If someone didn't post anything about BLM

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If someone you know didn't post anything on SM about BLM would you think that it was unreasonable or not?
I've recently had a disagreement about this but don't want to say just yet which person I am in the situation to get a clear picture.
So,

YABU - Yes it's completely unreasonable not to post about it

YANBU - No, not everything needs to be posted to social media

Phewwf, thank god for that.
Yes, I tried to not give away any bias in my OP, but I am the person who didn't post anything. I have ended a friendship this week based on so-called 'friend' accusing my 'silence as compliance' (along with some really personal vile attacks), despite her not having a clue what I've been doing being closed doors.
I felt strongly that I hadn't done anything wrong but started doubting myself (damn pregnancy hormones).
I appreciate everyone that has given their input.

I haven't posted anything. I didn't change my SM to a black square, I didn't take the day off SM. The only place I discuss such issues is anonymously here on MN. Life is too stressful otherwise. My friends have such diverse views and having seen a friend shriek at and then storm off from zoom after falling out with another friend during a BLM discussion, I have decided to keep my thoughts to myself.

Absolutely not. Nor do I use those ridiculous ‘show your support by using this shitty frame’ things on my profile picture.
Putting a BLM post up means absolutely nothing. (Nor, incidentally, does it actually help to post the ‘special needs kids aren’t weird. I bet I know who will show how much they care by reposting this’ bollocksery).
Virtue signalling is irritating. And people who set store by vacuous virtue-signalling are worse. It tells you nothing.
Social media can be used very cleverly. But in the grand scheme of being able to discern someone’s beliefs by what they don’t post?
An interesting psychological exercise in groupthink . It’s like the Great Loyalty Oath Crusade.

I'd be more concerned about the people who posted but didn't follow up with donations, signing petitions, writing to their MP etc.

How would you even know?

YANBU.

I read about it, I keep informed, I have opinions on the protests and movement and government response in the US. But I dont get involved with politics on my SM. Just because I am not publicly displaying a stance so my SM friends can see and click like and think 'oh its good she isnt racist' doesnt mean I am not paying attention.

It would be absurd to judge someone for failing to post on BLM (or anything else).

A) There are an infinite number of reasons people may not post about a given topic and you can’t know what their views are
B) SM is an easy and harmless but fairly trite way to get your views across and not the most challenging way to tackle racism
C) If it becomes a kind of political performance objective it’s a bit sinister - not a million miles from people in Soviet Russia having to clap for hours after one of Stalin’s speeches

Anyone who actually thought you had an obligation to do this would be a shallow fool imho

YANBU

YANBU, posing on SM means diddly squat in regards to how much a person cares. In fact the type of people who seem to post about this and other social/political issues on my Facebook feed are a special kind of bore. Follow-the-crowd types who fling themselves at every bandwagon that roles by, with not a ounce of critical/independent thought between them. I'd bet my house they aren't doing anything of substance to support these causes in "real life".

Admittedly, none of my Facebook friends are black though. So, there's that!

There's been numerous threads on here where people have been told that it's just look-at-me virtue signalling anyway.

I barely notice what people post on SM, I'm never going to notice the absence of something they haven't posted.

Social media policing is cuntish

I haven’t posted anything on mine. Have no intention of doing so. Don’t care either if some nosey arse thinks that I should.

YANBU (assuming you are the person who hasn't posted).

I've seen loads of celebrities being absolutely hounded for not immediately posting something to support BLM, or not posting something that is 'sincere' enough, nevermind whether they even live in the USA or not, or if they have a background of otherwise supporting anti-racism.

I understand what people (in any movement not just BLM) mean when they say silence is complicity, but to me that means silence when something happens directly in front of you and you have the ability to challenge and make a difference there and then, so that both the person making the offensive comment and the person you are defending know your viewpoint. Not making a SM post several days later that will never be seen by the actual people affected and then forgetting all about it a few days later.

If people want to say that I don't care about BLM because I didn't post it all over my social media then fine, as long as they are prepared to accept that means that by the same logic they don't care at all about sexism, rape victims not being believed, gay men being kidnapped and tortured in Chechnya, the deconstruction of the rainforests, FGM, the effects of Covid in refugee camps, or any other of the millions of horrible things that are currently happening in the world, if they haven't devoted their twitter/insta/ticktock etc. to raising awareness of them.

I didn't post about it. Most people I know didn't post about it.

Yanbu, I think in some (most) cases it's either just a token gesture, or in some cases causes more harm than good! I'm white, I've only ever experienced xenophobia based on my surname and accent. I wouldn't know what to post about actual systemic racism based on the colour of your skin. I'm supportive of BLM movement and would like to consider myself anti-racist but recent worldwide events have forced me to consider my bias more robustly. I think it's important to learn about the existing racism rather than just assume you're not contributing to it....

I refuse to post or comment on FB about BLM or the protests in the same way that I didn't post about Coronavirus or Brexit or the terrorist attacks when they happened.

I have seen posts that imply keeping silent regarding BLM is no better than the rasicts that speak out and still, I will not comment.

Do I want to see a change in the world? Yes of course. Will my thoughts on fb, seen only by my friends and family make that change? No.

For every 5 people that might agree with my opinion, another 5 will disagree and the same arguments will go around in circles.

My contribution to the world is to bring my young DDs up to be good people. To be tolerant and to understand that sometimes the world does not make sense but that kindness and humanity will always the most important traits we can possess as human beings.

Whether it is relevant or not, I am white Mediterranean and my husband and children are mixed race.

I posted on how angry I am with the thugs using the protest as an excuse to loot and destroy the City ! I have seen footage of a man set upon by at least 8 people, stomping on him etc. I have seen such vile acts I am now not interested in what started it. They all need to be in prison!

I haven’t posted anything!. I have been using my time to educate my family members, my DC and doing what I can to help elsewhere. I have had a ‘friend’ whasapp me to say they will be cutting off the friendship as I haven’t posted anything!.

I have had a ‘friend’ whasapp me to say they will be cutting off the friendship as I haven’t posted anything!.

I am another one who hasn't posted on any of my SM, some friends have, some friends haven't.

I judge people who do post about it tbh

I don't put anything political on my social media. However conversely I have learnt from others there.
What I did do to play my part was buy some picture books that were recommended and recorded myself reading them and sent it to my class .
I also read them to my own young children and started a conversation there

I didn’t do the black square, I don’t do the whole ‘copy and repost if you are here for me’ thing, I don’t do the ‘I’ve been nominated to post a photo a day’ bullshit.
I haven’t and won’t post anything about BLM.

I didn't post anything and out of many friends on Facebook only a handful posted anything including POC. So I guess that tells you my view. I've seen a lot of posts about the protests though - particularly the horse incident

I don’t feel the need to join in the demonstrations thanks. I absolutely support the sentiment but I’m not that into social media. No FB, WhatsApp etc, and LinkedIn is for work only.
People shouldn’t feel pressured, that’s just another form of bullying. If I witness any racism firsthand I always call it out, but that’s my decision.