able to breathe, and I know that my extra weight probably exacerbated the illness.

I'm now putting myself on my own regime - got a fitbit and am making sure that every day I exercise more calories out than I eat. It's going to take a long time, because dieting doesn't work for me, but I am pretty resolute that by this time next year I will be fitter and healthier.

Now that I'm actually moving more, I've noticed how the fatness makes it harder to breath and move. It's based on my internal sense of health, if that makes sense, rather than whatever my clothes size is.

I don’t think your abilities in bed are determined by your size.

It can be awkward if your partner keeps burning his bum on the lightbulb.

I have found that I have put weight on as I go through the menopause and it now sits around the tummy area and is a lot harder to shift. Lockdown has been the icing on the cake with a few more unwanted and unneeded extra pounds and I am beginning to feel uncomfortable, have more back ache and my arthritis in my ankle is worse.
I could bury my head in the sand and just say it is age but it is not. I am carrying to much weight and I need to shift at least a stone but probably better if I shifted two. Unless I want to shave a few years off my life and are ready to accept limitations on how active I can be I need to start losing the weight now and am going to make a real effort now we are coming out if lockdown.

So whilst you might feel great now the older you get the more you feel the extra pounds and then it is harder to shift. The damage it does to your body is harder to hide or ignore and your life is more limited than it was.

Clothes size doesn't mean anything though - I have clothes ranging from a 10 to a 14 from different shops and they all fit me perfectly.

So you've started this thread in response to a 'fat shaming' thread?
So far so good, except you're doing exactly the same to slim/skinny people. Ffs!!!

I'm very slim, always have been. Guess what, I can lift all kinds of heavy things! I'm strong and healthy and frankly sick to death of the sort of double standard bullshit that you have written.

Fat shaming, thin shaming it's all the same.
You had an opportunity to provide a well balanced response but instead you just did exactly the same as the person who offended you. Well done op!

@Lglonel

You are just shaming the other side now - the skinny. What’s the difference between you and the other thread.

well, i think not based on the first couple of posts (as you probably were) all the posts are saying, is that they are not not disgusting for being a little heavier. Some people are not designed to be a size 12

@Igtg

I don’t think your abilities in bed are determined by your size.

Happily neither does anyone else on this thread

Although my tits definitely give better tit jobs now they are larger

And my arse is way more smackable

I actually really like my current size for sex. Slimmer was good too. Easier to find sexy but cheap lingerie for starters, and I personally think it looked better on me when I was slimmer.

I'm just very happy in my body. It's hot. As per thread title. Body confidence is always sexy, regardless of size.

It might be attractive to different men though, so perhaps it's hard if you are in a long term relationship and change size substantially but your partner has a thing about a certain body shape. That would be tough. When you're single it isn't an issue.

@Xenia 5'6, 20 stone, BMI 45 , clothes size 22. No extenuating circumstances, have just eaten and drunk a lot more calories than I needed over the last 10 years.

Being able to bring boxes in does not make you healthy or stop you being overweight; it just means you’re strong.

Nobody should be body shaming anyone whatever their size, but the reality of the matter is that we can’t tiptoe around the obesity problem anymore.

We can’t go round saying “love your body”, because then overweight people think it’s okay, and don’t do anything about it when it’s physically and mentally harmful to just ignore it and/or carrying on gaining weight.

Yeah, nobody likes to be told they need to lose weight, but we need to start saying it instead of burying our heads in the sand.

Yes, ProudBoomer, I think that's very good point. When young you can handle a few extra pounds but the gradual & incremental effects on health show up as you get older.

I don’t recall any fat shaming, just folk as to how they saw themselves!
Some like me choose to be skinner ( if I can be, ) and menopause is a beast that places fat where we wouldn’t chose it

*Nobody should be body shaming anyone whatever their size, but the reality of the matter is that we can’t tiptoe around the obesity problem anymore.

