Would it put you off a man if he spoke in detail about exes looks?

[SunshineOverStress]

For instance if during a general conversation they randomly mentioned how good looking past conquests were, perfect body big boobs big bum completely flat stomach model type, stunning etc without asking them? Like going into extensive detail about their looks when you haven’t asked them what they look like or anything in regards to their looks? This has happened more than once by the way...

Wondering if I’m being sensitive to finding it off-putting and thinking why is he telling me this? Is it because of his own insecurities And to big himself up or to make me feel insecure/jealous?
Turn off or am I being unreasonable?

Textbook negging.

He knows you are a catch so he's trying to knock your confidence so that you'll feel grateful for him and his attention.

A good man would celebrate all the things that are good about you and wouldn't let you forget them.

Agreed sounds like negging to compensate for his own insecurities. No good relationship can grow from something which starts with childish mind games. Time to move on.

Another voice added to the chorus. He’s negging.

[grin]@LellyMcKelly 'Your ex sounds pretty'.

He knows you are better looking than him and he's threatened!! So he's trying to make you feel insecure and that you are lucky he's giving you a chance!!
Just casually mention how your ex had a massive cock and sometimes the orgasms were just too intense 😂😂

Definitely. He sounds very shallow.

He sounds insecure and is trying to bring you down to the level he perceives himself to be at.

That's dreadful and you are not being unreasonable at all.

sounds like a total knob end

a lot of men have an incredibly good imagination about all these gorgeous exes,

I'd dump him immediately for being a massive insensitive prick. How come he is not still with this goddess if she is so amazing.

Ick

Yeah I'd assume they were telling me to make me jealous tbh.

You better get him up to speed on yer ex who was hung like a horse and who could bang like the Duracell bunny

YANBU, he sounds as sensitive as a door post.

yes I agree, it's negging.

There's no need to discuss an exes looks at all really. My last ex had a really beautiful ex gf, he never talked about her looks, or made me feel anything other than gorgeous.

I also had the opposite, a man who slagged off excessively and in great detail an ex's looks and body. Horrible.

Not only is that insensitive and immature but it suggests he views women as objects to be looked at and conquered. Gross

Horrible, don't bother with this one!

I used to put up with this shit.
I went on a date with a guy who had pics of his ex that he showed me 😱 (fake lashes, fake tan, fake boobs,fake lips) she was very pretty but he then said 'all she gave me was her beauty' bleurgh 🤮🤮

Now I'm with someone who could do better than me in looks but tells me I'm beautiful, gorgeous, stunning every time I see him

Don't settle! EVER

Yeah he sucks.
He's probably either insecure or trying to make you feel insecure.

My boyfriend used to do that, he would even say things about the sex he had with them ect. I eventually got pissed off and told him to either shut the fuck up or fuck off. 5 months on, were still together and he's not said any of it since! I had a feeling he was trying to make me jealous to be honest 🙄

Yes, it would completely put me off. Relationships are not about comparisons and I'd feel that this is what he was doing if he kept talking about exes in this way.

Yes it would bother me and I would run a mile, personally.

He's sounds very immature and hard work.

@LellyMcKelly 😍😍😁

Yes very off putting. He told you how he expected you to react to it too! But yes I think it's to make you feel less attractive or to make it seem like he can pull attractive girls easily so you aren't out of his league (which you realise that looks wise at least you are!). I'm glad you called him out on it. If you really like him otherwise maybe ask him to stop mentioning it becuase it feels like game playing and you are both grown ups. Othwrwise just stay well away!