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If someone didn't post anything about BLM

144 replies

022828MAN · 07/06/2020 17:33

If someone you know didn't post anything on SM about BLM would you think that it was unreasonable or not?
I've recently had a disagreement about this but don't want to say just yet which person I am in the situation to get a clear picture.
So,

YABU - Yes it's completely unreasonable not to post about it

YANBU - No, not everything needs to be posted to social media

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NamedyChangedy · 07/06/2020 20:21

For non-influencers or people without a 'platform', I don't think it means anything.

If I have a friend with 20 followers who posts once a month, then I'll go by their actions, not some vapid post that no-one sees.

NamedyChangedy · 07/06/2020 20:22

Sorry, that was a YANBU.

lilgreen · 07/06/2020 20:22

I haven’t. I find it abhorrent but I don’t use social media.

transformandriseup · 07/06/2020 20:24

I only have facebook but there are no posts whatsoever about BLM.

bringincrazyback · 07/06/2020 20:27

Who the hell would vote YABU for something like this?

As far as I'm concerned this is the same as other means of showing support on social media. Most of those doing it will be people who genuinely care, but for some it's just virtue-signalling, plain and simple. And allows them to go about their day satisfied that they have 'done their bit' when in fact all they've is make a gesture that doesn't directly change anything.

Devlesko · 07/06/2020 20:28

Good grief one sure way to get yourself into trouble.
I post political stuff on the closed fb groups I belong to, where people share the same interests and are the same race.
On my main account there's nothing political and I remove political stuff.
No white/black/Roma comments on my main pages.
Just general chit chat and family pictures.
You'd have no idea if i was Black, White or BAME.

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022828MAN · 07/06/2020 20:29

I think the sad reality is that most of these people live in an echo chamber so when someone doesn't fit their bill of righteousness they just cannot cope.
Realistically it probably indicates a severe lack of life experience or immaturity.
But yes, good riddance to her. One less drain on life at the moment can only be a good thing.

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Ugzbugz · 07/06/2020 20:36

No I didnt, my pic is of my and my friends including our best friend who died mid 30s and I am not changing, however I did text my friend with mixed race children and had a chat with DC, to see what he thinks etc.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 07/06/2020 20:37

I don't really do politics on SM. The last few days have confirmed what I knew about some of my 'friends' on FB. The ones which jump on bandwagons jumped on the bandwagon. The people who fancy themselves political commentators made twats of themselves as usual. Police friends showed sympathy to injured colleagues. Some showed genuine sympathy.

Looking back, the last 'Current Affairs' thing I posted about was actually the death of Katherine Johnson, and linking to a book about her as I think she's an inspirational woman.

Oxfordnono12 · 07/06/2020 20:40

YANBU, I havent posted anything. I have my own views. I dont share it..

ekidmxcl · 07/06/2020 20:41

Social media is the cancer of modern society.
It puts us right back to groupthink.
State the view of the group or be eliminated.
Thick as fucking mince.

Sonotech · 07/06/2020 20:42

I wonder how many people on this thread have posted the NHS logo on there facebook or stuck a rainbow picture their kids made in the window or clapped at the front door in support of the NHS?

That’s what people do when they can be arsed and believe in something.

The excuses on this thread why people shouldn’t Or don’t show their support is just embarrassing.

It’s no good observing and thinking about it. What is that actually going to achieve?

People scroll past when they don’t give a fuck. I posted about child FGMot received zero response. I baked a cheese and onion pie and posted it two hours later and got nearly 40 likes..

People don’t actually care of it doesn’t effect them

africansassenach · 07/06/2020 20:44

I am black and I have posted a lot, even though most of the people on my Facebook, are black too so would feel the same way I do. Posting hasn't been performative to me.

I also have white friends on my FB who haven't posted. Most of them have either liked what I have said. I don't know if it's performative on their part, but I take it as them acknowledging my feelings, my anger as well as the learning resources that'll hopefully be useful to them. A big part of me hopes that while they may not personally say anything, hopefully they're learning enough to continue the conversations in their households

Also posted on LinkedIn and got acknowledgement from people in my industry.

And yes, I have also lost 2 white friends over what they posted/commented...but that is life.

Purpleartichoke · 07/06/2020 20:47

If I wouldn’t write about it in a Christmas card, it doesn’t go on social media.

mrsBtheparker · 07/06/2020 20:53

The OP, and many others on this site, have no concept of free speech.

