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Bf meeting his friends gf alone

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user1490910199 · 29/05/2020 18:48

Ok so we are both 32, we have a child each, we are sensible responsible adults. Were serious and are talking about moving in.

This is the thing, he has a friend who he knew before she met her now bf, he is friends with him now too. Tonight he is going to meet just her, the bf is out somewhere.

They've never dated etc, i do trust him so its not that i think anything's going to happen its more just, isnt that weird?! Like i cant imagine on a fri night just going an meeting a friends bf, even if i did know him first. I dont know, am i being unnecessarily jealous?xx

OP posts:
choli · 29/05/2020 18:51

You are being ridiculous.

Ouchjuststoodonlego · 29/05/2020 18:52

So it's not his friend's GF. It's his friend who happens to be a woman?

chubbyhotchoc · 29/05/2020 18:54

Nope. He'd be gone

Lotts123 · 29/05/2020 18:54

If I’m reading correctly she was his friend before she met her bf, so it isn’t his friends gf, she is just his friend?

If that’s the case then he’s just meeting his friend and I don’t think there is anything wrong with this.

pooopypants · 29/05/2020 18:57

She's a friend. They're meeting. As friends.

YABU

Choctimeout · 29/05/2020 18:58

Nah, fuck that.

BendingSpoons · 29/05/2020 19:00

My husband has two friends who are now in a relationship. He meets up with them together but also separately. She was his friend first, so I don't see why it is weird.

Vamoosh · 29/05/2020 19:00

He was friends with her first so he’s just meeting with his friend. YABU.

Batqueen · 29/05/2020 19:05

He’s meeting a friend. The friend happens to have a vagina.

If I randomly started deciding I wanted to hang out with my friends boyfriend when I only know him through her and we aren’t friends independently that might be weird unless we discover we have a mutual hobby or something.

Bluntness100 · 29/05/2020 19:06

Well this has been twisted

It’s not just his friends girlfriend. It’s his friend, he was friends with her first, so he’s meeting his friend,

Which is normal. Don’t you meet yours?

Or do you only have same sex friends? Or are you maybe jealous,,,

Bluntness100 · 29/05/2020 19:07

Nope. He'd be gone

Wow, you expect your partners to immediately end all opposite sex friendships?

That’s not unreasonable at all...🤣

RusholmeRuffian · 29/05/2020 19:09

So she is actually his friend? Don't you have any friends of the opposite sex? If my OH got pissed off every time I met a male friend we wouldn't have lasted very long!

Bluntness100 · 29/05/2020 19:10

Let’s twist it round op and mess with the genders.

Hi, my name is Jane, I’m female. My friend is Susan, she’s also female. She has stated seeing John, he’s Male. He is her boyfriend. I’m also now friends with John.

I’m going to meet Susan for a night out. Do you think it’s weird I’d meet my friends girlfriend?

Get it now?

Veterinari · 29/05/2020 19:13

So she's his friend of ??years??

And you have a problem with him seeing her?

Yep you're unreasonable

ghostyslovesheets · 29/05/2020 19:16

YABU - she's HIS friend not his friends GF

Runmybathforme · 29/05/2020 19:20

Nope. Wouldn’t like that.

Bloops · 29/05/2020 19:23

No, not weird at all. Its his friend.

villamariavintrapp · 29/05/2020 19:24

Yes you're being unnecessarily jealous. He's gone to meet his friend. I wouldn't have a problem with that at all.

Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese · 29/05/2020 19:25

Like so many others, why is him meeting his friend who also happens to be the girlfriend of another friend weird??

I think @Bluntness100 has simplified it perfectly.

chubbyhotchoc · 29/05/2020 20:04

Posters here are just leading the op into heartbreak. Friday nights and Saturday nights are date nights these are times you spend With your boyfriend or girlfriend if you have one. At the moment meeting up had to be even more carefully considered because of the current situation. Meeting her is important clearly. I wouldn't date someone who held another woman in such high regard. I wouldn't care about being the 'cool' girlfriend. I wouldn't give him hell I'd just stop seeing him because he's already shown me something I would not be ok with.

sammylady37 · 29/05/2020 20:18

Do you think you have a right to control who he sees?

justtb · 29/05/2020 20:20

My bf sits in his car, during his lunch break at work, with his best friends girlfriend. Does make me feel a bit weird, but I think it's just natural to be jealous

Justcheckingimnotmad · 29/05/2020 20:28

It's not his friend's girlfriend!!!! He has a friend, who he's meeting and he's also now friends with her boyfriend. I can't imagine being so paranoid I have to twist these things.

HT96 · 29/05/2020 20:32

Its his friend. The boyfriend is his friends boyfriend

RiverCrossing · 29/05/2020 20:54

You’re being ridiculous. As are others on this thread - if it were a same sex friend you wouldn’t bat an eyelid. Unless you have solid reason not to, give him some credit.

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