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For those of you that think ‘all lives matter’ heres a quick and easy explanation

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TeddyIsaHe · 02/06/2020 20:45

MN can be extremely racist at times, most posters that have been here for a while will know this.

All lives can’t matter until black lives do. It’s something we ALL need to understand and I think this makes it very easy for people to grasp.

For those of you that think ‘all lives matter’ heres a quick and easy explanation
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Adelaideroad · 02/06/2020 20:53

That's not the best analogy. It won't help the uneducated understand the role of privilege

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 02/06/2020 20:59

Yeah - that’s a really crap analogy.

Xenia · 02/06/2020 21:02

MN is not extremely racist.

dappledsunshine · 02/06/2020 21:06

I'm sorry, I don't consider myself unintelligent but I don't understand your post or your analogy.

TeddyIsaHe · 02/06/2020 21:08

Just today I have reported someone for asking why a black woman is ‘whiter’ than she was when she was younger, and saying that black people have brought this upon themselves. That’s pretty extreme.

Racists don’t give a fuck about privilege, they can’t see it. Sometimes you have to spell it out for them in terms they will grasp.

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LadyMacbethWasMisunderstood · 02/06/2020 21:09

The analogy is apt and perfect. I’m sorry people do not understand it.

TeddyIsaHe · 02/06/2020 21:10

It’s in regards to people spouting off ‘all lives matter’ to every BLMost. It’s really not difficult to understand?

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Noname99 · 02/06/2020 21:11

Not perfect but better ...

For those of you that think ‘all lives matter’ heres a quick and easy explanation
SimonJT · 02/06/2020 21:12

@Xenia

MN is not extremely racist.
Ha, thats quite a funny joke, well done.
DrManhattan · 02/06/2020 21:13

I think the house on fire analogy works best .

Adelaideroad · 02/06/2020 21:14

It's not @TeddyIsaHe but the analogy you've chosen to demonstrate doesn't get to the heart of the issue. The house on fire cartoon doesn't either

Rumplestrumpet · 02/06/2020 21:14

I honestly didn't imagine people would still be saying this. Who still doesn't get it?!?!?

TeddyIsaHe · 02/06/2020 21:14

@DrManhattan

I think the house on fire analogy works best .
I like that one too, but plenty of people will still think ‘well yeah! Protect my home too!’
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Acrasia · 02/06/2020 21:16

Perhaps this is better.

For those of you that think ‘all lives matter’ heres a quick and easy explanation
nosnugglesforyou · 02/06/2020 21:16

That analogy doesn’t really work

TeddyIsaHe · 02/06/2020 21:18

You have to get in the mindset of people that have experienced white privilege all their lives, and see this stuff on the news and don’t get what black people have endured for centuries.

Hopefully someone with a kid will either watch the George Floyd video of him crying out for his mama, or see this and it will create perspective. And so they will research and read and become anti-racist.

White people pretending this doesn’t make sense is what white people do

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Adelaideroad · 02/06/2020 21:22

None of the analogies work. I've seen the "there's other diseases too". They all overlook the fundamental issue which is that black lives are undervalued to start with.

MilesJuppIsMyBitch · 02/06/2020 21:23

I like both analogies. They both work, and make it nice and clear.

But I don't think I'm who you're talking to.

DailyKegelReminder · 02/06/2020 21:24

It's a good way to weed out the nob heads. If someone automatically responds to BLM with "All lives matter" it shows you they are ignorant to what is actually going on in the world, obviously everyone matters but not everyone is getting pinned to the ground with a knee to their neck, let's focus on that.

SamSeabornforPresident · 02/06/2020 21:24

If you see it, you see it. If you don't, you probably never will.

NannyPear · 02/06/2020 21:26

We get it @Teddyisahe. But those analogies won't make others get it.

randomer · 02/06/2020 21:27

You want racism? Take a squint at GN.

bridgetreilly · 02/06/2020 21:28

The OP's analogy is perfect because this IS about someone's child dying. It's about black people dying and other people grabbing the microphone to talk about everyone else. Black Lives Matter is what needs to be said when it is black people being killed. And saying All Lives Matter is deliberately training the focus away from those black people.

FixTheBone · 02/06/2020 21:29

White privilege (I actually don't like the term very much, it sounds like an insult) is exactly that situation that many white people find themselves in where it doesn't really make much difference to their lives whether or not they consider on a daily basis if there is inequality in the society around them.

It's not really our fault. I have white privilege, I didn't ask for it, until recently I didn't think about it, but it's undeniably there. The problem is, that once you openly recognise the existance of inequality, institutional racism or, indeed 'white privilege', if you fail to act to address it, you may as well be tacitly approving it.

Adelaideroad · 02/06/2020 21:40

@bridgetreilly you're missing the point. In all of the analogies things are equal, they're all about competition for attention - one house fire over another, one forest over another, one deceased child over another. All lives matter but white people have never had to fight to have the value of their lives recognised, it's a given. To use it as a retort to all black lives matter is offensive and ill educated. That's why the analogies don't work. The starting premise of those isn't based on institutional inequality.