WaterOffADucksCrack · 07/06/2020 20:54

I'm black and I haven't posted about it because I have always challenged racism. It's bothered me more seeing people who have never challenged it before making out like they've always cared.

It shouldn't have taken yet another black person needlessly dying for people to care. But the thing is many are actually pretending to care because it's the latest trend on social media.

An acquaintance ensured he posted about having been to one of the marches. Someone asked why he thought it was appropriate since he works with children who have a range of behavioural and health issues. He claimed he'd socially distanced and made himself look like an idiot as he was in the video on our news website. He then tried to claim it was fine as he wore a mask. I privately messaged and said he should self isolate for 14 days and he may want to take the post down as someone may inform his employer or something and he could get into trouble. He replied with racial abuse! I screenshot it and put it on the public post so some people now know what he is. He also had the nerve in his post to say how his back was hurting from the march and complained he got soaked. Pathetic.

Endless11 · 07/06/2020 20:55

I posted an interview with Akala on Facebook, but nothing on Instagram as it isn’t easy to link to interviews on there. I also view Facebook and Instagram differently - the former being more political IMO. There’s a couple more interviews I want to link to on Facebook which were very interesting - one with George the Poet and one with David Olusoga, not that I think anyone pays a blind bit of attention to my posts.

I have wondered if people will be judging me for my silence on Instragram and got a bit worried about it (someone I am vaguely in love with (sort of) is on there and I didn’t want him to judge me), but then I thought that I actually wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who thought in that way, without knowing any of my thoughts or asking me about it.

Chicchicchicchiclana · 07/06/2020 20:59

No, I did not post anything about BLM on social media. Who cares what I think?

MouseholeCat · 07/06/2020 21:06

I've not posted on social media about this because I never post on social media about anything. However, I've spent the last few days on forum sites like Reddit (I guess that's social media?) calling out racism and misinformation whenever I see it. That's probably a lot more useful than posting on Facebook or Instagram to my echo chamber who can delete, hide or unfollow me if they don't agree.

willowwispa · 07/06/2020 21:08

Most of it is the latest thing, it's the #bekind #staysafe of the week. I know which of my friends support it and which don't without them posting. About the only post I took note of for being genuine and heartfelt was my friend's BAME children's post at their delight of seeing it come down in their city because it was their post that they had written rather than sharing a meme. Their's was lovely to see.

Russellbrandshair · 07/06/2020 21:12

I wonder how many people on this thread have posted the NHS logo on there facebook or stuck a rainbow picture their kids made in the window or clapped at the front door in support of the NHS

Nope! I haven’t done any of those things either.
Not everyone thinks FB is the epitome of importance or the focal point of their lives. Shocking I know, but some of us prefer to actually take action in our communities than sit there and brag about it when we’ve done fuck all.

BetteDavisWeLuvU · 07/06/2020 21:18

No, I’ve found it completely crass and like someone else said performative, it’s not fucking fashion statement.

I haven’t and couldn’t give a shit if anyone judges me for it. The people who matter on the subject know what I think.

An Mum acquaintance has been all over it and I’m just like 🙄. I tried to have a conversation with her a while ago about children’s TV and Cbeebies and how I've been so pleasantly surprised by how inclusive it tries to be, she properly turned her nose up at this and was like ’ha, oh we just stream things from Youtube or Netflix’ she made me feel like I was ben really geeky, now she's all over Facebook being super woke, oh ok then 😏

LillianBland · 07/06/2020 21:18

After seeing all the fights over Mumsnet and also the virtual signalling all over Facebook, I’ve no intention of posting anything. As for clapping for the NHS, etc, I didn’t do that either. I’m passionate about certain subjects and issues in society and could talk your ear off about them, but I still don’t post on Facebook about it, because it’s too easy for something that you put in print, so to speak, to be completely misunderstood or deliberately twisted.

Lifeisgenerallyfun · 07/06/2020 21:26

The people who have posted are exactly the same ones that post about every currently trending hashtag. Usually accompanied by some sort of comment about how this has been their number one priority for the past 500 years (although they are trying to do better- can anyone recommend any good books so I can elevate my holier than thou status to papal levels) and can’t believe how everyone is so late to the party - this is the only thing that matters in my echo chamber blah blah blah. Next week it will be #somethingelse.

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022828MAN · 07/06/2020 21:27

@mrsBtheparker

The OP, and many others on this site, have no concept of free speech.
I don't understand what you mean by this?
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