Aibu to be annoyed about a trip to the hair dressers?

[Covidkate]

Im sure i cant be the only one noticing people around them getting haircuts?
Ive accidentally synced my phone to my dmil imessaging account (as she signed up using my email when i helped her set up) and discovered that shes booked a hair cut for tomorrow.

She lives with my dbil who is on the official shielding list and is sheilding. She is also a cleaner for elderly retirement flats thing(who has lost 2 clients to covid!)

We were planning on meeting in a park thurs for her birthday, how she thought i wouldnt notice i dont know. Im not really worried for my or my kids safety from her (as will follow social distancing) but am completly outraged! Im later stages of pregnancy so am annoyed shes taking risks when shes our childcare if im in labour so will probably call it off. Half of me whats to go so i can ask why her hair is suddenly permed!

Aibu to call her out on her new cut?

Are you sure it's not an old appointment she hasnt deleted

Not an old appt, as it came through as text messages that she was currently having. I realised we were synced when the hairdresser text (an all set for tomorrow type text) pinged on my phone.

Im desyced now, did phone her to say what had happened (as was worried she might have seen messages for me) but she didnt seem to have realised i might have got her messages.

I'm getting my hair done on Saturday, can't wait.

Definitely be like... you’ve done your hair....hmmm how did you manage that. And when admits to it ask if she’s now going to shield again and how you can trust she’ll fully shield before you go into labour.

I didn't think hairdressers were allowed to be open yet, not in England anyway.
I assume it's a mobile hairdressers and they're breaking the rules to do so.

I know it’s apparently not the case with your MIL but most people with fresh looking cuts are having home haircuts. I’m really great at cutting and colouring hair and have family members that I live with being accused of visiting hairdressers when they genuinely haven’t. Someone I know cut her little girl’s hair from very long to a short chin length layered bob whilst in lockdown and it looks very professional. So don’t always assume it’s that they’ve left home and visited a hairdresser.

No hairdressers operating here! The only haircuts taking place are dodgy DIY efforts. I’d report it. Hair appointments are far too risky, I’m all for calculated risk with meet ups but this is just not right.

She has a home hair dresser, presumably who is also doing many other peoples hair unless for some reason they are re opening just for her

userxx is the hairdresser a member of your household?

If not, you're a total dick.

Her hairdressers brave. Our local council is actively investigating a bunch of hair dressers and dealing with the ones who have broken the rules. Ones who have been reported that is.

You could always just not see her if you're worried. Make other arrangements for labour.

I'd kill for a visit to the hairdressers, never realised how much I was into my hair before.

Aren't we only supposed to meet one person from another household for a picnic. And providing childcare while you are in labour will be mixing households. Not wise if that household contain a shielding person, surely.

@userxx how?

If you are meeting up with her in the park with your children then you are breaking rules too.

How is BIL shielding if your MIL is working, does he avoid all contact with her in the house?

I assume all these hairdressers who are working at the moment are not declaring their income as they are not meant to be working.

I'm an ex hairdresser/barber and have been cutting dh and dc's hair...we've had comments but they don't know our situation so don't assume

I’m sorry but I would be making new arrangements for childcare during your labour. She is putting many people at risk and is being extremely selfish.

If the mobile hairdresser is going to do the haircut outside in MIL’s garden, wearing gloves and with them both masked, then the risk is fairly minimal- although still against the rules.
And it’s reckless of MIL if she lives with someone who’s meant to be shielded. You would be best advised to avoid her for 14 days until you’re sure she’s not been infected.

@PecorinoPear

Not much other option for us locally im afraid. We've been as strict as we can at home, and we've even been delivering her shopping contact free to try and reduce risk to dbil so shes not also in lidl. Which all seems like a farce now!

I definitely wouldn’t call her out on it. I doubt it’ll change her mind and she’ll probably just think you’re a dick (no one likes being pulled up on things, even if they’re in the wrong)

My sister has had her haircut in her house .
I think she’s an idiot but what’s the point in saying anything about it

Several of my friends are seeing their hairdressers again now.

It’s nothing to do with you whether she has her hair done or not, all you can control is your own actions and whether you see her or not. Your MILs actions might not be sensible, but that’s down to her and the people she lives with. You cant expect her to revolve her life around being your childcare.

Daft that you are meeting her in a park with your kids, and presumably your DH at the very least which is completely against all the rules, but you are ‘outraged’ she’s breaking a different rule 🙄

Where are you? UK hairdressers are banned from working atm.

Friend of mine has been to her hairdresser, a ‘celebrity’ salon in Fulham. She admitted they opened illegally, it’s on the second floor of a building, so no one can see in.
I presume they’re doing the same for many wealthy clients.

I could hear unusual activity going on next door a few weeks ago, they are regular door slammers as a rule, but this was quite late & continuous. Next morning the nurse, YES THE FUCKING NURSE, had got a new do! Although at least I no longer have to keep looking at her bastard roots.