Just given husband some home truths

[Happy0]

I've had a lovely day, our daughter is happy playing and my husband comes home from work moaning. He said he feels like he gets up, goes to work, comes home, makes dinner, clears up, watches TV while eating junk food then goes to bed. He's said this a few times before and I've always been supportive. Tonight, I said to him that he has plenty of time after dinner and maybe he should do something productive to feel better. He carried on moaning so I told him if he feels his life has no meaning that's his fault and to do something about it. He's now sulking. He said due to the lockdown he has nothing to look forward too and then had the cheek to ask what me and DD did this afternoon and when I said we went for a walk he replied is that all?!.
Am I BU for telling him to get a grip?

[agonyauntie2020]

hahahaha OP makes sure there's petrol for the odd day out, and potters around with DIY and then gets her dinners shopped for, cooked and cleaned up after.

But it took her (gasp) a whole hour to go for a walk with their child.

OP, come on!

[jackie2669]

So you also work and look after child do all the cleaning and arranging .He works does food shop and cooks because he wasn't happy with portions sounds slightly controlling. You are not in the wrong and sounds like you are doing way more that what he is doing .I bet if you decided to cook he would spit his dummy out .

[Mittens030869]

But it sounds as if her DH points out every chore he does and the OP is doing the same. Like buying petrol and feeding the cats??? It's never occurred to me to decide who should be doing those jobs. The cats are hungry so you feed them, the car is low on petrol so you fill up on the way home.

I'm just not taking any of this seriously.

[soruff]

You could show your DH the thread started yesterday about self worth, liking yourself and some personal development.
It might help him cope!

[RedskyAtnight]

He works does food shop and cooks because he wasn't happy with portions sounds slightly controlling.

DH cooking because OP is not doing it "right" just sounds like the opposite of the myriad of threads we have where the woman ends up doing (e.g.) the hoovering because her DH (e.g.) always misses bits. The conclusion in those threads is always that DH is deliberately doing it badly to get out of doing the task at all. Funny how that hasn't happened here. I'm not sure how wanting larger portions can be considered controlling? Surely it's more controlling to insist that food is limited?