My niece was in hospital on Monday night they originally suspected Covid but it turned out to be a water infection.
My sister has rung the doctor back because my niece has only passed urine twice since and they have told her to take her back to the hospital. She also has another younger child.
She rang me to ask for a lift to the hospital which I said yes to. Her supposed ex was going to look after their younger child. I say supposed because I am fairly sure they are actually a couple and she is just lying.
She then text me and said actually she is going to stay home with younger child so can I give supposed Ex a lift instead with my niece.
I said no. I gave her money for a taxi instead so didn't leave them with no way of getting to the hospital. I still enabled them to get there.
My reason for saying no is that her supposed ex is massively abusive, mainly to her but it has spilled over to the rest of the family.
He has locked me in his house, pushed me up against a wall, spat at me, told my own abusive ex my new address after I moved to escape him, tried to have me arrested for assaulting him (whilst I was locked in his house so no way I could be assaulting him). Dropped the babies on my doorstep and left before I even answered the door. Stolen from me, several times including a very expensive bike.
She won't leave him (she said she has at the weekend but I know she is lying) but I have told her I won't have anything to do with him after everything he has done (there is more but all of the same kind of stuff).
But having said that, my niece is ill. Possibly seriously ill and I feel like I should have been the bigger person.
So YABU - what the hell is wrong with you, you should have driven them.
YANBU - giving them money for a taxi is fine under the circumstances.
I feel sick with guilt, not helped when she had a go at me and said she can't believe I would be like this.