If someone didn't post anything about BLM

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If someone you know didn't post anything on SM about BLM would you think that it was unreasonable or not?
I've recently had a disagreement about this but don't want to say just yet which person I am in the situation to get a clear picture.
So,

YABU - Yes it's completely unreasonable not to post about it

YANBU - No, not everything needs to be posted to social media

I also agree with previous posters - sick of seeing people posting shit and thinking they've done their bit. If you really care do something about it - and that's not posting a black square

Don't take up poker!

Your friend is a div - you're better off without them.

Below is what I wrote on another thread regarding being told that silence is compliance and would be my response to your ‘friend’ and anyone else who believes the same.

If silence is compliance I presume you take this stance with every issue facing humanity today? That type of thought can be applied to so many issues such as child abuse, sexism, racism, modern day slavery, poverty, animal abuse and so much more.

I understand that systemic racism is what’s currently getting attention and rightly so. I don’t want to take away from that but I think this issue is not related to it specifically. You either take the stance that silence is compliance regarding all major issues in life, including systemic racism, or you don’t in which case you would be a hypocrite to believe this and lecture others about something you only believe in when it’s a cause that is personal to yourself.

If you don’t speak out constantly and consistently about all the above issues too yet are against them, then surely you can see the flaws in your thought process and that saying silence is compliance in regards to systemic racism is not as black and white as you currently seem to believe.

Not speaking out does not solely have to mean you condone anyone’s actions or words or even believe it yourself whether this is in relation to systemic racism or not. If you believe this train of thought then you’re on rather shaky ground regarding morals and ethics in my opinion. I would not look through your Mumsnet history/Facebook etc and presume you to be pro modern day slavery or child abuse for example just because you may not of spoken out against it before.

Should people speak out against injustices and not just quietly not be something? In an ideal world yes but it’s never as simple as that answer alone and taking such a stance that is so polarised you’re more likely to cause further division and not the unity you and most people wish for.

I’ve posted nothing. I don’t do social media.. does that say something about me regarding BLM?

I haven't posted on SM. I've donated to a few related causes and I've commented for and in defence of the cause on various forums. I'd be preaching to the converted on my SM so I don't bother plus I don't really use it for that. But if I come across a post on the various forums I'm on and see and opportunity to get someone to see something from a different perspective then I will and to me that's more useful than posting on SM to like minded people all posted the same thing.

The last 5 things I posted on social media are:

• a link to a local history story
• pic of DD baking
• link to online science classes from a school email
• shared a page about why MLMs are a bad thing
• picture of DS's hamsters.

I don't use my FB to lecture, performance parent or virtue signal.

All of the people I’ve seen posting have been those people in my circle who are usually seen to be liberal. So they will share sometimes during Pride, even though they LGBT. Namely white women and one white man.

Where I have an issue with this, is that they aren’t posting links, articles, information. All of them are posting the exact same thing, starting with the black picture on Tuesday, to the infographics about “All Lives Matter” over the last few days. One has managed to turn it so that she’s the victim for deciding to tackle someone on the “All Lives Matter” issue. I’m not saying don’t discuss “All Lives Matter” and why at the moment we need to focus on black lives but do you need to make a status making yourself the victim? There are so many links out there, even if you can’t donate, you can share the feelings of those in the riots, the opinions of the shop owners that are looted, share some of the many videos that black people are putting out there about how they feel. Some of it just feels like using the trending hashtag to get your ‘work’ seen by a larger audience, it’s not even virtue signalling, it’s just needing to be part of the current conversation.

The only post on the current situation that I’ve reacted with is that from a white woman living in the US who has a black, young adult, son. She shared her personal feelings for her fear for her son. This post felt real and not needing to be part of the conversation.

I’ve stayed well out of it and come off sm for a break. I don’t post even mildly political stuff on Facebook for fear of alienating friends, family, colleagues who all seem to have have very different views from each other but my feed just appeared as a stream of white people picking fights and trying to outvirtue each other which didn’t sit comfortably at all.

I didn’t do the black square, I don’t do the whole ‘copy and repost if you are here for me’ thing, I don’t do the ‘I’ve been nominated to post a photo a day’ bullshit.
I haven’t and won’t post anything about BLM.

Same here. I try to keep politics off my social media.

I'm reassured by the amount on common sense on here.
Ironically the person who's given me a hard time for it seems to have conveniently forgotten that I know her in real life and know how what she posts online bares no resemblance to her day to day behaviours, actions and attitudes. She's eternally pessimistic, judgemental of everyone and bitchy and catty in general. To be fair it's probably been a blessing in disguise to cut ties anyway, but the hypocrisy is laughable.

You don't know what else is going on in someone's life my Grandma's funeral was on Tuesday so I wasn't on social media that day posting about BLM doesn't mean I did care just had other concerns that day.
Also I keep seeing one post ghag says post x and then another one saying not to sometimes is really hard to know what to do.

Some dickhead has just posted this on my insta:

" This is sobering: - if you ever wondered what you'd be doing during slavery, the holocaust, or the civil rights movement - you're doing it now"

er, no. I would have been raped and put into a gas chamber actually.
Classic white privilege - "everyone on my feed must be white or christian"

Sorry I just accidentally voted the wrong way. I never allow myself to be bullied into anything, post an album/book per day etc. I never, ever post anything political. If my FB friends don’t like it they can do one.

Following on from my message above, if they then still took the stance that silence is compliance I would have a quick search through their social media and anything that they haven’t spoken out against before I would call them out on. When they claim that they are not a sexist and are indeed against child abuse for example then I would throw their own words back at them and claim that of course they are according to themselves and shame on them as ‘silence is compliance’ remember.

That’s just me though 🤷‍♀️

Is this a serious question? Of course people can choose not to post about it!

Is this really what we've become?

I think it totally depends how a person normally uses their SM and what else might be going on in their life. If they are normally all over things political and have gone abruptly silent, I'd be wondering. If they normally post only jokes, recipes or those soppy things about daughters/sons, I wouldn't.

I don't post anything political or share links etc because I hate hearing others opinions unless it's real life and we can chat properly!

As a woman, I hate it when men try to muscle in on feminism, and show off about being allies. I assume that many black people feel the same about white people banging on about BLM on SM.

YY to all of us demanding change, holding the authorities to account etc. But a self-congratulatory post on SM does nothing useful, it just deflects attention.

I think it depends. Those that don’t tend to post much anyway, why would they suddenly start. But a friend of mine who posts multiple times a day about anything and everything and has an opinion about a lot of political issues; I did note that she didn’t post anything. She did after a few days so I don’t know if someone said something to her or not, or maybe she was just taking her time figuring out what she wanted to say.

Those people who say that if you don’t post you don’t care or are part of the problem disgust me.
Being hateful and judgmental whilst preaching about how people should be treated is the ultimate irony.

I’ve got about 50 Facebook friends. Me posting something changes nothing. But me getting personally and nastily attacked for minding my own business can instantly close down any chance of education on the subject.

As I wrote another thread, I don’t post political stuff on social media because all my friends are left-leaning liberals like me so I would just be preaching to the choir.

Actually, I'm getting so cross about the insta post that I have to post that I am cross here so I don't say anything. Sorry.

I didn’t post anything or change my profile to a black square.

Doesn’t mean I accept racism.

I hate the whole SM thing. Its like if you're not into the latest cool meme you must be an absolute racist

Exactly the same as @home42 I use my social media solely for keeping in touch with family, sharing news/updates on the kids/pets/family life, and don't voice any "opinions" on that sort of platform. Doesn't mean I'm not invested in political, environmental, worldwide matters, I just choose to "help" the causes that are important to me in other ways.