We can’t go round saying “love your body”, because then overweight people think it’s okay, and don’t do anything about it when it’s physically and mentally harmful to just ignore it and/or carrying on gaining weight.

Yeah, nobody likes to be told they need to lose weight, but we need to start saying it instead of burying our heads in the sand.*

I agree with this 100% ^

I’m a size 8 and can lift a 25kg box at work too . Great that you’re proud of your body but no need to call ‘skinny’ people weak

Ah -- Let me try again

Nobody should be body shaming anyone whatever their size, but the reality of the matter is that we can’t tiptoe around the obesity problem anymore

We can’t go round saying “love your body”, because then overweight people think it’s okay, and don’t do anything about it when it’s physically and mentally harmful to just ignore it and/or carrying on gaining weight

Yeah, nobody likes to be told they need to lose weight, but we need to start saying it instead of burying our heads in the sand

Clothes size is irrelevant - BMI is not. I'm sure you do look hot by the way, women of all sizes can be gorgeous, but looking hot isn't connected to good health.

The further your BMI falls outside the healthy range, the harder your cardiovascular system has to work to pump blood around your body. Being overweight puts pressure on your joints and can crush your cartilage, meaning joint replacements at a young age may be necessary. You are also more susceptible to certain cancers, to heart disease (fat isn't just directly under the skin, it also lines your arteries and can cause narrowing and blockages).

Essentially - saying that being overweight isn't healthy isn't being mean, it's the truth. You can be fit and strong and still have all of the above issues. However, anyone saying you're not attractive or of less worth or unfit because you're bigger can jog on.

Yeah, nobody likes to be told they need to lose weight, but we need to start saying it instead of burying our heads in the sand

No, you really don't need to say it. You need to keep your nose out of other peoples bodies. If you want to lose weight, you go for it. Don't even dream of telling other people that they should.

Oh, and for what it's worth, "overweight people" know they are overweight. They don't need helpful busybodies who are concerned about health sticking their beaks in.

@HappyMealWithLegs

Yeah, nobody likes to be told they need to lose weight, but we need to start saying it instead of burying our heads in the sand

No, you really don't need to say it. You need to keep your nose out of other peoples bodies. If you want to lose weight, you go for it. Don't even dream of telling other people that they should.

Oh, and for what it's worth, "overweight people" know they are overweight. They don't need helpful busybodies who are concerned about health sticking their beaks in.

If overweight people are aware they are overweight and are not doing anything about it, then yes, they clearly need a push in the right direction.

It’s not about individuals. It’s about society as a whole making it clear that obesity is not physically or mentally healthy and that “love your body” is just enabling overweight people and allowing them some comfort in thinking their size is okay when it isn’t.

We can’t tiptoe around the obesity problem anymore just because it may hurt their feelings.

"MN seems to regard size 12 as fat do theres no hope for the rest of us"

“That depends on what shop you are a size 12 in and you're height/body frame.”

Proving PPs post immediately!

I can lift 25kg without much effort, if the tits didn't get in the way, I'd make a good weightlifter!

So can I. I'm a size 6/8. Takes all sorts to make this grand old world, innit?

I think I'm pretty hot too — if you disregard the face: I wasn't at the front of the queue when God was doing faces

I am losing weight exactly because I ' love my body ' . I love the fact that it has carried on going despite the years of excess pressure on my joints and internal organs and other systems, its bloody amazing really. Now it is time to pay it back for all that hard work.

The thing is it's all relevant to the individual person. I know people who are size 16s who look absolutely amazing and others who are size 16s that look very big due to being short/tall etc...

I have weighed under 10 stone before but still only ever fit into size 12s at the least as my body shape, hips, breasts etc will not allow for anything smaller. I'm not a happy 11 stone and a size 12 going on 14 and look just right imo but I'm very tall.

Clothes sizes don't really tell you anything to do with health and they change from person to person for various reasons, it's not always just fat or thin.

I'm now a*