I’m really disgusted with myself

[Anon20201]

I tried to start a diet today but been stuffing my face. I just feel like such a loser. I can’t even stick to a diet for one day what is wrong with me? I really hate myself

And an advice I haven't really seen anywhere.
Buy hell of a lot of spices! The tastier the food, the more satisfying! When you eat something flavoursome you will feel like you have actually eaten. Somehow my brain registers it more

@OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow but we had takeaway last night so not fine!

I just weighed myself and I am the heaviest I have been for a long time. I am hoping this is a wake up call and will help me stay on track!

I love the idea that we always have the next meal to do things differently.

but we had takeaway last night so not fine!
I feel that
Just get back onto it. You can do it! don't be like someone here who took so long to do something their wake up call was their furniture creaking....

Is there some sort of idealisation going on, followed by devaluation. So you get lovely pictures of the 'ideal' me, usually attended by lovely pictures or looking at lovely pictures of thin people. This usually happens at night. Off to sleep feeling like a great person with a Plan to Make Me Perfect starting tomorrow at 8am.
Then next day, at the actual edge of the experience - where the hand goes to the extra slice of toast and that hand puts the food into the mouth, that is a completely different mental process that is automatic, unknown and no attention really paid to it.
Then later, the devaluation - another part of you attacks with a scathing assault on yourself. Result = oh well, I'm such a bad and hideous person I might as well eat another chocolate bar and start again tomorrow. The chocolate bar quells the feelings of failure and then the idealisation starts again. Next day = repeat that process.

OP, I'm the same!!!!

I woke up vowing to start my healthy eating and I've just snaffled a cheese twist and a 100g choc bar on the way back from the supermarket.

I really do empathise. It's an addiction that we and so many people have.

I'm going to start to break it tomorrow... (how many times have I said that?!?!)

But I am - because I'm not going to give up trying.

I'm size 20, want to get to 14.

Rooting for you!!!

Are you the op from the other thread who was starting Slim Fast today? Please don't beat yourself up? Slim Fast may not be for you. There was lots of fantastic advice on that thread and on here. I would suggest trying something else. Perhaps eating what you want within a certain calorie limit, low carbing or intermittent fasting. Once you find something that works for you, it will get easier. I found a combination of low carbing and intermittent fasting stopped all pre menstrual cravings so maybe this could work for you too?

So you stuffed your face today, start again tomorrow. People who have had a takeaway, that is fine, just write it off and don't have one tomorrow. It doesn't have to be all or nothing and it is not sustainable to deny yourself things all of the time. For most people this needs to be a long term change so if you slip up, don't wait for Monday or next month or the new year, just move on and make better choices where possible. You can do it (and I need to too!)

Ideas:

1. visualize the body you want at the beginning of each day and imagine how you feel. Do this in moments of weakness too.
2. Don't have any junk food in the house
3. Plan in advance healthy snacks and meals you enjoy so you can look forward to them

visualize the body you want at the beginning of each day and imagine how you feel. Do this in moments of weakness too.

Or if you are like me, visualise your body how it will look if you don't do something 😐 Having a look at how much bariatric furniture costs was a good motivation too😐

Also struggle with getting on a diet at the moment. Have not cracked it but two things are working for me so far.

1.) downloaded coach to 5k app from the bbc. On week 2 and have enjoyed it and gone out for a run on a hot Saturday eve when I would have NEVER done that

2.) tried eating for only 8 hours a day. I eat dinner quite early in the evening anyways so decided to try and eat only 11:30-7:30. It’s hard the first couple of days and feel really hungry but eating from 8am gives such a long time to restrict food..

Good luck, it is so difficult. I have about a stone and ten pounds to lose to be much happier.

OP there are so many in the same boat as you, otherwise the massive diet and weight loss industry wouldn't exist.

Give yourself a hug, like you would a friend who was in the same boat. If you planned to start the diet today, well, it's still today for another 4.5 hours. Start now, and you haven't broken your promise to yourself.

Thank you everyone for the lovely replies

Yes @Witchofzog it’s me from the slim fast thread! I’m really embarrassed as people gave me so much motivation to start my diet but I feel I let everyone down. I feel really disgusted with myself. It’s hard as I don’t want to deny my kids treats so I go have cupcake mix n other stuff at home but I end up eating it with them, my kids are young yet but I know one day they’ll be ashamed of how fat their mum is. I want to get thinner for them. Please send some prayers my way

You have will power and self control, but we aren’t meant to be on a restricted diet.

When we deny ourselves food it becomes ‘forbidden’ and even more appealing. When you then ‘give in’ and eat it, the reward is magnified. Your brain thinks it’s even better than usual! The moment I’ve been on a diet in the past, I start craving random food and everything just looks And sounds appealing and I want it all. Now I don’t diet and I don’t really care about the food any more. I don’t obsess over it and crave it to the point I eat half a frigging cake in one sitting. It’s been very freeing.

Diets don’t work. Being on a diet doesn’t work. Restricting your food doesn’t work. Starving yourself doesn’t work.

Yes, you could lose weight on most diets. But is it sustainable for the rest of your life? No, that’s why people yo-yo diet.

If your eating plan leads to you binge in the evening, then it’s not right for you.

Go and do some research. Look up some dieticians on YouTube, instagram, podcasts etc and look into the diet culture we have and why diets and restricting food doesn’t work.

I have been wanting to lose weight for ages. It’s a mind set, isn’t it? And the pay off for losing the weight has to be higher than the pay of eating the sugar etc.

I’m finally in the zone and started LCHF mumsnet boot camp on Monday. Today has been far easier.

Sorry posted too soon. Perhaps you could try this? Or something online. Slimming world etc. Something, where you have support.

No wonder you have issues! Ditch the slim fast!
Have actual food instead. You could have really nice salad with toppings for that 230 calories... Something to actually chew.

Do not diet. Change your lifestyle.

Thank you everyone. I’m going to start fresh from tomorrow. Thank you again for all the kind words x

You need to re-frame this. You are not a fat disgusting mess or whatever. Remind yourself as often as necessary that you are strong, full of willpower, determined and in control. You are beautiful and strong and able to do whatever you please.

Don't see food as a treat, no food is a treat if it makes you feel shit in the long term. Have a list of treats that you reach for after a hard day, disconnect food as a reward.

You can do it, shut off the negativity, find a plan that works and stick to it. One bad meal / day / week isn't the end, just restart at that point. Nothing is ever lost if you keep going.

If you have been slim, remind yourself how that felt, why you enjoyed being like that.

@BumpBundle how long did that take if you don’t mind me asking? I’m following a similar measure but starting slower, I’m capping at 1750 atm

especially when no one else in the house is dieting
I agree - this was so tough. My husband is 100kg all muscle rugby player who eats over 4000 calories per day. Cutting my calories down to 1300 when he's having 4000 was really tough.

@bananaskinsnomnom It took me around seven months. I went from 80kg to 50kg and I'm 5'1.

" For every diet there is a binge" Susy Orbach.

Same here. I'm a big fat mess and I have no willpower, absolutely hate myself at the moment.

Desperately sad the women who are holding it toether and raising children, in this state of emergency display self loathing.

What statitics are available for long term success on the Slim Fast "programme"?

Its utter shite.