Aibu to be annoyed about a trip to the hair dressers?

[Covidkate]

Im sure i cant be the only one noticing people around them getting haircuts?
Ive accidentally synced my phone to my dmil imessaging account (as she signed up using my email when i helped her set up) and discovered that shes booked a hair cut for tomorrow.

She lives with my dbil who is on the official shielding list and is sheilding. She is also a cleaner for elderly retirement flats thing(who has lost 2 clients to covid!)

We were planning on meeting in a park thurs for her birthday, how she thought i wouldnt notice i dont know. Im not really worried for my or my kids safety from her (as will follow social distancing) but am completly outraged! Im later stages of pregnancy so am annoyed shes taking risks when shes our childcare if im in labour so will probably call it off. Half of me whats to go so i can ask why her hair is suddenly permed!

Aibu to call her out on her new cut?

Think you will have to have your DH being childcare when you go into labour. That is what many women are having to do at the moment.

People keep missing on our village Facebook if any hairdressers are willing to break the rules. It’s stupid and dangerous, it’s not like we can go out anywhere special.

This is why there is going to be a second spike in cases soon. Fucking idiots

@CurtainWitcher I've been mixing with people everyday at work who aren't part of my household, Does working throughout all this make me a dick?

So she is regularly working as a cleaner in a place where they have lost people to Covid? But that was OK with you. It’s a one off home hair appointment that has got you frothing?

One activity is within the rules and one isn’t, but whether something is allowed or not has very little to do with the level of risk involved.

This will cause a huge family row and will make no difference as she’ll still have it cut. She may be having a quick tidy up in the garden so I think you should let it lie.

@tigerbear

Friend of mine has been to her hairdresser, a ‘celebrity’ salon in Fulham. She admitted they opened illegally, it’s on the second floor of a building, so no one can see in. I presume they’re doing the same for many wealthy clients.

Does it begin with a G by any chance? If so then I know a few people they've opened for!

Are you sure it’s not the a text for a previously booked appointment. I got one form my hairdresser but they are closed

One of my team leaders at work always has her nails done, very obviously professionally. l mentioned it to her when the lockdown started, and she said "l know, l don't know what l'm going to do!"
However. l've noticed over the past few weeks she's had 'fresh' nails every week. Again, clearly professionally done, nail art, etc.
l'd imagine that's even worse than having your hair done. You're sitting so close, facing each other, for a good hour.

1. Unsync your phone. That's bloody awful.

1. How are you going to mention that you know? wait until you meet up and "oh your hair looks nice, have you had it done?" or own up that you're snooping on her messages that she probably doesn't know you can see and tell her it's off?

Ive accidentally synced my phone to my dmil imessaging account

Have you unsynched it? Or are you continuing to spy on her by reading her messages?

The post clearly says its unsynched

I have a home hair dresser but havent seen her since 1st March. My hair looks awful right now and feels so dry . In going to get one of those spray touch up things this evening to at least try and cover the greys.
Hairdressers arent allowed to work where I am until the end of July, and that's provided all goes to plan and there are no set backs with the virus

the OP says on her second post she has desyncd

It was just going to be and her in the park. Ive been taking shielding precautions as im furloughed then mat leave anyway so not leaving the house.

Ive been starting to go for walks this week (hip pain so been told that walking can help).

Like most people dh and mil havent had the option as key workers to stay at home (even if others are shielding).

We've been a bit stuck around what to do for labour as ive previously had complicated births so have to have a planned csection but will be in for monitoring afterwards. My mum was shielding so she would come to join our house hold but unfortunately my grandparents need support so she cant come up for the birth anymore

Hence i was meeting mil to discuss how we might work it around having childcare for the birth.

We were hoping with the combination of leave etc that mil could isolate from work then come help, but also with the realistic possiblity i might not make it to the planned date.

We were meeting because theres so much logistics to sort, ie if im in hospital for the planned week can dh then is unlikely to be able to leave at all to see me and baby? Or even bring me new clothes etc.

Trust me we have been following it to the letter hence why im so annoyed that this could jepodise all that.

Id prefer the thread not be taken over by the complications around birth stuff because frankly im having to talk about it constantly (including with consultants etc) so its not being taken lightly

As i said up thread
Phone is unsynced. I let her know they were briefly synced

She’s an adult and made her decision, it’s not up to you to tell her what she can or cannot do.
However what you can decide is what you are going to do, so do you still want her to care for your child when you go into Labour.
Just try and take the emotions out of the situation and decide on the best course of action with the facts you have. Makes life much less stressful.

@MaudG I’m not sure, she didn’t say the name, only that this hairdresser is best friends with a very downmarket ‘celeb’

Sorry, OP, you did say you’ve unsynched your phone.

But you really shouldn’t have read her messages. That wasn’t accidental.

What you read is like “privileged information”, and you can’t do anything about it because you were wrong to read her private messages in the first place.

With this new test and trace it will be interesting to see what happens if any of these hairdressers get ill and have to give out a list of all their recent clients.

You said you were meeting for her birthday, and now to discuss childcare. You also said that you were not worried about your children as they will social distance, implying they will be at the birthday / childcare discussion.

[quote userxx]@CurtainWitcher I've been mixing with people everyday at work who aren't part of my household, Does working throughout all this make me a dick? [/quote]
Work isn’t a choice. No one needs their nails doing.

But then I’m a nurse so having nice nails is not part of my life.

I know a carer who just had her hair bleached by someone. She also has people round her house everyday so her children can play. She posts it all on fb so obviously doesn’t care who knows.

perhaps she has a recurring appointment? but actually it is cancelled.

Irritates me when others say mind your own business. For track and trace to be effective, the infection rate needs to be low and without an effective track and trace, a second wave will no doubt soon arrive hence more loss of jobs, deaths and lockdown isolation.