Mumsnet etiquette

[maxonebitch]

What do you think is important MN etiquette? Does it have one?

If you are a stepmother, don't post, ever. However if you decide to take the chance, be prepared to have the most despicable, vitriolic, spiteful and cruel comments in response.
Also be prepared to be asked 589 times if you were the OW, even if it's in your opening post that you weren't.
AIBU can be brutal but the step parent board makes it look like a breeze, I've never seen such vicious and cruel comments anywhere else.

The @ing thing is something I've seen posters get irritated by quite often. Mostly if they're in an argument/ debate and the person they're talking to @s them every time they reply rather than just styling their name in bold. I often see people saying "please stop @ing me" or "don't @ me, I'm already on the thread". I've seen people even state flat out that @ing is considered poor MN etiquette. I think it's because they don't want an inbox full of notifications. But if someone isn't on the thread and you want them to join in the conversation then it seems to be OK to @ them to call them over. Not my rules, just ones I've seen mentioned frequently.

Glad my paragraphs are showing up for other people at least!

I don't understand the @ thing either. No one's going to @ anyone not already on the thread.

Also I've seen posts from angry posters telling another poster 'don't @ me'. I have no idea what that means either. Is it somehow rude or insulting to put an @ before someone's handle when responding to something they're posting and if that's the case why do you get a list of them when you press the @ key.

I thought it was there to make it easier for users of the site.

I'm not sure if this thread is how the OP intended but it's the best ever 😂

It should be etiquette to read and comprehend a thread, then respond accordingly, but apparently it’s the done thing to decide you want to misinterpret it and turn it in to something it isn’t.

bad etiquette: starting a thread and disappearing

Guilty as charged, I ended up down a different rabbit hole

I'm not sure if this thread is how the OP intended but it's the best ever 😂

It's turned out beautifully and what I'd hoped for

You can @ me as much as you want. I will never know though because I have turned the function off🤣

@sparklingbrook I didn't know you could do that

😂 I disabled the function as I RTFT generally. So if anyone @ me I see it.

Agree with the one about numerous threads on the same topic.
Ban the ODFO comment.

I don't get notifications when I'm @'d, but I do if I'm named without the @ 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Apparently I did know, I just looked and I disabled it. I never check the email address that MN have anyway, I can't even remember what it is.

@MintyMabel

It should be etiquette to read and comprehend a thread, then respond accordingly, but apparently it’s the done thing to decide you want to misinterpret it and turn it in to something it isn’t.

Yes!

Why would you want to take advice from someone who has barely registered a single word of the OP?

"I am a single parent to a 15 year old who spends too much time gaming, what shall I do?"

First or second response is guaranteed to be "How old is your child?" and/or "What is your husband doing about this?"

To be clear I don't care if people @ me either! My list wasn't all things that annoy me personally, just a list of things I've noticed since being on MN that people consider etiquette. I used to @ people but stopped after seeing lots of people call it bad etiquette.

Never post a parking thread without an accurate diagram, fully to scale.

Regardless of what the OP is posting, you must always either find a way to vehemently disagree OR pick up on some other insignificant point in their post and pull them up on it. For example:

OP:
AIBU to rescue this puppy from the middle of the road?

EVERYONE:
Why are you in the middle of the road? That is unreasonable in itself...

You must be a size 6 as anything above this is clinically obese and a burden on the NHS.

On the other hand, if you are a size 6, you must ever show the slightest sign of being happy with that; it's not cool and you absolutely must have an eating disorder.

The standard response to any Aibu regarding a man is either LTB or man child. That's it.

The standard response to exactly the same question where a woman is involved will be massively different.

All Tories must die. All people who voted Brexit are racist half wits.

Anyone richer than you should be taxed at 300%.

If you are a step mother you clearly the OW you absolute trollop you.

If a post goes near the Trans issue hide because it's going to kick off no matter how perfectly reasonable the OP actually is.

You must always wear your underwear in bed, no matter what.

Do not, holiday in Maui, even if you have, you must NEVER, EVER, admit to this.

Only working class homes ask you to remove your shoes.

You must always wear your underwear in bed, no matter what.

I thought it was the opposite to let your parts 'breathe'.

Even if, like most people, you haven’t even seen a cheque book this century, the solution to many of life’s problems is to cancel the cheque.

No snapping without farting.