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Now illegal to have sex with partner you don't live with?

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Sueannnnna · 01/06/2020 11:46

Lots of newspapers/online articles announcing this today.
Being in a private place with partner and having sex can lead to a £100 fine if i've read correctly.

The world is going cuckoo.
But who cares about seeing my boyfriend, at least I can go shopping in Primark and go sit on a packed train (sarcasm)

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PatricksRum · 01/06/2020 17:35

PatricksRum so that's your decision! It is not your decision that everyone else has to stay in because you are

It's the government's. As per your entire thread.

Francesthemute · 01/06/2020 17:36

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MarieQueenofScots · 01/06/2020 17:36

The brain is an amazing thing

And yet so underused by those that profess to use it deeply....

Shankairen · 01/06/2020 17:36

Well if you don't live together then you shouldn't see each other that's just the case🤷🏻‍♀️😂

Sueannnnna · 01/06/2020 17:36

@Jingstohang nobody is shielding bashing? But other people have to live their life without being shamed

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PatricksRum · 01/06/2020 17:37

@StewPots Yes, we both are.

I'm unsure as to the future. That's a question a lot of shielded people have. It's an uncertain future.

In regards to life getting back to normal, we have seen the rules change dramatically.

ConkerGame · 01/06/2020 17:37

OP if I didn’t live with my partner I would absolutely still be seeing them, unless one of us was living with someone who was shielding. Tbh I’d just move in with them as that would be easiest. If you can’t do that then would one week living together, one week apart work? If still not then I’d forget what anyone else thinks and go for it anyway. We all have to calculate our own risks and do what we can to get through this.
Especially as that’s what the politicians are doing anyway!

A couple of weeks ago I hugged my dad after my grandfather’s funeral. If anyone dared to try to say anything to me about breaking the rules they wouldn’t be in my life anymore. And if they were a stranger I wouldn’t care what they say anyway - why would I? And the police don’t just come and issue a fine - they come and reason with you first, ask you to agree not to do it again etc. It’s only the people who continue to break the rules that get fined. Do what you need to do. Flowers

Sueannnnna · 01/06/2020 17:37

@PatricksRum the government have not told me to shield so no it is not their decision?
And if you notice the start of the thread we were all joking around about the idea of it being 'illegal'

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PatricksRum · 01/06/2020 17:38

Well if you don't live together then you shouldn't see each other that's just the case🤷🏻‍♀️😂

Exactly

It's simple.

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PammieDooveOrangeJoof · 01/06/2020 17:38

The local private shop/brothel near to me has had WE ARE OPEN signs on the door right through the whole lockdown which has annoyed me every time I’ve driven past
So maybe it’s just ok to sleep with someone if you pay for it as it’s deemed an ‘essential service’

MarieQueenofScots · 01/06/2020 17:38

I'm unsure as to the future. That's a question a lot of shielded people have. It's an uncertain future

Yes for legitimately shielding people, not ones who have decided for themselves 🤷‍♀️

PatricksRum · 01/06/2020 17:39

Can we stop with the shielding bashing please? It's abhorrent.

This.

The whole medal/ certificate phrases are disgusting.

PatricksRum · 01/06/2020 17:39

Yes for legitimately shielding people, not ones who have decided for themselves 🤷‍♀️

I'm sorry?

MadameMarie · 01/06/2020 17:40

@PammieDooveOrangeJoof

The local private shop/brothel near to me has had WE ARE OPEN signs on the door right through the whole lockdown which has annoyed me every time I’ve driven past So maybe it’s just ok to sleep with someone if you pay for it as it’s deemed an ‘essential service’
Because it keeps the economy going if they're actually paying tax and business rates. They can't exactly furlough their working girls.
MrMeeseekscando · 01/06/2020 17:40

The whole medal/ certificate phrases are disgusting

As is lack of empathy

MarieQueenofScots · 01/06/2020 17:40

I'm sorry?

Don’t be. Very easy to make errors in judgement but I appreciate the tentative apology as I’m sure will others on the thread.

AlternativePerspective · 01/06/2020 17:41

All these people talking about how “everyone else” is breaking the rules so why should they stick to them, you do know that it’s not just about the NHS, it’s about risks to yourself as well?

If everyone else is breaking the rules then you not breaking them means you are no more likely to catch COVID than you would have been if everyone else stuck to them. But if you decide to break the rules then you are increasing the risks to yourself

And people using the DC argument, DC is irrelevant here. If DC jumped off a cliff would you feel that it would be fine to jump off after him?

Yes, this is about non cohabiting partners, but there are a lot of people who can’t see others with who they are not cohabiting, their children, their grandchildren, parents whose ex’s are shielding are unable to see their young children, and it’s shit for everyone.

I agree that on MN the response to non cohabiting partners is crap, and that those relationships are devalued compared to cohabiting partners.

But not cohabiting with someone does sometimes mean that you just can’t have the benefits that cohabiting people have. Times when e.g. children are sick, or when one or the other is sick, or just the evenings where you just don’t see each other, all of which would still happen regardless of lockdown and which cohabiting partners will always have above non cohabiting ones.

I have a non cohabiting partner of seven years. My relationship is no less valid than if we’d lived together, but it does have more limitations on the basis we don’t live together, and there are reasons why we don’t.

And his coming to see me wouldn’t be a wise move right now. I am shielded, he lives over 100 miles away and would need to get here via public transport. But my needs are no less than those of someone whose partner happens to live down the road.

Remember when you stick to the rules because of everyone else you are everyone else

PatricksRum · 01/06/2020 17:41

@StewPots

I'm not judging others based on my circumstances. I'm judging others based on the rules.
The rules which this thread is about.

Sueannnnna · 01/06/2020 17:41

Nobody is shielding bashing?
The only bashing is people thinking everybody should be shielding?
The government have not told everybody to shield and therefore I will make my own risk assessments and me seeing my boyfriend is not high risk as we are both furloughed and only leave the house to shop or see each other

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PatricksRum · 01/06/2020 17:42

@MarieQueenofScots I'm reporting you to MN
Your comments are vile.

Sueannnnna · 01/06/2020 17:42

@Sueannnnnaoh
Oh my godddd, so escorts can work because they keep the economy going but I can't see or sleep with my boyfriend unless I charge him and pay the government hahaha
Can yiu not see how ridiculous that is?

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Sueannnnna · 01/06/2020 17:43

Didnt mean to tag myself, i meant @MadameMarie

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WesternWastrel · 01/06/2020 17:44

As mentioned earlier - tent on the lawn?
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