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AIBU?

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Original poster

Is it i just me, or would you be annoyed.

86 replies

Radley · 20/09/2007 18:04

DH went out at 4pm saying that he was going to do a bit of shopping.

I have just phoned him as the kids were wanting him, they've hardly seen him this week due to him working.

He has done NO shopping yet and got the taxi straight to the pub. IMO he had no intention going shopping.

AIBU to be royally pissed off, when I can't leave the kids for 10 mins without getting a text asking me how long i'll be etc.

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Wisteria · 20/09/2007 18:06

YANBU - I would be livid...

Dior · 20/09/2007 18:07

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LadyOfWaffle · 20/09/2007 18:07

Livid wouldn't be the word, I would be very "annoyed".

Weegle · 20/09/2007 18:07

ditto, would be fuming

Dior · 20/09/2007 18:08

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fawkeoff · 20/09/2007 18:10

cheeky fecker revenge is a bastard...bide ur time hun and sting the fecker in the arse

hertsnessex · 20/09/2007 18:11

what an a*hole. rather see the pub than his kids.........hmmmmmmm.

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Radley · 20/09/2007 18:11

No idea when he will be home now, when the kids realised ( they heard the conversation) they both sighed etc, I hung up whilst he was talking to me mid-sentence, otherwise I would have said something I shouldnt. alas its a common occurance him disappearing to the pub/bookies.

I'm not well,been off work and in bed all day and to me this just shows a lack of respect/consideration for me.

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Radley · 20/09/2007 18:14

I've just sent him this text

Hope you have your keys. Don't give me that 'I WON'T BE HOME LATE' bullshit. You can't even got 'shopping' without lying.

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fawkeoff · 20/09/2007 18:15

what an effin todge bag i take it back, don't bide your time for revenge....lock the boody doors and let him kip on the doorstep

fawkeoff · 20/09/2007 18:16

and put yer keys in the back of the door

hertsnessex · 20/09/2007 18:18

this is so nasty of him, honestly, and especially as you are not well. id go mental - time for a big change in him or you have to take drastic action.

PSCMUM · 20/09/2007 18:23

god what a total shit face! i would definetley change the locks while he was out, barracade the door, and make him sleep in the street. I mighjt also throw a bucket of cold water over him just as he had got comfy on the doorstep. outrageous...is this normal? if yes, you need to seriously think about dumping him - is this a good role model for your kids? you need someone to give you a bit of tlc, and the kids need to see you being respected, and they themselves need to feel respected - not like they are second best to the pub. what a total total nob. hope you feel better.

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Radley · 20/09/2007 18:26

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Radley · 20/09/2007 18:27

His excuse for going to the pub is most likely to 'get dd2's coat' she left it there on Monday when I popped in to collect a book.

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fawkeoff · 20/09/2007 18:27

i would seriously be livid with him....what pib is he in???? get a bloody taxi and hunt the fecker down and embarass him in front of everyone in there

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Radley · 20/09/2007 18:29

He wouldn't give a monkeys if I did that, all his mates are there and they would laugh at me/him. If anything it would make him even cockier iykwim.

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fawkeoff · 20/09/2007 18:31

bet they wouldn't laff if you dropped the kids off and fucked off very gracefully without a peep

lornaloo · 20/09/2007 18:34

My dad always used to do that. He'd say he was going to get fags then return home 3 hours later drunk. He used to do it when he was ment to be looking after us if my mum went out. he'd always make an excuse to leave the house and go to the pub. My dads an alcaholic thats why he did it. My parents are now divorsed.

mummypig · 20/09/2007 18:40

You are most certainly not being unreasonable...

...especially as you have been ill - shows no compassion or understanding of your situation. Next time he comes home at a reasonable time, walk straight out of the door and go and have some time to yourself. Preferably on a Friday or Saturday when you don't have to deal with getting the kids up and to school if they have been to bed late the night before. You can even warn the kids you are going to do it, they would probably take your side.

sparklesandwine · 20/09/2007 18:40

YANBU i'd be pissed off too - next time you are both at home just go out and leave him all day go round your mates house or something anything and don't reply to his texts either (i've done that to DP as he has done exactly the same as your DH before! feckers)

hertsnessex · 20/09/2007 18:41

his mates think this is funny.....different mates needed, a kick up the arse, explain what having responsibilites mean and lock the door.

Spandex · 20/09/2007 18:44

I'd be raging.

In fact, I would pack up the kids, dog and budgie and move to my mother's and go on full strike until he pledged to buck up his ideas. I'm serious.

What a clown he is. Sorry, but he really sounds like a pillock.

lou33 · 20/09/2007 18:52

exh did this all the time

i left him

PSCMUM · 20/09/2007 19:19

lou33 i like your style.