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To want to finish my sentences

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Ghostlyglow · 03/06/2020 10:10

DP starts talking before I've got my last word out. Infuriating. Particularly when he's interrupting me to explain what I was just telling him.

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GinDaddyRedux · 03/06/2020 10:15

Have you talked to him about this? Does he acknowledge his (glaring!) fault? And has he made any effort to actually stop this behaviour?

I fear you'll get a lot of unhelpful responses without answers to these

HellSmith · 03/06/2020 10:22

Are you one of these people who talk non stop? As much as I hate interrupting & talking over people, it's the only way that we will ever get to speak. If not continue to speak, but louder to block him out.

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Ghostlyglow · 03/06/2020 10:27

He knows he does it. I'm a pretty quiet person really - I was terribly shy when I was younger.

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chatwoo · 03/06/2020 10:34

I get this too sometimes.
I hope you pull him up on it every time?

LillianBland · 03/06/2020 10:36

Oh lord! I have a male friend that does this too! It does my head in. The worse thing is the fact that he starts an argument by putting words into my mouth and arguing against what he ‘thinks’ I was about say! So he basically argues with himself. 🤣

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Ghostlyglow · 03/06/2020 10:40

Yes! @LillianBland. "so what you're saying is..."

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ItsAHardKn0ckLife1 · 03/06/2020 10:41

DH does this all.the.time.

Absolutely infuriating.

He tries to guess what I’m going to say and attempts to finish my sentence for me with something completely different.

And when he does let me finish, he’s quite blatantly just waiting for me to shut up so he can speak Hmm

GreenTulips · 03/06/2020 10:42

Have you talked to him about this

She would of he didn’t finish her sentences

ItsAHardKn0ckLife1 · 03/06/2020 10:42

@LillianBland are you friends with my DH Wink

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Ghostlyglow · 03/06/2020 10:44

He does it more when he's stressed, I think. We've had a rotten couple of weeks, but still the last couple of days he's been driving me up the wall with it.

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Ghostlyglow · 03/06/2020 10:46

@GreenTulips GrinGrin Many a true word.....

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lottiegarbanzo · 03/06/2020 10:46

Just stop speaking. Fold your arms and wait for him to finish. Then say 'as I was saying...'

LillianBland · 03/06/2020 10:51

ItsAHardKn0ckLife1

@LillianBland are you friends with my DH wink

Oh lord! He’s never married, which is a good thing for him and every woman, otherwise she’d be in jail and he’d be under the patio!

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Ghostlyglow · 03/06/2020 10:57

@lottiegarbanzo that gets me the eye roll 🙄🙄🙄Grin

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Dogsovercats · 03/06/2020 11:00

Mine does this too. He'll start explaining what he thinks I'm telling him or asking him before I finish. I usually wait for him to finish then say 'so do you want me to continue what I was saying'?

He feels bad as soon as he realises he's done it but it doesn't stop him doing it again!! grrr!

pussycatinboots · 03/06/2020 11:03

Either carry on and talk over him.
Repeat what you began to say when he has finished.
Do the folding arms and glaring thing.
or stick your fingers in your ears and sing "LALALALA" until he stops.

Good Luck.

SnuggyBuggy · 03/06/2020 11:03

I think the problem is you get people who seem to prefer to guess what the other person is going to say rather than actually listen but you also get people who talk in monologue rather than a back and forth conversation. It's hard to tell what's happening without being there.

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Ghostlyglow · 03/06/2020 11:04

I'm sometimes utterly baffled by what he assumes I'm thinking/was going to say (and we've been together a looong time)

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DuckALaurent · 03/06/2020 11:04

DD sometimes does this but she’s a teen. DH on the odd occasion might do it.

Both of them get the ‘look’ followed by me saying “if you let me finish my sentence”.

Don’t put up with it OP, it’s bloody rude!

MummBraTheEverLeaking · 03/06/2020 11:05

Me and DH are both guilty of this to each other, and we both hate it so whoever is doing it will get a hard Paddington stare from the other to stop us in our tracks.

lottiegarbanzo · 03/06/2020 11:06

Who cares if he eye rolls? That's just double rude!

The other tactic is to keep talking, louder. Then at least he'll know you're not hearing what he's saying.

tenlittlecygnets · 03/06/2020 11:07

that gets me the eye roll

But that's not funny. If your dh doesn't listen to you, constantly interrupts and mansplains, then eye rolls at you if you call him out on this, where are you going to go from here? That's so disrespectful. Does he do this to everyone else, or just you? I bet he can hold his tongue in meetings with his boss Hmm

You're going to have to sit down and tell him how annoying his habit is, and he will have to find a way to STFU and listen - perhaps send him a link to an article on mindful listening or active listening. But he sounds like an annoying twat. Conversation is a pretty big part of a marriage.

Mine does this sometimes. I'll tell him about an annoying thing that happened at work and he'll start telling me how to run my own business, and I have to remind him I've been doing it for 20 years and I just wanted to moan, not have unasked-for advice...

MadamShazam · 03/06/2020 11:14

My DH has a really annoying habit of saying 'its not that' when we are discussing anything. I used to let it go, but now I pull him up for it every single time. I just say "actually it is exactly that, and stop dismissing what i have just said!" Your DH is being extremely rude, keep calling him on his behaviour!

lottiegarbanzo · 03/06/2020 11:16

Have you tried eye-rolling, sighing and saying 'here we go again..' ?

Rudeness can serve to highlight rudeness.

Oldraver · 03/06/2020 11:16

My Mum does this dreadfully, but usually it's cutting in with a story similar to yours but about a friend we dont know. Earlier on this year I statrted to tell her how DS had his wallet stolen (day before a house move so very untimely) and she cut in with Dad's lost wallet story we had heard 10 times. I pretended I'd heard DS calling and walked off. She later sked what DS wanted and I sai dnothing but you were rude and cut in. She defended herself in the past to DS when he pulled her up, saying she has to get out what she wants to say before she forgets. The point is she needs to listen.

I started to pull her up eveytime and it doesn't work with her so the last few times I have talked nonesence the moment she cuts in ie "hello pussycat, do you want a chinny tickle" (obvs to the cat) or pretend someone elsewhere wants me, and walk off. It totally flummoxes her when she realises I'm not listening.

But yea OH has started to do it and I pull him up everytime, hoping to nip it in the bud due to Mothers behaviour

It's sort of working though he gets defensive and says he thought I'd finished